HAve you ever turned your back from a friend?

yes i have turned my back. He was not my best friend but a good friend of mine. He had a gf who was my neighbor. They were in love. This girl had taken a quick decision, i had asked her to give some time and think over it but she didnt. This girl used to drink and smkoe a lot. The day they broke up this girl was acting crazy, she was drunk and didnt come home. She started calling the guy and was troubling him. he in turn called me and asked me to check if she was ok. I went and checked she was not at home and my wife was upset with this. A few days later she called him and said i am drunk and will jump from the terrace and again he called me and my wife was pretty upset as i was going to her house late in the night. The thirs time again after a few days he called and asked me to check if she was fine...but this time i said i will not do it and asked him to leave me alone.

I think I did, I once promised my friend I will come over and I never did till now. I need to apologize as soon as possible...

Yes I have, and for very good reason. It turned out the people in question were very hurtful. I felt badly about it at first, but realized after mulling over many incidents with these particular people, it was the best thing for me to do. I did what I could to work out our friendships but they did not seem to want to. Instead they turned things back on me and caused me a lot of emotional turmoil that was quite unnecessary. I used to be the type of person when told something about myself that may need change, I would work on it. However, when people are throwing invalid things around to make you look and feel bad, rather than being constructive to help, they need to go. They are only doing more damage. When you are afraid of their reaction if you tell them something they may need to work on, it is not a good and healthy relationship. I have learned to be very careful in who I confide in and who I spend time with. There are people in my life currently who are good people at heart, but if they were to find out some weakness of mine they would use it in the future if we had a falling out. There are very few people I trust now, and it is a good thing because of past experience I do not need those incidents repeated.

I have turned back because of personal reasons and rejection. It really feels aggravating at first because you would always want to hang it with your friends, but I guess we should learn how to control it. I guess I'll have to move on. But in case we'll ever meet, I'll just greet them with a lively hello. But if the world really wants us be friends, then the world will give you the signs.