I am not here for YOUR convenience.
By Amber
@AmbiePam (92794)
United States
July 15, 2010 4:03pm CST
I had to bite the bullet and venture into the Walmart Supercenter today. I had peanut butter and pickles in my fridge - that was it. So I'm going down the vitamin aisle, and a very nicely dressed, short, middle aged lady points to me as I'm coming toward her. I kept walking, but she pointed at me again. I said, "Me?" She said, "Yes, you. I need you to get this." And she points at the top shelf where a product she wants is stacked. I picked it up for her, handed it to her, and she put it in her cart and left. She didn't say thanks or anything. So I'm looking down at myself, and in no way am I dressed like a Walmart employee, plus I'm carrying a rather large purse.
I'm 5'11, and this isn't the first time someone asked me to get something for them they couldn't reach. But never in my life have I had someone command me to get them something and then behave so rudely. I just thought that was the weirdest thing.
Any weird encounters you'd like to share?
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47 responses
@sagar21 (1579)
• India
16 Jul 10
So you always expect a "thank you.." for your deeds...
If I help someone I'm doing it for ma pleasure and don't expect..such words as thank you..
and what did you do that much to get a thank...I'm not arguing..
so how can you judge that she was so rude..
some may ..and some may not or even forget to say...
thanks for sharing....
have a great day/night....
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@AmbiePam (92794)
• United States
17 Jul 10
You totally missed the point. She didn't ask me anything. She pointed at me. I'm walking down an aisle and a lady suddenly points at me. I have never had someone point at me to get my attention, and after I helped her she didn't look at me or anything. I found that weird and unusual, thus my discussion. You dude, have a problem.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
17 Jul 10
I agree with AmbiePam that you missed the true point of her discussion.
Scenario: A woman approaches AmbiePam and points at her, and keeps pointing at her before saying anything, as if she were a worker in a store, however, whether as a worker or not, the decent POLITE thing to do is to say "Excuse me, could you please help me?"
Then after AmbiePam helps the woman and gets the item for her and hands it to her, the woman walks away without so much as a Thank you
Sorry but the woman WAS rude...there ARE certain codes of conduct and ethics...if a person is asking for help and you oblige them, the least one can do is a plain simple thank you. It only takes a few seconds to say--like I said, it's called being polite and treating a person with kindness.
If this happened to me and someone treated me with such thoughtlessness and rudeness after helping out, I'd be tempted to take the item and shove it where the sun don't shine...LOL
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@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
15 Jul 10
There seems to be an epidemic of rude people around these days. Sorry you had to meet one of them. Shame you could not have got the item back out of her cart and put it back on a top shelf.
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@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
16 Jul 10
How rude of her! I hope you wished her some bad thoughts,
at least.
Anyway, my weird Walmart experience goes like this.
Once upon a time, about a decade ago, I was in the
Walmart and a woman struck up a conversation with me
and we were in the middle of a perfectly nice talk when she
startled suddenly and said, 'Oh! I thought you worked here.
Never mind." And, then she walked off with her cart.
Go figure! I just thought we were having a conversation.
It's not like i was looking to make a friend.
But, I'm the kind of person who will actually talk
to a stranger in a store, assuming they don't look
dangerous.
I had no idea she thought i was a Walmart employee.
Also, what was the big deal? I would think she would
want to talk to a Walmart employee less than another customer.
But, who knows, what goes through these people's minds.
Later, some guy asked me for help in finding something in the craft
department. Felt weird to be so popular at the Walmart.
Anyway, later I went home and was wondering why everyone
was acting as if i was an employee at the Walmart and realized
that my cute green vest might be mistaken for a Walmart uniform.
Now, keep in mind, Walmart employee uniforms were blue vests
at the time. So there should have been no reason for anyone
to think i worked there. But, who knows. Maybe Walmart customers
are rude as well as color blind.
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
15 Jul 10
That was very rude, you didn't say anything like "You'r Welcome!!!" as she moved away??? I may or may not have, depending on my mood..
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
15 Jul 10
"quirky"? I still call it rude..If I was with you, I would have said it..lol
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
16 Jul 10
hi carm and ambie I have a friend here who when he helps a resident
and they do not even bother saying thanks , he goes"OH you are indeed
so very welcome" in a sarcastic voice. He has made several women here
turn red and mumble " thanks." I have never quite got the guts to do
that but he was perfect at it.
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
15 Jul 10
That's Walmart for you. Last week we went to a town about an hour away to go to the beach and visit a relative, on the way home hubby decides to stop at the Walmart out there. All we needed was a drink and we were broke otherwise so I asked why did we have to go to Walmart.. why not just stop at a gas station for the drinks and move on. He said he wanted to test a theory.. to see if all Walmarts everywhere had the same kind of people. We managed to get out without much drama, but it did seem as if they were the same sort of people, lol.
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
15 Jul 10
Oh gosh I have constant issues at my Walmart, almost everytime I walk in there.. but I can't avoid it either.. feeding 7 people is expensive so I have to go where the prices are lowest.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
15 Jul 10
Wal Mart Employee's seem to be mistreated. My husband used to work there, and it was hell on him. Big boss comes down on the bosses of the store, who in turn come down on the employees, hard.
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@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
15 Jul 10
OMG how rude is that. I think I would have said to her "Your Welcome" real loud just to teach her about manners. If anyone has ever asked me for help in a store they have always been very polite. Even if she thought you worked there she should have been nice to the employee too. I tell you manners and kindness have gone out the window. I'm shocked that a middle age female would act this way.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
16 Jul 10
LOL--we must be on the same wavelength...when I help someone and they don't even bother to say a thank you, as they walk away I say "Your welcomed"....
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@sacmom (14192)
• United States
16 Jul 10
Well, that was rather rude of her.
I'm not quite as tall as you (about 5'8"), but I have gotten the occasional person asking me to get something that was out of their reach. They usually ask, and I'm willing to help if I can, although there was this one time that the person didn't ask, so I didn't bother to help. It was an elderly woman who, instead of asking, hinted around instead. Well, I didn't know that she wanted me to help her get an item that was too heavy for her to get herself and I just smiled at her instead. As I was walking away I looked back and saw someone else help her. It was at that point that I realized what she had wanted. I felt a little foolish for not figuring it out sooner. Although this elderly woman could have come right out and asked me, she was probably too embarrassed to ask for help.
As for any rude encounters, the only one I can think of was when someone wanted to get ahead of me in line. It was a middle aged lady, who didn't bother to ask, but spoke matter of fact like. And she spoke fast with an Asian accent too, so it was hard to understand what she said. By the time I realized it she was ahead of me getting her item scanned. She never even waited for an answer. The cashier saw all this and after this woman left we had a good laugh about it.
I guess some people need to be reminded to say thank you. Next time something like this happens be sure to say "you're welcome" loud enough so that they are sure to hear it. Who knows, you just might get a "thank you" out of it. LOL
Happy mylotting!
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@sacmom (14192)
• United States
16 Jul 10
Oh, I just remember one that happened recently. This time it happened at Wal-Mart. I had been with my oldest at the time. Anyway, I had some items in my basket along with an item that my son was holding. After everything in the basket had been rung up and paid for I remembered about my son's item in his hands. I had forgotten to get it scanned! I told the cashier and he acted like it was a big deal, that is was too late and I'd have to get back in line. I don't know how it could be too late as I didn't even leave the check stand yet! However, I stood my ground and got my son's item paid for. I was so mad! I didn't care if there were other costumers behind me. I wasn't about to let this guy bully me around.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
16 Jul 10
It's unfortunate but one can bump into rude people anywhere. I often help someone too in a store, like one time it was this elderly woman that needed something on the bottom shelf and she couldn't bend down to get it, so I got the item for her..but she was the most polite thing going and kept thanking me. I often get rude people who don't thank me for something else though. Say I'm opening the door of a store...FOR ME, the person right behind me walks in first...like hey, I'm not a doorman! When that happens I say "Your welcomed"---of course the person then just gives me a nasty look
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@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
16 Jul 10
You know it happened to me too. I opened the door because there was an elderly women that was very thin so I helped her out and to my dismay I was mistakenly as the door woman, I was holding the door for everyone that was passing through and some of the people were bumping that old women and they don't care at all. Not even a slight word of sorry was heard.
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@tjburcham (690)
• United States
16 Jul 10
That has happened to me and I also have made the mistake of thinking someone was an employee. I don't recall being dismissed in such a manner, I know that I always thank someone for their help. Could be the lady realized her mistake and was embarrassed by it. (or not)
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@rebelann (112875)
• El Paso, Texas
10 Apr 20
Still, even if she did realize her mistake it's not an excuse for being rude, I'd say thank you to a staff member as well, there's no reason not to be polite.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
15 Jul 10
hi ambiepam that was a bit rude on her part. I had an experience that made me smile. this really elegantly dressed silver haired man
asked me what aisle the rolledoats were. I blinked and asked,
what are rolledoats. all in one word. He laughed then said
rolled oats, or what you yanks call oatmeal. So informed I
took him by the elbow and walked him to the cereal aisle where'he found quaker oats by the threes. I guessed he really liked his rolled oats.
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@blackbriar (9076)
• United States
16 Jul 10
LMAO Now THAT is funny, Hatley. Thank you so much for sharing this. I'm still laughing here.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
16 Jul 10
no weird encounters at stores, but i do believe id have said rather loudly "well your welcome. at least i know how to thank someone"...even if it was at her back. here at home lately my sons gf is visiting again and quite a few rude encounters have went on . she started it so i continue it
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
16 Jul 10
Hi Amber! I know you are probably going to be upset so I am sorry
in advance, but this is the second time this week that I have
pictured a mylot friend totally wrong! No offense, the last
time I was really wrong in every way, but at least I had myklj
for company! (Long story) But, my sweet lil' sis, I didn't quite
picture you as being tall! I thought you were little like me!
I'm not even 5'4" anymore (at least that's what the last stupid
nurse who measured me said, I lost a 1/2") Will check again
next week when I go to my doc to see! Anway, I know what you
look like from your beautiful picture, but you didn't look that
tall! Back to the that obnoxious, rude woman in Walmart! I
think that store brings out the "weird" in some people! I
personally have fun when I go! I get all kinds of surprises
when I get to the registers because things are sometimes even
cheaper than they're marked! I find the employees, if you can
find any are rude! The don't want to be bothered helping you
and if you ask them where something is they point you in the
total wrong direction!
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@AmbiePam (92794)
• United States
16 Jul 10
Well, I may someday come down to your height. My doctor said I've shrunk 3/4 of an inch because of my neck and back injury. The space between a couple of my discs where there is supposed to be a cushion, is gone, so it is bone on bone. So who knows? I may be 5'4 in about ten years. ; ) My license still says 6 ft. though (DMV guy rounded 5'11 3/4 up).
My sister is 5'6 thought. We laugh at her because she gets made when someone refutes her claim of being taller than that.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
16 Jul 10
Quite rude wasn’t she? My husband, daughter and I went late night shopping last night because I was looking for a new pair of boots. My daughter has a heavy cough at the moment which our doctor is looking into, it’s something she gets every now and again for a week or so and it is not contagious but annoying. We entered a shoe store we had never visited before and as we began to browse my daughter had a coughing fit and the sales assistant turned around and said, “Does she have a cold? Don’t you spread germs around here I’ve already had a bad cold, put your hand in front of your mouth!” My husband and I stood there a bit stunned and told our daughter to cover her mouth which is something we tell her to do all the time but being the kid that she is she sometimes forgets. I felt this woman was very rude to us being her customers and if it wasn’t that I spotted the nicest pair of leather knee high boots for a bargain price I would have walked out immediately. I don’t know whether some people have an abrupt nature and don’t realise how they come across or whether they are just plain rude although in your case there is no excuse for a simple please and thank you!
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@miranda104 (9)
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16 Jul 10
Another small person here, and I regularly have to ask someone to pass down an item from a high shelf or reach into the bottom of the freezer. But I am always polite and friendly, and try to do small good turns in return ... even tho' they may be for other people.
I must admit that I too, respond with 'you're welcome' if some one doesn't at least smile when I hold the door for them, or some other such small politeness. It often only garners a blank look.
When I hand an item to someone, I don't let go until they say thank you. I started this with my kids and found it works very well.
With an adult I often find it raises a smile and works better than a rebuke to remind them of their manners!
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@blackbriar (9076)
• United States
16 Jul 10
Hey girl!!
What's wrong with pickles dipped in pb? I hear it's pretty tasty. -grinning-
Anyhoot..As helpful as I like to be with anyone, I certainly wouldn't accept her outright rudeness and got that item for her. Last and only time someone said (not asked) to get something off the top shelf for them, I turned to him and said "Where's your manners?" I don't help ppl with no manners. He turned with a huff and walked away. Few min. later he comes back, I'm still there cause I was reading labels. He ASKED me "Would you please get xxx item off the top shelf for me?" I turned to him with a genuine smile, got the item down for him and he said "Thank you!" with a smile on his face. A true smile, mind you. Told him "You are so very welcome!" and off he went with that smile still on his face. I made him think which is what my plan was. I HATE rude people. I'm always saying please and thank you. It's how I was brought up and am raising my daughter to do as well. Manners get you a LOT farther in this world than rudeness. I'm even like this with my own hubby if he is acting rude to me. He thinks twice and most times catches himself.lol
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@AmbiePam (92794)
• United States
16 Jul 10
I won't be eating peanut butter for a very long time. I get migraines, and in the last week I had one that wouldn't go away. I couldn't go anywhere, and like I said, I had peanut butter and pickles. To take the pain medication, I have to have it with food. So it was either pickles or peanut butter. I chose peanut butter. Well, my migraine got worse, and the peanut butter didn't visit my stomach very long. There are some very bad things to throw up, and peanut butter is at the top of the list. Sorry that is gross though.
@Yestheypayme2dothis (7874)
• United States
13 Aug 10
People abuse you when you least expect it. You have to be ready at all times. Next time tell the person you have a bad back and that they will have to go to the front of the store and order a Walmart worker to wait on them. And don't apologize.
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
16 Jul 10
I went to walmart to buy an electric razor. I found the one I wanted in a locked glass case. I asked a couple of wal-mart employees (who were stocking shelves) for help getting the case opened. They assured me someone would be along to help. No one came and I asked again, "Somebody Will be right along." they said. No one came! I went over to them again and very quietly said," If no one comes in the next 3 minutes,I am going to kick the glass door out of that cabinet, and when your supervisor comes to investigate I'll tell him you told me to do it!"
Well you never saw 2 people move so fast in your life. There was someone there almost immediately! I took the razor to the checkout and went home happy!
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@GardenGerty (160696)
• United States
16 Jul 10
A lot of people do not take responsibility for things that they can do. I find that rude as well. On the other hand, I know that Wal Mart is cutting back employees a lot, at least around here. I think if those two people value their job, they had best make themselves useful and provide customer service.
@lilybug (21107)
• United States
15 Jul 10
I am not exactly a tall person. I am about 5'5. I have had older people ask me to reach something for them before when I am not really any taller than they are. I don't recall where this happened, but it very well could have been a Walmart.
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@hvedra (1619)
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5 Aug 10
I'd have said "I need you to get some ******* manners first".
I did have one like that recently. A local sixth form college must have had an open day and a teen marched up to me and snapped "Where's the shop around here?" I happily directed her to the nearest shop. It's not my fault it's a florists...
What is it with folks today that they lack basic social skills?
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
15 Jul 10
Obviously a very impolite person indeed. Do what I do, in the future when you hand them the commanded item, as I am sure it is in your nature to be helpful, and as they walk away without any form of acknowledgment, say you are very welcome.
That will get them every time. Ha!
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@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
16 Jul 10
I feel those people will have to meet their match in the future.
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