reason rejected....what can you feel?..

Philippines
July 15, 2010 4:33am CST
being an employee your responsibility is to on work on time..pass your report in advance and most of all do your job well..but because we are only human it is natural for us to have an absences sometimes for a valid reason..we are not all the time we have a good health, sometime we got sick..even an engine got collapse for several works overtime, how much more to us? but it hurts when your boss scolded you because and shouted you in front of your office mate because you are absent, and the worst thing is your reason are to be rejected..i feel so bad and it hurts..is it right that my boss treating me that way? what can you say guys if you are in my situation? please give some advices to ease my pain i have right now..
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savypat
@savypat (20216)
• United States
15 Jul 10
Try to put yourself in his place. He must be under great stress to yell at you. You could also speak to him in private, don't do this while you are still upset, but when you have calmed down tell him how badly you feel about disapointing him and that it doesn't help for him to yell at you, especially in front of others. Non of this may work, but you will know you tried.
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Cherwin2010
@Cherwin2010 (878)
• Philippines
16 Jul 10
yes i will, in fact i decided to talk to him next week in addition to that is my resignation paper..but before i give it to him, despite of everything he does, i have to thank him for giving me opportunity to work in his company..and for trusting my ability and skills..and develop my knowledge in the field of worked..
saphrina
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
15 Jul 10
Sweetie, most bosses can be such a$$holes, but for him to reject the reason for being absent, is cruel. My boss tried shouting at me and he lost that little fight. I know you cannot do this, but i told hm to shove his job. I think you need to go to a doctor and get a certificate for being absent. No boss may ever reject that, they can get into very serious trouble. Oh, and uumm, tell your boss i said he is a a$$, okay. TATA.
Proud Dad of Twins :)
@primeaque86 (8108)
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
this is a nice idea my angel.... I miss you a lot.... hello cherwin, you wre gone when I arrived in the office....
Proud Dad of Twins :)
@primeaque86 (8108)
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
Yes... I guess you are just so far... I mean we are far apart.... but I want you to know one thing.... despite of that, I always feel you... Just beside me
saphrina
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
15 Jul 10
You always seem to be missing me for some reason, Prime.
Amber
@AmbiePam (92481)
• United States
18 Jul 10
Your boss was definitely in the wrong. Just remember you're a better person. And I know that might not make you feel better. But be assured that what goes around comes around. You keep being a good employee, and you'll be rewarded. Your boss on the other hand, will undoubtedly reap the bad benefits of being a jerk.
Cherwin2010
@Cherwin2010 (878)
• Philippines
19 Jul 10
and that's one thing they cannot see to their to their employer..that we are not only working in his company because of we need our salary but we work also for the best of our company..we need its other companion..we hae to work hard in order the company will stay long and also the company will pay us on time..without our effort our company will down..and without a company we are also nothing..
Patsie Hatley
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
16 Jul 10
hi cherwin I think your boss acted really stupidly and maybe he realized it and that made him even more nasty. No good boss even scolds an employee in front ot t he other employees. The next time if you stay with this nasty man is to bring a doctor's statement telling that you were indeed ill. I feel for you, that had to be most humiliating for you.
Patsie Hatley
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Jul 10
one thing I will say for my last ex boss, when she had a bone to pick with an employee she never bawled you out in front of others, we had to go to her office instead. of course everyone knew you were called on the carpet but they did not know why. lol. I did have one boss that was wonderful she knew each of us and she never humiliated anyone either. she had something to say she would just take us aside and tell us.We all missed her when she left to work in her own home town library. we got the boss from hell who was bi polar but would not take her prescription medications so she was up one day and down the next. one day she loved us all madly , we were the best staff ever, the next day she growledand we were all the most horrible staff she had ever had.
Cherwin2010
@Cherwin2010 (878)
• Philippines
16 Jul 10
thanks hat, atleast you feel what i have right now..maybe he realizing what he did, but because of being a boss and his pride he never let it to know us for his mistakes..and whenever he realized it, its too late the damage has been done already..what i have to do now is to move on and forget about it..and learn for my mistakes..
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edwardjoy2000
@edwardjoy2000 (2387)
• United Arab Emirates
15 Jul 10
when i was working i never used to mix my personal and professional life. When i come out of the office i leave the office stress and the tensions in office. i know how you are going through right now. I know how difficult it is to digest, but i would advise you to forget it. You boss will have his pressures and if the pressure comes from above its obvious that he will pass it to his lower level. So dont feel tensed...one who has seen such days will be able to handle greater pressures in life. So forget it and cheer up.
Cherwin2010
@Cherwin2010 (878)
• Philippines
16 Jul 10
all my life, i really worked hard in return for their salary they have given to me, and not all for that, i work hard in order to let them know that he will never regret to hire me in his company..all i want is to work hard for our company sake..i came to my job early in the morning and i always have an overtime to make sure that everything is finish for that day and proceed for another work for the next day..i never wasted my time while office hour..but sad to see they are blind to see it..instead they see my little mistakes out all the good i have done for the company..
kevin04021101
@kevin04021101 (2)
• China
15 Jul 10
I have no idea for that, I am sorry,just get here to share your sorrow.Sometimes I meet the same situation,I know I must do well to get my digity or I will go another company.wish you a good day~
Cherwin2010
@Cherwin2010 (878)
• Philippines
16 Jul 10
thanks for your sympathy..my length of services in our company is not easy..my loyalty is with them and always to them..that is why i always remain to our company for 10 years even i received some referrals of my friends to work of other companies with a high rate, it is because i have my loyalty of our company and concerned of it..but my services i offered to them with all my life as been vanish because of one mistakes..and its really hurts to realized about that...
sid556
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
15 Jul 10
Hi Cherwin, I don't know your abentee record or why you were out that prompted the boss to get irate with you. I do know that regardless of the situation you are a human being and deserve to be treated with respect. No matter what you did...you did not deserve to be shouted at! If your boss felt the need to reprimand you then he should have called you into the office and spoken to you in a calm and respectful way and also given you the chance to speak in your defense. And that should have been the end of it. He should not be treating you poorly on the job.
Cherwin2010
@Cherwin2010 (878)
• Philippines
16 Jul 10
yes you've got a point there..that's why i felt self pity right now..pity for myself thinking regarding those situation..sometimes i feel like i am not worthy to work in our company..asking for myself and think if i am still an asset of a company or an expenses already?..myself-confidence has been vanish..and i am lost my job inspiration..
Proud Dad of Twins :)
@primeaque86 (8108)
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
oh, this is indeed as sad story for employees having this strict bosses cherwin my friend.... But despite of this we have all the rights to let them know our reasons.... and as long as that we are sure we are doing the right thing we have nothing to worry... God bless and more power!
Cherwin2010
@Cherwin2010 (878)
• Philippines
16 Jul 10
well, i have to adjust and accept it what i have right now in order to move on and forget it all in order make good relationship to our boss..i only think it that just part of our job, and even i can its unfair, but it happened already we cannot already change it, the damage has been done..i have to be strong with this situation i have..well thanks for your concern..God Bless..
adel09
@adel09 (490)
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
No. Even he is your boss. Everybody has the rights to be treated professionally. Is he professional in acting like that to his staff? Maybe, by profession, but not the way he treated you.
Cherwin2010
@Cherwin2010 (878)
• Philippines
16 Jul 10
your right..even you pay your employee but it does'nt mean that in addition to that you can scold them or shout them what ever you want without even think about the feelings of it..we are only human and easily get hurt..even a dog they are afraid when you shout them..how much more me..
masmelgar
@masmelgar (98)
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
Maybe your boss is frustrated with regards to your attendance. Your boss might be relying heavily on you that your reasons may not count at all. Start anew. Lessen those absences. If you feel like getting down with a flu, still go to work. Your office must have medicines. Show your boss that you are turning on a new leaf. Get back your boss' trust. It may not be the same but give back to the company what they hired you in the first place.
Cherwin2010
@Cherwin2010 (878)
• Philippines
16 Jul 10
maybe he scolded me that way, to know other employee not to get absent every time..because my co-employee are having been absent always and i don't know why he cannot say something to them..instead he tells his feelings to other person and he releases his angry feeling to other employee..i don't know what he is afraid for..but he easily get angry to an ordinary employee which he knows that what ever happened, whatever he do is still their fro the company because of needed to have job..poor people..