Just ignore the things that could hurt you
By czanwell_30
@czanwell_30 (717)
Philippines
July 17, 2010 9:10pm CST
well life is short they say to spend it on misery. Way back, I am really torturing myself thinking about my husband who keeps cheating on me. I'm thinking who's with him in bed instead of me, thinking what his thought are, or if he really love the woman he's into that moment. But now, i care less for what he's doing behind my back. Before I used to lock myself and cry on my bed thinking how bad he is doing to me but realization came and I've changed. Life is so wonderful... I don't need to depend on him for my happiness. I have lot's of things to do to make my life worth while. :-)
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9 responses
@pinky31ps (142)
• India
18 Jul 10
well i am so sorry for your condition.. i am say that you are very brave and you are right about this.. but you should not leave him like this leting him do whatever he want... you have to make him realise what he is doing is wrong and he is not worth you... if i would had been at your place i would had taught hima good lesson ... i have many people like him keeping trophy wives at home for showing off and sleeping outside with someone else.. just like in case of mahesh bhupati... beautiful you have to do this... may god bless you.. think about it.. and do reply..take care
@czanwell_30 (717)
• Philippines
28 Jul 10
Yes, I'm sad about the situation. The only thing that keeps me holding on are my sons. I can't just leave my husband because he is a very responsible guy and a loving father to our children. the only thing that hurts me is that he is flirting with those girls but after a while and i found out, he keeps an end to it.
@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
18 Jul 10
I can honestly tell you that if your husband is cheating on you, he truly does not deserve to be with you. He is definately not worth your tears and not worth the time you have undoubtedly spent trying to figure out why or blaming yourself for his actions. I have been there myself and once I realized that it was truly his loss, not mine, I was able to move on with my life and find true love and happiness, as well as someone who loves me for me and treats me wonderfully. My best advise to you is to walk away from him and move on with your own life...and do it with your head held high and a smile on your face. Like you said, lofe is wonderful and you do not need him for your happiness.
@czanwell_30 (717)
• Philippines
18 Jul 10
Hi! can we be friends, add me ok? Are you from Philippines? You know in my country, women once married will devote her life to her husband and siblings... and the saddest part is you have to accept that sometimes a husband becomes unfaithful. That what important is that he is a good provider, and he never leave you for another woman. But I believe in what you've said... I have to move on with a new life, new dream, new aspiration and maybe a new beginning. It's still early to say that I'm gonna fall in love again but who knows if i would find somebody who will truly loves me and will respect me not hurt me.
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
20 Jul 10
Life is sweet gift of life to have more fun and joy, rather to be worried. Cheer up!
@lunchz (43)
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18 Jul 10
That's a very good realization for u and i will have to congratulate you for being out of the misery right now. i hope that you will love yourself more and more so that happiness will come your way. Good luck to u and you are really a smart girl. ^^
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
18 Jul 10
Hi, czanwell_30 Continue to keep your head up. Your husband is no good. If he really loves you then he would not cheat on you at all. Don't cry yourself away. Leave him alone. He does not need to be married to you. You can live and do without him. Make him history.
@elleb0418 (1107)
• Philippines
18 Jul 10
Sometimes eventhough we said that we will ignore it,but still it hurts us.The most hurting part there is your husband is cheating you.Why not talked to him about the problem,if he will not change maybe there is no reason for you to stay with him.Being with him is not not healthy anymore and it's just longer your agony.Happiness can be achieved when we are already feel peace in our heart.Don't just ignore what your husband is doing,you need to act and make a proper decision about it.
@stefanisaiah (167)
• Philippines
18 Jul 10
Hi, I agree on you. You should not be affected now if he cheat you. If he really loves you he will come back to you. Stop Crying! But don't stop doing your responsibility as mother and wife. As long as he support you, that is good. All his income should be to you and to your kids. Your kids will be your inspiration and happiness not him. He don't deserve your happiness, that is right. But don't forget to ask God's help, only Him who can change a person.
