Most of my crushes have "tendencies". Could there be something wrong with me?

Philippines
July 15, 2010 6:50am CST
Ever since, especially when I was still in college, my crushes would be identified or tagged as 'girlish' by my 'girly' classmate. I'd believe him because as they say "It takes one to know one", right? Whether celebrity or a schoolmate, my choices would have a common denominator - they have the 'tendency' to be of the female orientation. My classmates and friends would always notice that. Because of that, I would wonder "what's wrong with me?" It always turns out that way and I would just feel disappointed and dismayed.
4 responses
@eLsMarie (4345)
• Philippines
16 Jul 10
Actually, I think that there's nothing wrong with you. I have a crush too who I considered acts in a feminine way. He's a real guy, the only thing about him that distracts me sometimes was that he moves like a girl. I think it's okay unless if he wears skirts, make ups, and all the girly thing.
@eLsMarie (4345)
• Philippines
20 Jul 10
Me too. I can say that he's really a real guy the only thing that differs him from the others is because he moves like a lady.
• Philippines
17 Jul 10
Yeah, you're right. When I'd see him being more beautiful than me, then no doubt my feelings will go away in an instant. Hahaha!
@jerikjames (1041)
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
That also happens to my friend! lol. Most of her crushes are ok just to use the term 'girly'. This is consistent. She never had a crush who's 'manly'. That why whenever she has a crush, we already know that he's 'girly'. lol. =)
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
So how does your friend feel after realizing that her crush is not the 'manly' type?
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
She gets sad. lol. She's like, 'why does this always happen to me?'
@sirrob (4108)
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
You have only repeatedly mentioned that they have the tendency to be girlish but there was no mention that they turned out to be as such. Did they really became the other gender or it is just still that they are not. Could be that it's just their way or what they really are but they're not.
• Portugal
15 Jul 10
ahah its ok if the boys you liked were girlish what can you do? is just when we like we cant choose right? also its ok maybe they are more emotional and understand and love you better than those manly guys. about my experience those manly guys always act like careless you know you care so much for them and for them is like they dont care that much and maybe with those "girly" guys is different. maybe they are more sweet and can be better lovers ^^ so dont worry about it. each person likes different things so accept it and live happy with it^^