Controlling your emotions like anger
By harryds
@harryds (48)
India
July 16, 2010 8:10pm CST
According to researchers like Paul Ekman (who is the author of the great book emotions revealed) an emotion can happen in our mind within a fraction of a second.
It is said that great saints and yogis controlled their powerful emotions like anger and fear. If emotions take over our body and mind within a fraction a second will it be possible to have complete control over it. I have seen so many times myself and others finding it difficult to control powerful emotions like fear and anger.
I think the majority of us are of the same kind. I know that it is possible to control our emotions to a great extent, but I want to know whether it is possible to gain complete control over all kind of emotions.
Have you ever tried to control emotions in your life or do you know anyone personally, who had attempted it and succeeded. Can you share your experiences regarding controlling emotions or experiences related to emotions taking over your mind and body that you are unable to take proper decisions and act accordingly.
7 responses
@saiKO92 (392)
• Malaysia
21 Jul 10
Hello there.
I have a problem in controlling my anger since I was a child. Always in school, when I was in secondary school I yelled in my class. Not when the teacher was in but when the class was too noisy. Every time when my class get noisy, I will feel that I can't withstand the pressure. I would feel a strong force trying to surge out of me. Before I knew it I would be yelling to whole class. But every time after my first yelling, I will feel relax and unstressed. Also, I will feel like energy flows inside of me like it suppose to.
Lately, when the situation get noisy I don't yell like I did. When the situation come, I just relax until I walk out from the area.
@unique16 (1531)
• United States
22 Jul 10
Hello harryds,
The milirtary are trying to uncover this! There are many who go through training to control ther emotions... think of the Special Forces Units and S.W.A.T. teams on the police force and Secret Service... they can neve rloose there emotions in public etc... they make sure it is trained out them. I personally will never date a like ever again. They also to be very very selfish and it is all about them... look at me mentality. Yes, they get paid well and know a lot influential people but not have emotions will be a very sad day! I am very emtional person and where my heart on my sleeve. It shows I care. Think of the CIA people and how they operate.
Thanks and have a great day!
Sincerely unique16
@darylT (85)
• Philippines
17 Jul 10
i have a temper and it's also a struggle to control them when i'm in a tight situation. i always have temper flare ups so i can't say that i'm able to control my emotions. it's possible to control one's emotions when you try to get away or remove yourself from that situation in order to allow yourself to cool down.
@harryds (48)
• India
17 Jul 10
That's a nice idea darylT. Getting away from the situations where you get emotional flare ups works in most situations, I too am also a proponent of that technique, but sometimes I find it impossible to do that because every situation won't allow you to do that.
@jhoeydas (7)
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18 Jul 10
Emotions can, almost all of the time ruin someone's decisions- even sanity. If you'll closely look at it, it will manipulate the whole of 'you' if you will allow it. Controlling would require a lot of practice, but I don't term it as 'controlling' the emotion. For me, it is more of being aware of how I feel, why I feel that way and what I can do about such emotions. It's very important to understand the reason behind such an emotion, though many times, emotions do not recognize reasons. What I usually do when I am under strong emotion such as anger, is to keep quiet and count up to 100. Slowly, I began to keep in touch with my sanity - and the reality that for a time, my emotions ruled over my entire being. Quite difficult to do but not impossible. Try it, you'll also learn to appreciate yourself because you'll also learn to understand yourself in the process.
@saintjudas (49)
• India
17 Jul 10
The negative emotios like anger, fear and depression may be controlled by changing our life-style. Moreover, practising two types of meditation-zazen (sitting meditation) and kinhin (walking meditation)are very helpful in creating positive emotions. Concentrating on our breath is indispensable during meditation.
Practising Yoga is also very beneficial to ward off negative thoughts that sap our vital enegy.
@gillman19912 (6)
• United States
19 Jul 10
Well, in my experience it's not as hard as you would think to control negative emotions. I used to go to a bad school where fights were hard to avoid, and I would say that's where I learned to control my anger and fear even when I'm over the edge. I've had bouts of anger during confrontations at that school where my adrenaline was flowing, I was shaking, and ready to fight. My secret to controlling emotions is simply letting them go. When you are over the edge you have to clear your mind of emotions and remember where you are and what's going on. When you let your emotions go you can calm down, no matter how angry you are. It always works for me.
@kori8274 (200)
• Mexico
25 Jul 10
Control your emotions is kinda easy, but it depends on how much strong your emotions are. For example, if it is something like when you are very angry with somebody then you only have to be patient and breath a little before doing anything. If it is a extreme emotion then you just have to stay focus on what is happening and don´t let anything you would like to do take control of you.
