its love or friendship...

hi, Welcome to mylot. I think one or both of the people are geting them wrong. When its a friendship. Both should be clear about their friendsip,if they feel in love they should talk to each other on that topic,so no one can get hurt. Otherwise they can hurt each others feelings. And they wil lose friendship. Discussing things are far MOre better than keeping it to your self. Take care

It's so difficult to associate friendship with love. I know it's a nice feeling, but sometimes we're not aware that what we thought is love is somewhat just a feeling of infatuation... Of course we can't prevent that from happening. One way or the other love would come between two people, even friends or best friends. I agree that this is something to be talked about and if they think they're really inlove with each other, then they better be sure about it. It's true that a lot of friendship has been ruined because of the wrong perception of being inlove..it's really easy to say and feel love for your friend, but you have to think, is it just a friendly kind of love or the love wherein you'd want to be with that person for the rest of your life?

Friendship is a good relationship. In fact i guess it's the only relationship without a relationship. Given this chance many would look forward to getting as many friends as possible. While doing so one might accidentally discover that one has particular feelings and an unknown feeling for a particular person in the circle of friends. Doing so one may find it difficult to realize whether is this really love or maybe it's just too much caring. Depending upon the thinking and mindset of persons the people think and if they both find out that they really have feelings for one another then one should express oneself. It would be better and much easier. However one should be careful about one side love. Friendship and love are not two different things. I believe they are one and same. If you were not someone's friend then i guess you won't love that person. Most love stories start with friendship only. And that could be the beginning o a very long journey.

Loving each other is not a fault as far the feeling is real but the way they express it that might be wrong. Friendship is such a nice feeling and the love that comes through the path of friendship is more successful is guess. But I also saw some relationship that is neither friendship nor love. This is the worst part. I don't like duel character. When they behave like this they are simply not trustworthy to each other as they can't fulfill the criteria of either friendship or love. I think it's best to decide first and be confident actually how you want to treat him/her, what is their role of your life. They people are not that much serious, respectful, sincere to their relationship such things happen. That's so bad. So maintain such relation is not wrong, you can love your friend at times if they are lovable and you really want him/her in your life but the way should be changed. You can't not ride two boat at a time right? If try so the result would be bad and you may fall anytime. So it's better to choose the right one that you want more.