How do you choose your friends?
By Grimastral
@Grimastral (17)
United States
July 16, 2010 1:08am CST
I find my self always looking for new friends. And I always finding my self making friends with poeple who are completely different then me, It's very uncommon that I make friends with some one who is a die hard fan of Speed metal, Like i am. And I'm always careful and picky about makning new friends. Last good friend i made, He's a really cool guy, our interest are different, but over a year, he has helped me out with a few things, and i've helped him out with a few things as well. We both like to chill back, and have fun and goof off, but our interest are completely different. I guess I always make friends with poeple who enjoy having fun and who are really decent poeple. How do you choose your friends?
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19 responses
@hestylim (1210)
• Indonesia
16 Jul 10
I make friends with anyone.. But to have a close friends, I choose according to my "basic instinct". So, I go with my heart, I choose with my heart. Though sometimes because of being too naive, I had been betrayed by some friends.
It hurt me so deep, that I don't even have a word to say.
So right now, I just make friends to anyone I want, but really get ready to be hurt again. Cause I can never expect too much from others..
@Grimastral (17)
• United States
18 Jul 10
I understand where you are coming from. I have had a freind or two to betray me, but it was never to severe.
You can't walk around through out life expecting your friends to hurt you. I don't expect anything from my friends. I don't expect anything good, and i don't expect anything bad. We have fun, and share ideas. But I try not to rely on friends that much. Always be positive!
@stefanisaiah (167)
• Philippines
17 Jul 10
Hello Grim. Making friends is not always the same interest or likes. Sometimes he/she is your friend because he/she is nice or fun to be with or you like the company of each other. Is also good to make friends with different likes so that we can understand others why they behave like that. I have a bestfriend she loves shopping and strolling, I don't. But we love each other companion. Well I guess that is the mystery of friendship. Now she is married to American and living in USA. OMG I miss her.
@stefanisaiah (167)
• Philippines
17 Jul 10
Oh I forgot. I choose a friend who I can trust and who is not a bad influence to me. And I am grateful I haven't find a friend who is bad influence, all of my friends are can be trusted or a true friend.
@chayne12 (13)
• Philippines
17 Jul 10
like you i am also fun of looking friends. but i think were not similar in that way. i have friends who have opposite character with me. but almost of my friends really have the same likes with me. and yes i choose friends. i dont like to be be friends with those who have bad character. as this saying goes, tell me who your friends are and i tell you who you are, so its better to choose friends. its a wise decision.
@Grimastral (17)
• United States
21 Jul 10
You have an interesting point. I do belive that too. Friends do influence you as an individual. That's why I stay away from Bad characters, or poeple with bad habbits, they can drag you down to their level so easy, before you even notice. My friends over the years, have played a role in my character development. Being one friend I have, just being around him more and more, I began to be more social, and my humor started to change. He's a very social, and funny person, and I think I adapted those features from him. I have one friend, who is all about the Automotive field, and he takes great care and pride of his cars. I'm finding my self more involved in learning about mechanical issues. I know I got that from hanging with him.
@jerikjames (1041)
• Philippines
16 Jul 10
You don't have to share the same interests to be good friends. I believe it's the kinship you feel for those people. That's why you find your friends completely different from you with regard to your interests. Anyway, I am picky when it comes to friends. I get along with a lot of people well, but I don't make them all my friends. I choose those who, not only get along with me, but also those who I know I understand and can understand me. =)
@Grimastral (17)
• United States
16 Jul 10
I agree with you. How ever, I find it kinda hard to relate to some one, who doesn't share the same interest as i do. It's like when I hang with friends who hold different interest , I just got to stay focus off of what I am all about, and just focus on general conversation. I find that to be really successful, and enjoying too. But it's always cool to sit back and share notes, views on things you study and read up about with some one who is on the same page with you. But I am not going to set back and deny someone's friendship over a hobby of mine, but If you share the same joyness towards life, and hold your head up, I will defenately, greet you and start up a conversation.
@krnavtr (285)
• India
26 Jul 10
As there is a saying "its the face that attracts but its the personality that captures the heart"So i will choose a friend with a good personality that everybody will be appreciating her,the one who will love and care me not only in happy moments but also in tough moments.We have to be very slow in choosing friends as good friends are hard to find,harder to get and impossible to forget too.Make sure you get a good friend that will never let you to re great and always leads you to be in a good way.
@o0jopak0o (6394)
• Philippines
16 Jul 10
im not really picky when it comes to friends as long as they are decent.
@ANIME123 (2466)
• United States
16 Jul 10
For me I just talk to anybody I love to be social with people and makes lots of friends. I am not picky with friends or judgemental.
I just love to talk to people a lot and have parties with them yay we all have fun together that's the way to go.
@akopoaysi (739)
• Philippines
17 Jul 10
im not that friendly. but i have friends that i cherish and i know wherever we are we are still friends and nothing has change. but i usually need to get along with them can have a good conversation. i dont mind if we like different things as long as get along just fine.
@rosebinas (180)
• Philippines
16 Jul 10
I am a choosy person when it comes to picking friends. I do not just make friends instantly. I take my time getting to know them well. If I get to confirm they are decent, nice, kind, and supportive, I make a mental note of those qualities and start from there....
@shahrukhnf (168)
• United States
17 Jul 10
You should chose your friend by trusting them if they dont trust u then they are not your true friend u should make them belive that how much u trust them..
@Albert1989 (372)
• Malaysia
18 Jul 10
Well, a very common and interesting topic.
As for disney chick, i m just funny when it comes to meeting friends. I don't look for friends, friends look for me. I have tons and tons of friends because my friends into different categories both guys and chicks. I have my close friends, those one are always there for me anytime, anyday. Then i have some friends that i can just call like lets go shopping, movies , outings, they would be the number one to get there. Those are my fun friends.
Also, i have some friends that i just call them for laugh. Those one are in another level.
I get some friends where i can borrow and get money. I call those ones when i am broke, hungry or sophisticated friends, ajebo friends. Those one ic all them when i m looking to know what's latest in fashion.
All the same, i cherish everyone because my life won't be cool if one of them were missing.They all in one day help make my day.^^
@eyah04 (61)
• Philippines
16 Jul 10
for me, choosing friends is not my type... because friends may come and go in our life... so i will let them explore my life and getting to know them better.. it is just like a blessings that you just be thankful that GOD gave this kind of friendship.. and it is like a family that you will put a foundation that this friendship will last forever... that's how friends are important to me... i will not choose... I JUST ACCEPTS FRIENDS AND BE THANKFUL FOR THEIR EXISTENCE IN MY LIFE... =happy friendship to you=
@Lunar01 (151)
• United States
17 Jul 10
I don't choose my friends. I just become friends with people and the friends who share my similar interests and values will stay with me while the rest are simply associates.
@advokatku (4033)
• Indonesia
16 Jul 10
for me, Choosing friends is synonymous with choosing the future. Choosing friends is synonymous with choosing behavior. Choosing friends is synonymous with choosing quality science. So, anyone who wants a bright future, captivates its behavior, as well as extensive knowledge and insights, so he must be very good at choosing friends.
@monkeylong (3139)
• Guangzhou, China
16 Jul 10
Yeah, as far as I am concerned, the way that I choose a friend is that I can be happy with him or her. If we two or more together can always or mostly happy. I think we can be friends. If we are getting together ,just have so much trouble betwenn us, I think it will not so easy to have a good relationship between us. Have a nice day!
@cutefem123 (228)
• India
16 Jul 10
i never choose friends.its natural to have a huge number of friends for a single person.if our character and behavior is good we will get good friends and bad friends also.but we should be aware of the bad friends who will destroy our character.happy my lotting
@Skade24 (750)
• Romania
16 Jul 10
I don`t have a pattern to choose friends, i am opened to al kinds of people, it depends of their personality. Every time i meet someone, at the first disscusion i can see if it`s a person good to be my friend or not, it`s about that connection, or things in common.
@bingfenghuo6 (1)
• China
16 Jul 10
Friedns are the people who have the same faith,the same interests.
