How will u solve a fight with ur friend?
By xorticanz
@xorticanz (377)
India
July 18, 2010 9:27pm CST
Its rather tough sometimes as our ego plays a bigger part in it. Our heart says that we have done a mistake but our ego says why he didn't apologize. We have to get over this ego and first speak with him. Explain ur buddy why u did a wrong thing. If we speak almost all the problems get solved. Its nothing wrong to ask a sorry. I do have some fights like this. But my friends are equally good to ask sorry. Forget and live happy is my policy. After all he/she is my buddy. But i rather keep a distance in my personal life with my friends. Share ur thoughts on the same.
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18 responses
@abhi000 (235)
• India
26 Jul 10
First things find yourself a class where u can boost your confidence and vocational skills i know this sounds stupid but believe me this will help seems like you are and introvert person so this will expose you to the people and make you confident.Don't stay lonely and be company with your friend and say I m am sorry it my mistake.
@sinaj292 (602)
• India
19 Jul 10
I also wanted to know about how we can solve the silly problems with my friends before it get worse..... i think we should take immediate action against the silly misunderstanding with our friends, other wise it may get worse....... so take immediate and necessary actions to solve the problems with our friends.. other wise we may lose our good one...
@tetsella (29)
• Philippines
22 Jul 10
xorticanz,
Sometimes being the first person to show humility in the middle of fight with a friend is the hardest and ridiculous thing to do specially when you know you are the one who is "right"...BUT the issue will never be resolved if no one steps down...
Be the first one to show humbleness and friends you have fought with will remember you in that sweet way...should you part ways...
tetsella
@Blogger101 (139)
• United States
19 Jul 10
I totaly aggree with you. You need to beat that ego and make up with your frinds. Frinds are the backbone of the world, no frinds means everyone is not happy. That is a equasion for bad things with no body in your life.
@phoenix867 (182)
• India
26 Jul 10
Actually I don't fight with my friends.Sometimes I quarrel for a while so that our relationship won vanish but I cant tolerate their mistake they have made.But friends my are equally good after few second we forgive each other.There is no sorry between us.
@markroderick (888)
• Philippines
19 Jul 10
If he/she start the fight I would probably confront him/her but in a nice way I guess. But if he/she doesn't want to talk to me, I'll give him/her enough time to think or decide whether he/she would still continue our friendship.
@arakawaii (270)
• Philippines
19 Jul 10
Yup I agree, I have this experience when I was in grade school I used to be close with one of classmate until we had this fight about a small thing and can you imagine we didn't talk for years since that incident happened, it took us 10 years to talk and check on each other happening in life, it didn't happen personally but on FB,I was the one who took the first step and write on her wall and gladly she replied... I was actually thinking why of all year we didn't patch thing up and be friends with each other, maybe because of the long time that we didn't talk or communicate that make the situation more awkward when you see each other...
@joyce318 (139)
• China
19 Jul 10
I seldom fight with my friend, just quarrel with them sometimes. It will hurt the relationship, so I don't want to conflict with anyone, execpt I can not bear the mistake they make.
One time, I introduced a job to my friend, but she never contact the person that I introduced. I am so angry that hang up the phone and didn't talk to her any more. Several days later, she apologized.
If the mistake I make, I will apologize at once, but if not,never.
@cortezswifey (8)
• United States
19 Jul 10
i would tell her or him im sorry for what i did and treat them to lunch to prove to them that i am sorry... and talk it over lunch.....
@smiley83 (1534)
• Malaysia
19 Jul 10
hey friend...
well, I would immediately apologize if I have done something wrong..if my friend started the issue; I would confront them to heal up the matter and leave them alone to think about it...
lately, I had an argument with one of my very close friends.. she didnt want to apologize at all, and i'm so sick of getting myself into her place begging her to keep up the friendship..lately, she caused me so much headache that I can't take it anymore..
@ANIME123 (2466)
• United States
19 Jul 10
I know what you mean it can be tough to apologize because of our ego and we just don't want to give in because it fee like we will lose.
We all know that nobody likes to lose we always want to win, but you know it's better to lose than to lose a friend.
Talking things out is always the way to go it solve many problems in this way. It's best to always be the best of buds with your friends.
Like they say friends our forever and I actually think that, that saying is true because I am still friends with my friends ever since I first met them in kindergarden.
Yes I do admit that we get into arguments, but in the end it gets solved by simply talking things out I'm just glad that my friends our forgiving.
Staying mad at somebody is holding a grudge and holding a grudge is against my principles so I can never do that in my life ever.
Anyway remember to not let an ego get in between you and your friends.
@cloud31 (5809)
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19 Jul 10
I seldom fight with a friend but sometimes we can't avoid conflicts and it has to be done in proper.I usually had a good talk with my friend when things went wrong,talk about the cause and if needs to sit down and have it solve then we will do it as soon as possible before it gets worst.
There is no better way than to be frank with each other and honestly tell each other what's going on,apologize when needed and admit each others fault.
Happy myLotting!
@inocentes (78)
• Philippines
19 Jul 10
theres no such thing as perfect relationship. its just a natural thing that sometimes we have a misunderstanding towards our friends. But then, its not unhealthy to prolong such fights. We should also know and consider ones feelings so as to avoid conflicts. Also, theres nothing wrong if we say sorry and admit our faults if needed."Hug" each other when you resolve your misunderstanding...Be a good friend