Can you easily given up your love?

United States
July 15, 2010 4:27am CST
Maybe it is not so easy to giving up your love once you had toward somebody. What if that person no longer love you or even like you? What if that person trying to avoid you. Would you someday, after many attempts of failure, giving it up eventually? It is painful, but it will be the natural process to go through. Maybe love is mutual, and one side wasn't working out, the other side should let it go. What do you think of that? Oh, how long would it take to ease yourself from this painful process once you knew it wasn't working out?
17 responses
@sirrob (4108)
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
I always hold on with it until such time that I can no longer see any light at the end of the tunnel. But as for how long should I hold on, that just depends on how I am able to cope up with the break up. Most of the time, it took me for awhile, a long while to forget and move on and find a new one. Then the cycle goes over again.
• United States
16 Jul 10
Well, when you know it is time to go, it is time to go. I would not make any excuse to linger on it anymore. It is just not right. I don't want to waste my time and any of it. It is time to go.
@jose431 (164)
• India
4 Aug 10
ya,it is true whatever you said,but when we are deep love we never thinks that he/she will leave us alone.The word love seems to be simple but it has got deep meaning.when our lover betray us only that time we realizes that love is short period of time.It is not right to give your love very easily.Take a time to think when somebody falls love with you....
• Philippines
16 Jul 10
don't be selfish..open your mind and hearts to think correctly..for me after many attempts to get him back, i will give up already..at least i know that i try..but what is worth of your effort of the other side did not work it out or neglected you already.. it hurts to lost someone you love or to let it go but the most painful is that when you love someone and then you know that he love someone else ..
@rose005 (254)
• India
28 Jul 10
Though it is very hard to give up my love there is no point hanging on him only when he avoids me. Its really shameful to we girls that when we keep on going after him.
@will_win (222)
• India
29 Jul 10
Its hard to give up at once but slowly it will forgot,we have to be brave and give advise to our-self that person no longer loves you.You just let him go and forgive him.Just think its our faith..........no matter what will happen in our life ........ somewhere,someone finds you and your presence.........when you feel lonely,remember its true that somewhere,someone is there for you...........
@jose431 (164)
• India
29 Jul 10
It is not easy to give up my love once I have share my feeling towards him.But if really he don't want be with me and ask for break up,I can do it.It was happened to me last week,when my bf went with my best friend I give up,It will take only one or two week to forget, if you have got positive thinking.We should always think one go thousands to come.
• United States
16 Jul 10
It's hard to forget someone you love. If you really fall for that person then it will take even more time to get over her/him. But I think you can move on. It just take some time. And that time depend on you and how much you love that person. It helps though, if you can find someone else. And soon feeling with fade away. Just need space and time. If the person doesn't love you anymore, you have to let go. It's best to let go and move on. There are many fish in the sea.
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
16 Jul 10
I have been in the same situation when you keep on loving the person who slowly is trying to break up with you. You can actually feel that she is no longer loving you the way it was supposed to be. The pain is unbearable at most times but definitely the hurt will lessen and one day you will be able to forget. It's not an easy process but everybody can eventually come out of it.
• China
16 Jul 10
It depends for me.I am warm-hearted if my BF loves me from his heart,but I will be cold-blooded if he betray me,and I think I will shift my affection to other persons if I know he has betrayed me.At that time, I will be so cruel that I forget him in a short time and find a new love.But all jokin' aside,I can not give up my true love easily if we have a deep affection no matter what happen around.
@cheszka (167)
• Philippines
16 Jul 10
It's hard to give up the one you truly love, especially if you've been with that person for so long. But if you feel that he/she is no longer in love with you, then you know that it's time to let go...no matter how painful it is. Moving on is a difficult process, sometimes it takes months or years to heal the pain. Whatever happens, try to stay positive, getting involved in new activities, meeting new friends or keeping yourself busy are some of the proven ways that could lift spirits up, thus making you stay confident and positive.
16 Jul 10
the truth hurts but what else can we do when love is not there and specially he says no more its painful we already there but you think its worth staying with that pain. its enough. there's no such thing about avoiding think why he should avoid you if he loves you because of pride that is stupidity if the person says they don't like you perhaps working it out impossible or maybe possible but are you sure you want to take that risk think many times. you already know that from yourself within.
• United States
16 Jul 10
I think its hard to make up with a girl but i ll try wery hard to get her i would realy fiv it a hapord chance to get that girl i would realy realize that girl that how much i luv her i would realy try hard...
• Philippines
16 Jul 10
when somebody you loved would no longer like you or been avoiding you, then its time to let him/her go. When you loved someone you have to set him/her free no matter how painful it is. It takes time to heal the wounds in your heart, but surely it will be healed. Someday, somebody will come into your life that would truly love you.
• United States
16 Jul 10
It is so hard to do that. I ended a relationship almost 2 months ago and I was miserable at first and then I thought of how bad a bf he was. Honestly, I still love him, but I will get over him. I deserve better than him and it was his loss when he left my life. It isn't my loss. I am making it thru.
@kheigh (215)
15 Jul 10
i think it's hard to give up but it's better to do it. and if you just give some space between yourself and the other person, i think that you would eventually get over that love and move on. time and space. i think it works best.
@abin1287 (114)
• India
15 Jul 10
well...if a partner is showing signs like those...like if he does not care for you anymore....or even says..that this relationship is not going to work out...or he needs a break up...but you love that person a lot..then I think you should leave that person...how so ever you love him...because it will eventually hurt you ...if he is not reciprocating your feelings.. Yes..you should try in the start...to make him come back...but if everything fails...then it is better to leave it...then and there.. It will hurt for sometime...but eventually everything would be fine.. and you would even feel thankful for that person for giving you the signs or telling you frankly that this relationship is not working.. the time it will take to come out of it depends on ...how much you were involved with that person.. but it is for sure that it is not impossible to come out ....however difficult it may seem in the beginning. this is what I feel..........but things may vary from person to person.. So..I would just say....follow what your mind says... and be happy...!!
• Portugal
15 Jul 10
well that happened to me :( me and my best friend. i loved him i thought he loved me too bcs some attitudes he had but then i saw he didnt. he started to ignore me and dont care for how i would feel with his attitudes you know. so i gave up of him bcs i was humiliated bcs of him for many times, i got sad and cried bcs of him many times he knew it and still didnt care at all so i had to give up. still hurts me the way he act to me bcs i always been so sweet and caring to him but i had to :( is not easy and i must say that sometimes im sad bcs what he did. but i wont talk with him again unless he talks with me first. bcs i didnt deserve what he did and if he really cares he would talk with me and not me looking for him.