Keep the gifts, return it, sell it or throw it out?

keep your calm lady, i know loosing a friend is hard. that makes you do such things, just forget the past and move on. so far my friends never betrayed me so i dont know how it will be losing a friend. and what more backstabbing it really hurts that too from your very own friend makes it painful, if you are going for a revenge its bad. hate her with love itself.

I would sell them or give them to somebody else. In my opinion getting money is always a way to compensate such a bad incident such as a so called friend like you have described *wink wink*

Losing a friend is bad enough and what's worse is to hear that your best friend actually backstabbed you. That is really hard to believe at first. I believe that my best friend would never do that. Well i guess that's the only thing you could do now to calm yourself down. Maybe you should try to know the truth. Usually in most cases it's not really backstabbing but just because some people talk about that's all. Just make sure once again if it's really your friend who backstabbed you.

Returning it to her would be the most respectful and polite thing to do, I assume.

Hi uniquesence. Have you spoken to your friend yet to find out what she has to say on the matter? Some people just get into a conversation and get carried away, your friend may not have been backstabbing you, she may just have been having a conversation with someone about something, you may have been used as an example for a situation or something. What is your relationship like with this other friend? do you get along, could this other friend be jealous of your relatioship with your best friend and instigating trouble? Or have things been twisted out of proportion? My advice is don't be too hasty, talk to your friend and find out exactly what has been said and why, there could be a very honest reasonable explanation. True friends are very hard to come by and if she is really your best friend you owe it to each other to talk to each other and find out where the problem lies. Taking a hammer to things is a good way to relieve your anger and stresses but what about if it is all a big misunderstanding, you would feel so guilty about your actions, if you don't like the things your friend has given you, either give them back, this will probably make your friend more coincise of the fact that she has hurt you or if the items are worth money sell them, its better to re-use then destroy.

Poor you, breaking up with a friend, i can sense your angry but taking a hammer or returning gifts is not the answer, move on from it & rise above it she is not worth it, what sort of friend stabs you in the back, either sell the gifts or donate them to a charity shop.

Hi, uniquesense. Welcome to myLot! If she did you wrong, I would just throw the things out. If you are not using them and have no need for the gifts then just don't use them anymore. When I am threw of a person, I will just throw their things away or give them back to them. I remember my aunt mistreating me a while back from now, and I gave her all of her clothes that she gave to me. I wanted her to know that I did not appreciate how she treated me and made me feel. She did not ask for these clothes back, I just gave them back to her on my own.

I am in such a situation myself. I have a mobile phone given to me by a bff who backstabbed me. I had to keep using it cus I had no other handset. I want to buy a new one and throw this one away because I can't bare looking at it.

it depends to the gift, i used some while i just keep some for remembrance from that person then if i received a lot of gifts from them and i dont like some then i will give it to my other friends or family so they can use it though i make sure i always have 1 remembrance from that person, but if its from my bf then of course i will use nor display it even if i dont like the stuff.

I can certainly understand the feeling. If they are affecting that much, just take them and throw them in the garbage. No point on hanging on to them a bit longer reminding you of this person. Good Luck to you!

if I were you I would just rather talk to her in a manner that she would understand its so hard to lost a person whose been there for quite awhile and you already know that there is a problem. Why have you not spoken to her about it. A problem is always a problem not unless you make solutions for it. You cannot resolve a problem with another problem so the best way is just talk to her and tell her everything that your craving about and you said that she's your best friend why don't you talk to her in a manner that your always open with her because she will not become your best friend if you don't like her at all. They are called a best friend because they are like sisters and family for us a very close one indeed and the things that you cant tell to anyone you can tell it to your best friend is it correct so instead of asking what are you going to do just talk to her and open up girl so in the same way that maybe you have mistaken that she back stabbed you.Its just a matter of misunderstanding or both of you misunderstood.

OK, the very first thing you should do is to calm down and keep level-headed to have a good thought about whether you need these thing or not. But whatever decision you make, crashing those stuff and send em back obviously is the last thing u should do. Since it is so a childish deed. Since she cheated you and these stuff seemed no need to you, if I were you I would give them away to my pals. Now it's high time you should forget this and get ready to start a new relation :)

I had the similar situation. eventhough i don`t use perfumes, my backstabbing colleague gave me such gifts twice and i accepted it as a part of our office xmas celebraations and b`day gift. i kept the pack unopened with me for almost one year.later, when her backstabbing become intolerable , i brought the packs back to us and told her lovingly that, last day, i was cleaning and arranging my room and threw several unused and unwanted articles into the bin. meanwhile , i happened to find your gift in the corner of my cupboard which i have not opened yet. because of our friendship i can not threw them into the bin. so, i thought of returning them back to her, as they will be of good use to her as it suits her very much.since she herself had bought them , she would certainly love the smell. it is better to return it to her, than throwing out. telling these in sweet langauge, i put the carry bag on her office desk and the perfume she is wearing now is also smells very good and walked .she could not tell anythinh as there was nothing unusual in my behaviour.

I had the similar situation. eventhough i don`t use perfumes, my backstabbing colleague gave me such gifts twice and i accepted it as a part of our office xmas celebraations and b`day gift. i kept the pack unopened with me for almost one year.later, when her backstabbing become intolerable , i brought the packs back to us and told her lovingly that, last day, i was cleaning and arranging my room and threw several unused and unwanted articles into the bin. meanwhile , i happened to find your gift in the corner of my cupboard which i have not opened yet. because of our friendship i can not threw them into the bin. so, i thought of returning them back to her, as they will be of good use to her as it suits her very much.since she herself had bought them , she would certainly love the smell. it is better to return it to her, than throwing out. telling these in sweet langauge, i put the carry bag on her office desk and the perfume she is wearing now is also smells very good and walked .she could not tell anythinh as there was nothing unusual in my behaviour.

what i did when i been into that kind of situation like yours, i just keep it be'coz i think even though she had did that bad thing she still been a part of my life. and i learn so many lesson from her and i had so much fun with her company. though she had change.. i would forever miss the way she is before.. my old bff..

That's really a bad situation for you, but I think just accept the gifts to show that you have a sportsmanship in every game of your life. Because if you returned or threw it out, then you showed that you are still affected.