Is it bad to move forward slowly within a relationship?

Yes I thought she would be the best person to discuss this with, but it's quite hard to come up with the subject... I'm happy with the way it is all going, she doesn't seem to give any signs that she would like to fasten it up (or I just don't see them...), as I think she likes it as well. I hope you are correct onto your last sentence Beauty, thanks for the advice

Frankly, I do not quite understanding what your meaning of "move slowly".Love is not your work, not your plan, which you can manage and keep it in the speed you must or you want . Love just go naturally, just do what you want to do, and share your feeling with your lover. If your lover does not feel the same way with you , talk and find a way out. In a realtionship, as my opinion , just need the concern your partner 's thinks . I am curious how you control your feeling and keep it moving slowly.

Yes I know it is not my work, nor my plan. But others can make you more unsure about your relationship than your work or your plans. Others made me doubt the pace of my relationship, but either way I'm the one within the relationship so I really shouldn't have been thinking about it. What my girlfriend thinks and says is important to me, I know I'll always think about this, so no need to worry^^ I'll be talking with her as soon as I feel uncomfortable with the situation, but for the moment I'm very happy with how it all is going, so I won't. I still feel somewhat happy that some people confirmed my thoughts in this discussion. Thanks for your response 2040

Yea, but quite delicate for me to come up with it... I like talking with her (a lot), but we wouldn't naturally come up with that subject. Yea, I figured the same as well. I can be given advice, but still I'll have to make the move. I'll be talking about it when I start noticing abnormal behaviour (can't find the normal word for it at the moment), but for the moment she doesn't seem to show me any way that I should fasten up, so I'll keep it this way since I like how it is going, looks like she does as well. Thanks for the advice Jaluke, all the best.

Yes, I believe you are right. Even though we aren't the oldest ones around, we sure have plans for the future and what will come. But settling down isn't possible yet since we both live with our parents, I think the big leaps will be in 5 years (if we'd still be together^^) You're probably right on the last part as well. She can't hide how she feels about it even if she would say something else or so..^^ Thanks for the reply Ingking, really appreciated! =)

I'm 100% agreed with what you just said, eventually it's best to know with who I'm actually sharing my feelings and thoughts with, this way I will never regret a thing for doing something intimate too fast with a person I hardly knew. Thanks edward, you approved what I was hoping for. All the best and have a nice day pal.

Wow. A total different reply. Thanks sweetlove Ahm, yes and no. It's true that I don't want to pressure anything and that I care alot about her. But I just can't talk about the subject I think. Just the thought^^ I think she might worry that she thinks she is going too slow for me or she would hold me down (I know her enough that she pushes herself down and blames herself oftenly... ) I don't think I can do this right now, perhaps within a few months when I can find some courage to come up with it You gave me a different kind of view upon the "situation" though, even though I stopped thinking about the pace, you could bring it up nicer than most in my opinion. I'll really do so when the time comes, perhaps she would do so before me though, we'll see ^^ Thanks sweet, reeeeaaaallly appreciated!!

Your response was actually everything that just came into my mind. If I'm happy with the situation, I shouldn't be thinking about it too much actually. Only if I would notice she wouldn't like the pace we are going. However since I might seem the one that could be faster than her (If you know what I mean), I don't think she would want it going faster than this, and actually neither do I want to change the pace, since I like the way it is going. However if I notice that she wants to change it, I will talk with her about it, because I don't really like talking about the situation, when highly possibly, there could be nothing wrong. As long as I see her smile appearing everytime I don't think I should be wondering if she liked it. She could be faking it though, but than I would have noticed after a year, that she had wanted to change anything (because we might not have reached 1 year). I know from when we talk, we both like each other. As I think she would tell me if she wanted a change. I thank you for your response Laurelle, I really enjoyed reading it since everything you wrote, just came in my mind, feels like someone ensuring me^^ Thanks again, I wish you all the best.

Gratitude** my bad (sorry for double post)

It definetly seems that we are both comfortable with the situation, but I can't really always figure out what my girlfriend feels within, cause she can tell she is happy with it, but (no offense) girls can be difficult in certain situations. As long as we both are happy, I don't think I'll come up with the subject, until something would happen. Only discussing this out of precautions for what might come^^

I actually agree that there is nothing wrong with our pace when I think about it, even when I shouldn't. But since many people in my environment go faster, it made me think about it wether I wanted or not. I like taking it slower since, as you said, going slower makes you know the other person more. I wouldn't want to do things with a person I don't really know, since I could regret doing such things afterwards. However at the pace we would be going, I kind of know a lot about her, and I really like her outside and her inside (if you know what I mean, quite hard for a direct translation). I'll do what you tell me, however I didn't really want to think about it myself. I shouldn't fasten it up since we both (I assume, perhaps I should talk about it when I see she doesn't get comfortable with it anymore) like it. I thank you a lot jerik, thanks for your kind of view. It got quite time I stopped thinking about everything, however, when I'm with her, I can't think of anything at all, those things come afterwards when I enjoyed being with her a lot, but actually wondering if she would, as if there would be another time seeing her. Thanks again, all the best to you man.

I see, I thought the bigger part preferred to go fast, but perhaps that is just the biggest part of the people from my age though. I agree with you that I should know with who I am, what she feels inside as what she really likes as well. In this case I won't be having as much of such problems, such as you say. I agree with this as well, if I would go further within my relationship, I don't want to regret anything afterwards, so I don't have problems with the pace at all. At this moment I could live with waiting 3 years before going further, even though I wouldn't really be waiting. Everytime being with her is wonderful, I don't really think of going further each time I see her. I think about enjoying ourselves, even when we talk for a few hours, it's still fun^^ :) I think it should be a rare occasion for me, if I would tell her I couldn't wait much longer, since I probably won't be the one making a next move, as her best friend adviced me to wait and let it overcome me. Thanks for your kind of view Twist, seems like most people have the same opinion; going slow doesn't make sure that the relationship should last shorter, possibly last longer than others. I hope it sure is this way, thanks again and have a nice day!

I see. Somewhat I shouldn't be asking advice from you than^^ Since your relationships aren't long termed. Nono, I like your different kind of view :). Although I won't fasten it up since we both seem comfortable with the situation. I thank you for your response though cursoral, all the best.