Is it wrong for a mom to want to hang out with her 16 year old son all the tiem?

Another comment that puts a smile on my face. I will consider what he is going through. He does tend to hurt a lot. There are times I will find him hiding out in the back yard near the fence crying. The nice thing is, when I find him like that, he is able to talk to me. After talking, he reaches out to me for a hug. That is the warmest feeling a parent can have. It lets you know you did your job well at making your child feel better about himself. I will make sure he is well guided. Thank you for that. He will always know that I will always be here for him and that his mom will always love him even when his wings fly in another direction called finding his true love that he will marry. I will always be a phone call away if he needs a moment to feel his mother's love. The door to his mother's love will always remain open and never shut. I will always be there for him now help guide him, prepare him to become a well composed person. I will help him become a better man. I so appreciate your advice. That really helps me a lot.

Hmmm... Thank you for that advice. I never realized I was being a crutch to my son by wanting to be his best friend vice versa. I will try to be his close friend but not BEST friend. He does have a few good close friends, but seems to be the type of kid that likes to hang out with family the most. I think a lot of it has to do with his getting hurt to much my friends who have treated him like dirt and made fun of him. He mostly hangs out with his Boy Scouts troop. The one and only true friend he has is moving to another state in August. His dad and I are no longer married, yet he loves to hang out with his dad as they go work out at the All American Fitness Gym almost every night. My son likes to hang out with me as he told me a few weeks ago, "Mom, I love hanging out with you as you are the only that I can talk to who seems to understand me as well as the only one that ever seems to have time to listen." That really made my day. I will keep everything you said in mind about 'Friend, but no BEST Friend' as well as the adult life or parents life that a child does not necessarily need to access to. Thank you again for all that.

Candycane15161, I will tell you of one cool thing about my son and I relationship. My son has very little friends. Only two really close friends that are like brothers to him. They love me and call me mom. They have love it when I call them son. His two best friends can talk to me about anything. They love having me hang out with my son and them from time to time. I have become known as, the coolest mom in Oklahoma City. Yes, I too hope it last a life time. I understand about you and your mom. I have always been treated by my mom as if I was a mistake. Yes, I saw love in here from time to time, but it never seemed real. She was the kind of mom that always walked around with a serious look on her face. I developed hearing problems at age nine. First ear surgery in Rochester, NY and the doctor did nerve damage to left ear leaving me with 45% hearing in that ear. He left his practice so as not to get sewed. Age thirteen my right ear developed, tiny white pea pods growing from outside to inside my ear called Culestiatoma. Lost my ear drum. I have nothing in my right ear leaving it deaf. After My last ear surgery on my right ear at age fourteen. My mom has treated me unfairly. People would ask me a question, she would start to answer for me. My dad had to stop her every time and tell her, she has two hearing aids and if she did not hear them, she can ask them to speak up or repeat. she took me out of regular classes in the middle of my ninth grade year and put me in remedial classes. I was not a stupid child. In college, if I did not take the courses my mom wanted me to, she would not pay for my college or my books. She would tell me what jobs to apply for and what not to apply for. Age twenty-one, I got a jot as a Salad Prep at a Marriott in Dallas, TX. My mom after two months of my being there, decided I was not cut out for that kind of job due to my hearing and called up at my work finding a way to make them let me go from the job. I got let go. I was mad. She became do controlling of me. Would not let me take a drivers test till age twenty-one. In November of 2004, two weeks before Thanksgiving, she past away. A part of me is happy she is gone but a part of me is sad. I can say this: "In spite of how our moms treated us unfairly, we can be happy for one thing; our moms gave us the GIFT OF LIFE and did not ABORT us." We can love our moms for that. I too had to hide a lot from my mom so she could stop treating me so unfairly. At least your mom is still alive. Take time to sit down with her and tell her how you really feel about the relationship. Learn to love her now. You never know when time will come for her to leave the earth and be with her Lord. Thank you for the reply. I will pray that someday you and your mom can work on having a special relationship. God Be With You.

Wow! For someone who doesn't have kids yet, that sure was a very, very positive point you made there. I LOVE IT. I will have to write 'Spending time together not only strengthens your bonds, but also help you look at the brighter side of life' and post that to my frig as a POSITIVE for me and my son. I love that. Thank you for that. That is an EYE OPENER that put a smile on my face. I believe when the day comes for you to start a family, you will make a great parent. Thank you so much.