Best attribute, is that I am a great listener - I have been left out of the loop
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
United States
July 18, 2010 2:20pm CST
Today much to my amazement, something has failed. I have not logged into another one of my social networking sites in a very long time.
Primarily because I have been going through a very traumatic time in my life. So after logging in to my site, I was so amazed to see so many wonderful happenings with a lot of my closets friends.
So I wonder, what happened, I have not changed my email address, home address or my telephone number so why was I not informed and instead I have to read on the site. Maybe I could have kept in touch more, however these are the people that are well aware of my delicate situation, perhaps letting me know, might have have cheered me up along the way....
hmmm....has this ever happened to you, where you have to find out things on a site and not been told about it prior... especially from near and dears?
Or is it possible that my strong shell has become too sensitive?
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7 responses
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
18 Jul 10
Hi hardworkinggurl,
Just cool. I can well perceive your state of mind. I do not think you have turned too sensitive. This is all human. any one in your situation would react in the similar fashion.
Me too was away mylot for almost three and half months. And to my consternation none of my friends here updated me the changes taken place here. I was not hurt thinking that perhaps they forgot that one fellow with a username as krajibg used to be an active soul on mylot. Or they lost my e mail id or phone number and all possibilities. Now everything is taken for granted.
I am sorry that you passed trough a traumatic phase. Hope things are getting better now.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
18 Jul 10
Unfortunately this really is a fragile time in my life is not over yet, The unfortunate time is that when it does pass has it has killed me as a person. Although I will have no choice but to go onward I will never be able to be rid of the pain and hurt is has so marked me within life.
A simple text, email and or call would've been nice or even a free e-card but I suppose I have expected too much. One things for sure that when it is all over for me I will have to really reasse so many things in my life as apparently what I was hoping for did not work out the way I had planned.
I have not personally taken the time to communicate myself as I do not want to hear that I was thinking about you the other day, as I know that won't be the truth. Let's take my sister for example, I had to read that she is 2 months pregnant and hasn't bothered to tell me that she had been trying for over a year and now everyone is excited for her that she has been finally blessed, or that one of my nearest and dearest friends is now engaged. The friend that I would stay up with all night and cry with each time she was hurt by a boyfriend or run to her aid in the middle of the night when she dumped somewhere by a really bad date.
But oh well what can we do. Sorry that there are more than just I experiencing this and wish nothing but the best to all of us, because apparently speaking out about it says we really do have wonderful hearts.
Bless you and wish you well, thanks for responding.
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
18 Jul 10
Thats what life is my friend. Know that if some are showing their back to you, some are still there to listen to you share a word or two to soothe your pain. Too much expectation hurts sometime as is happening with you right now.
I understand well the phase you are passing through now.Try to settle things right away. You will feel much better.
Wishing all good luck to you.
@webmasterzein (321)
• India
18 Jul 10
Hello there !
Hope you are out of your delicate situation.
What I hope is that, since you had just come out of a Hard Shell, even little things that your friends might have considered not worth telling on phone could seem so important to you.
They could have been thinking that you are following them on the website, and possibly be awaiting your reply .
Hope this was of some help to you.
Take Care :)
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
18 Jul 10
Actually my dearest friend being engaged at age 35 after so many failed relationships and my youngest sister trying to have a baby and finally being blessed. I suppose these kinds of things are not something you expect a loyal person like me to just read 2 months later.
Ya think??? I know I would be excited and wonder where I was if I did not see me online at least in a week...
But then maybe I care more for people then they actually cared back.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
13 Nov 11
Personally I sometimes think it is because people get so busy with their own lives that they fail to keep people they know, and sometimes even close friends and family in the loop thinking, well they are on myLot, or Facebook, etc. so they are reading and keeping up with what is going on there, so I do not have to share it with them in person. Or maybe they are afraid to let you know thinking you would Worry too much, or have too much to handle yourself right now.
But they could have also forgot to tell you or think it was not of importance. Hope that this did not become too much of an issue, and things are better now.
@daeckardt (6237)
• United States
28 Nov 11
Has this continued to be a problem for you? It looks like you started this discussion a year ago so I don't know if it still applies or not. I think a lot of times when people post something at a site like that, they think that they don't need to tell people about it in person or something. I don't follow any sites like that so I don't really know. I do know that when I see a message here after not hearing from a person for a while, I wonder what had happened in between. That is what is happening with me now that I am trying to get caught up with old messages.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
18 Jul 10
God Bless you and hope it never does. Some of us are not so blessed I guess.
@cursoralbert99 (412)
• Malaysia
19 Jul 10
just be positive. everything will be alright. expect you will get warm welcome from everyone.
negativity is the second part of the response but be prepare for them.
nothing is perfect.
