How much do you love your spouse?

United Arab Emirates
July 16, 2010 2:11pm CST
If you are going through a bad time with your spouse and he / she does not want to live with you anymore and if you love her more than anything, do you still try to convince her / him or you go the other way?
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11 responses
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
17 Jul 10
I think it really depends on the situation. If it is about a bad time and we are just fighting and he just needs to get away for a couple of days then I would let him have his time and then we could talk when we both calm down, if it was just a problem we could work out I would ask him to stay and work through it or like I said let him go to think for a couple of days, but if he was in love with someone else or no longer in love with me, I would not fight it. If he doesn't love me any more there is really no point in trying to make him stay.
@udaymohan (437)
• India
17 Jul 10
You love her, it is clear, but how much she loved you. If she also loved you as passionately as you do, there would not have been any reason for her to leave you. Even then, she is leaving you would mean there must have been some reasons or you might have inflicted deep pain in her heart by your behaviour or words. Mend them, apologise to her with promise that such thing would never happen. There should not be any ego between life partners. God chose both of you and united you with each other. Save your marriage at any cost and make her realize that by leaving you, she could frustrate God's efforts to bless happiness in family. I wish you the best and my wife joins me to communicate my feelings for both of you.
• United States
17 Jul 10
I am not married I never will marry. But I think I have an answer for you. If my guy wanted to leave me because he wasn't happy, I would let him go. If I Really love him then I want him to be happy with or without me.
@smiley83 (1534)
• Malaysia
17 Jul 10
I'll give it a try but if he doesn't care and has already made up his mind; then, I would let him out my life no matter how difficult it could be and would never let him in again if he tries to get me back coz he might redo the same action and leave me!
@dian21 (606)
• Philippines
17 Jul 10
It depends on the situation or what happened. Having problems or arguments in marriage is just normal for husband and wife. If he just said that just because of very heated arguments and just a burst of his anger, I will just wait for him to calm down and think of what he said. I will not even convince him to change what he said. I'll just let him realize of what he said, of what he really wants. If he said that he wants leave already for so many times, consistenty, that I think we should talk calmly about it and end the relationship once and for all. Rather than staying up with him during those bad times, but the problem is already unresolvable.
17 Jul 10
I love my spouse as I love myself. I'll make sure it won't end up like this. Don't give all, have something for yourself. Communication is the right solution to this, maybe you don't know each other well, try to evaluate each other's characters. Maybe she/he's been hurt with all the words/unnecessary things you've done to him/her. Just love one another as God loved us.
16 Jul 10
The age old saying is if you love them then let them go - if they were really yours to begin with then they will come back. This, of course, is easier said than done though I think that if I was in that situation (i hope I never will be) then I would find it very hard to let my husband go though if he no longer wanted to live with me then it wouldnt be right to force him to stay
@prasunsam (356)
• India
16 Jul 10
If this situation comes to me then i would try to stop her with my full ability,if i fail then i would let her go.We can't force a person to sacrifice their happiness only because we love him or her.If she is not happy with me i would try to change myself ,if it still doesn't works out then i would let her go.
@rosie230 (1704)
16 Jul 10
Well if this was me, I would keep convincing because I do not give up on love that easily. If this happened to me, my boyfriend would have to tell me that he wanted nothing more to do with me, in order for me to accept it and move on. I am a very emotional, and compassionate person and I give a lot of love to my man because I love him very deeply, and I would not want to lose him. If I did lose him it would break my heart. Love to me is very important, and not something that I take for granted.
• United States
16 Jul 10
I would try hard to convince them to stay. In my marriage, I have put my whole heart into him so it would not be easy for him to want to leave. I would cry my eyes out and beg him to stay, if he still didn't want too then I would do a whole lot of crying and praying by myself. =)
@rahulx1 (295)
• India
16 Jul 10
if you love a person from deep of ur heart you will not let her go to leave you if ur bad u ll try to chance your personality to get her back if she dnt like your behavior also u can do anything to convince her or him if you love him/her i can do anything if if if if if i love some one now i dnt love anyone except my mom :D