Do you tell everything to your parents?
By kingparker
@kingparker (9673)
United States
July 18, 2010 6:59pm CST
Honestly, I don't tell everything to my parents. I want to keep some of my business to my own, because I don't want them to worry me. I admitted that I made numerous mistakes from the past, and also from the recent. But I am trying to learn from them, and I want not to make the same mistake again. My failures hurt me financially and also my heart, I try my best to pick myself together and live normal. My parents are getting old each day, and certainly they still worry about me. I want them to be proud of me, and I want to do my best to live my life. I hope that they understand I just don't want them to be worried.
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24 responses
@angeladang (13)
• Australia
19 Jul 10
I only tell good things to them, don't want to make them worried.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
19 Jul 10
I guess we are the same' we just don't want our parents to worry about us, and I just want to make them happy that is all.
@Ingkingderders (3832)
• Philippines
20 Jul 10
I seldom tell my parents anything about my life unless they ask. I have never really been close to them, I don't know why, maybe because I just am too shy, or too insecure with my siblings that any achievements or anything that happened to me I don't tell them, and more often than not, facebook is their way of keeping up with my life..
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
19 Jul 10
Children probably should tell their parents everything. It would be a good practice. There are just some things that you just can't share with your parents. It's like letting them read your diary. Some secrets you just have to keep to your self. The important things should be shared, but some things don't always need to be revealed to your parents.
@nadeem2491 (54)
• India
20 Jul 10
Yes,Honestly, I don't tell everything to my parents.
there 99% of population of teenager how do not tell all things to their parents. Its common as all need privacy an we even lie for that. Its good if some share every thing with their parents but their are many things that we like to keep it to oneself.
So honestly we don't say full-things but we even don't hide everything with our parents :)
• United States
19 Jul 10
You don't need to tell your parents everything, but you shouldn't tell them only the good either. They should know certain bad things that happen to you, but not all. The best way to judge is.... if you have already taken care of the issue or know exactly how you are going to do it, then you shouldn't tell them. If there is absolutely nothing that can be done about a situation and it will be taken care of fairly quickly, then you shouldn't tell them. You should tell them when anyone in your immediate family is having surgery and/or is very sick. They have have a right to know. You should always call them whenever you could really use advice on a situation, because they are still your parents and love you. Plus, moms really like to give advice and feel needed. You should let them know if anything major happens to you that would ultimately very much change your life, such as long hospital stays, house burning down, long term jail time, having to go into court for any big reason, car accidents, etc. You get the point. Parents love to know as much about you as they can because they always want to be there for you, but if you give them too much bad news that isn't really important, it can very much hurt your relationship with them.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
19 Jul 10
No way! There are so many things that can make them freak out. I used to tell my mom a lot but now that she's gone, it's just me, my father and my siblings but me and my Dad aren't exactly the pep-talking type so lately I haven't been doing a lot of those tell-my-folks thing.
@teenymarie (107)
• United States
19 Jul 10
I don't tell my parents everything that goes on in my life, or even close to everything. My mom and I have always had a weird relationship, its either really good or really bad. I know that she doesn't agree with alot of the choices I make/made so sometimes it's better to just keep certain things to myself and to argue with her or listen to her nag.
@tomitomi (5429)
• Singapore
19 Jul 10
If that would make my mom and my family worried I would rather not say a word. And I've done that many times because I just can't bear to disturb the peace they would otherwise have. Sometimes their hearts could feel that something is amiss. And that's when you are challenged. So I have to be very focused. If you mean good I would believe that somehow you would be able to manage it.
@prateek149 (590)
• India
19 Jul 10
I don't share everything with parents.I am also like u.I don't want them to be worried.
@akopoaysi (739)
• Philippines
19 Jul 10
when i was young.. i dont.. especially when i was a teenager.. i really dont tell anything to them.. but when i got older.. i ask my parents for opinions not decisions.. i will tell them my plans and ask them what they think about it.. then ill make my decision and inform them what it is..
if you want to earn their trust you should show them you are trustworthy..
show them you can decide on your own.
trust is something to earn.. it is not free and you cannot demand on it..
@nishant2305 (72)
• India
19 Jul 10
Ya somethings should be kept as secret from parents may be because they will be unnecessarily worried when it is not such a big deal.
A child is really lucky if he makes his parents proud,but take care that they understand your real motive and should not think that you are hiding something from them because you are on a wrong path .
@smallsaozhou (827)
• China
19 Jul 10
My response to your question is certainly no.Firstly,the same circumstance like you,I don't want my parents to worry me.Now that I have been mature,I should take my own responsibility right now and deal with my issues by myself.Secondly,frankly speaking,there always exists generation gap between us so that sometimes they can't understand me absolutely.So I don't think they can help me a little when I tell something about me to them.Last not least I trust that everyone should keep some privacy in their mind to some extent.There is no need to tell everything to our parents.
@Ladyslipper (1327)
• Philippines
19 Jul 10
I also don't tell everything that's happening to my life to my parents. I keep some to my self specially if it will just make them worried and give them burden. I believe I'm adult enough to fix my problems specially that I already have my own family with two kids. However, when I need some advice I still go to them. They are always there to help me. That's why as much as possible if the problem can be resolved on my own I fix it by myself. However, if I really need them I still go to them.
@T_Diamond (965)
• New Zealand
19 Jul 10
No, I have my secrets lol. Some things are better left "untold" ;)
@cursoralbert99 (412)
• Malaysia
19 Jul 10
so far in my life experience, I never told anything to my parent which not concerning them to decide on. Also I never tell them my problems and difficulties cause these all are for me to overcome.
by the way, about marriage, I think I will consider telling them just to introduce them to whom I pick as my lifetime companion.