Do You Know Why Everyone is Mean to You????
By bird123
@bird123 (10643)
United States
July 17, 2010 12:17am CST
As you go through life, does it seem like everyone is mean to you? Are they nasty at work, on the phone, in school, and even while you are shopping? Have you ever asked yourself: What is wrong with people? What did I do to make them so mean?
Who we are can touch the lives of everyone around us. Just like throwing a rock in the water, ripples from our actions spread to everyone around. Everything you do in life comes back to you in time. Don't people tend to return to you what you give them? If you are hateful, don't they just hate back? If you are mean and nasty, doesn't that just return to you?
Let's look at ourselves. Many have been taught from childhood that they are sinners and flawed. Many have been taught that the world and people are evil as well. News media focus on crime, hate, and destruction. Movies and books are packed with violence and hate. Society glorifies beauty and conformity while degrading the not so physically beautiful and the great diversity of the world.
Has all this influenced you and your actions? What are you giving the world? Are you rigid, judgmental, demanding, maybe hateful at times? When you can't fit into society's view of perfection, do you strike out? What to do? What to do?
If your view has been corrupted by society, religion, and people, it's time to change your view. One can look for the goodness in everyone rather than evil. I have found most everyone capable of great generosity if given the chance. If you tend to be judgmental, realize you might just make the same choices and mistakes if you were in their shoes. We all have the power to choose what we deem important in this world. Value people over money, power, and possessions. After all, don't children of God rate this?
So how is your view? Better?
With a much better view, it's time to act. Give love and kindness to everyone you meet. Help those you can and encourage those you can't. WATCH THE WORLD CHANGE BEFORE YOUR EYES!!! People will be drawn to your love and kindness, eager to return it. There are people in this world hungry just to get some love and kindness from others. DO IT TODAY!!
Now when you do run into those who are angry, mean and hateful, you will see them differently. It never had anything to do with you. They are walking around with a corrupted view trying their best to get that hate and meanness out of themselves. Point them in the right direction. They just don't realize yet that unconditional love and kindness is the only way. Until they change, they will always be unhappy and angry.
Yes, the world is a great place just because all you wonderful people are out there. God loves you and so do IUNCONDITIONALLY!!
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5 responses
@MONEYNEVERSLEEPS (111)
• Indonesia
17 Jul 10
well, you know, not everyone is like you and can love people unconditionally, some of them are jerk, bad person, and else. to avoid that we must not show our weakness to people, we must though, we must strong and not let people see our weaknesses or they will mean to us, use us, and other bad things.
but since you say you can love people unconditionally. I Luv U 2 :) :D ^ -^
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@bird123 (10643)
• United States
17 Jul 10
Aren't the one's who are the jerks or bad people the one's who really have the problem??? I do not see love and kindness as a weakness. It is a powerful asset in all we do. It's much stronger than hate or intimidation. Simply because someone else says something about you never makes it true. Remember you are the one who places value everything in your life. People can only use you if you allow them to. Thanks for all your comments!!
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@vandana7 (100546)
• India
27 Aug 10
Hi bird, I tried that - in process, people became more nasty. It is like - she doesnt mind. And when I objected - what happened to you today. And when I moved out of their lives, they've been trying devious ways and means to regain entry into my home. Not my cup of tea. :(
@bird123 (10643)
• United States
28 Aug 10
Are you having a control other people problem???? Remember, it's what you do that counts. Give the love and kindness with no expectation of getting anything in return. People can sense when one is kind just to get. Love Unconditionally!!! Next, point them in the right direction everytime you see them. It doesn't matter whether they change or hear you. Point them anyway. In time, people do see but they usually think it was their idea. Remember, when you are angry, mistrusting,or even degrading others in your mind, it will show. Protect yourself but give them the great opportunity to be trustworthy. Sometimes to change others, one must change themself. If what you been doing all these years hasn't helped, maybe it is time to do something different. No one can guaranty the actions of another but we can control our own actions. Love them unconditionally and point them in the right direction.It doesn't get better than that. Thanks for stopping by with your comments!!
@bird123 (10643)
• United States
28 Aug 10
Why don't you earn for us???? Who are these people who expect you to pay them??? Can a person look inferior loving unconditionally???? Regardless of how they act, shouldn't you want to define yourself as loving?? First thing you need to do is go to a quiet place by yourself and think. This is your life. No matter what the world says or does, you CHOOSE!!!! I choose love and kindness. If it looks or comes off funny, I DON"T CARE!!! It's who I choose to be. If people are nasty, mean and hateful, trying to control your every move, realize you CHOOSE what that means to you. I would simply say to myself. I see they have a problem then point them in the right direction. It doesn't matter what they say or do. It won't change what I know is right and I will point them in the right direction regardless so they can see. I CHOOSE what I deem important or value in this life. Shouldn't YOU CHOOSE!!! Can you ever be happy letting others choose for you??? I think not. Don't compare or compete. Deal with the problems at hand. You are a good person. You are capable of making great choices. I believe in you. You should as well. Choose then be a rock.
@vandana7 (100546)
• India
28 Aug 10
Bird I tried loving unconditionally! Honest, I did. It only made them resent me all the more. It became like - we are looking inferior, and she is coming out as a better person. My daughter is suffering with psychological problems, even though she didnt go through much, whereas this girl has had a tough life, and still she manages to remain in good spirits. So let us destroy her as we cant really repair our child. That is what has been the anger directed against me. Got it? I didnt expect a thing bird. They have nothing, absolutely nothing that I want. I grew up in a different place, so my tastes and liking are different. I dont like what they like. Its a different thing that I adjust. But those things are truly not my necessities. I need music all the time. They dont hear music even once in a day! So you see, we are very very different. I just gave up. When they started forcing themselves on me after all the nastiness, I gave back a few of things that were brewing in my mind as well. Their relationship - let me describe - they want monies. That is it. They are very very rich. But they havent reached a level of satisfaction. Unlike them I have. That is what is annoying. Why dont you earn for us is their attitude. That is annoying bird. Nobody should get away with so much interference in another person's life. Dont you think?
@bestboy19 (5478)
• United States
18 Jul 10
"Give love and kindness to everyone you meet. Help those you can and encourage those you can't. WATCH THE WORLD CHANGE BEFORE YOUR EYES!!!"
Would starting a discussion with the intention of making another Mylotter look bad in the eyes of fellow Mylotters be your idea of love and kindness or could it be called rigid, judgmental, demanding, maybe hateful?
@bestboy19 (5478)
• United States
19 Jul 10
We both know what your intention was. You might be able to fool others, but there are those of us who can see what is true in you. You said it yourself, actions speak louder than words and your intention was to show malicious ill will with a desire to hurt. Your actions have spoken volumes that drowned out the LIES you've said here.
"You have my love and kindness!!"
You really don't think I buy that!
@bird123 (10643)
• United States
19 Jul 10
Is it my intention to make anyone look bad?? Of course not. It is my intention to place the truth out there. This is an act of Love. If the truth steps on your toes, I'm sorry. This happens to everyone in life. It's time to pause, reflect, then choose. I consider everyone equal. We are all children of God. We are all learning. We all have different lessons to learn because we do not know everything the same. That is why interaction is important. We supply the missing pieces for each other. Yes, it can hurt our egos and pride but the results are wisdom. A small price I would say for wisdom. I know you are really upset because you can't get me to believe your beliefs. Don't be angry. It will only hurt yourself. I will be happy, loving and kind regardless of anything you say. Thanks for stopping by with your concerns about my intentions. I hope I am clear to you now. You have my love and kindness!!
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
17 Jul 10
No not everyone is mean to me but the ones that were or have been is because they are just angry or evil in their hearts. I have been kind to people plenty of times only to have rudeness sent back to me. I don't accept any blame for how they choose to treat others.
@bird123 (10643)
• United States
17 Jul 10
Don't forget to shine your light into their corrupted view of things. It's not about you. They are blind to what will really help them. Even if it does no good, point them in the right direction. They might think about it later. You might have had rudeness returned quickly for your kindness but know that your kindness will return, perhaps when you least expect it. In the larger picture, you will never be punished for kindness.Thanks for all your comments!!
@ANIME123 (2466)
• United States
18 Jul 10
Yes actually yeah like today I went to buy a pizza and the lady was acting mean towards me, but you know I guess she is just tired of working there.
Still I just acted like it was nothing and just was nice towards her. I never let mean people break me down because I know that I am not like them.
I refuse to treat people like they are nothing that is not the way to do that. I love all people and I think that everyone is nice.
