When father thinks he is always right....

gosh my father's like that. though he doesn't bluntly say that 'i'm the father, therefore i'm right', he makes you feel that. and if there's anything among his orders that you failed to follow, you end up as the impertinent child. during my last birthday, my father got mad at me big time. i was out with my friends and he wanted me home by 9pm. we were in some sort of amusement park and i know i couldn't make it home by 9. so i sent him a message and appealed for extension (i'm sure i was very polite and nice in the message). his reply totally set me off; he said something like 'so you think you know better now? yeah go ahead and ignore my instructions'. i couldn't understand why he had to put it that way. it made me want to irritate him even more.(*_*) i went home late alright, and 'ignored his instructions'. that was like my first rebellious act.

I can relate very well to this too. Perhaps this runs in most Asian families, if not all. Times may have changed now but a thing like this deeply rooted in my culture is still widely prevalent.

Hi bluemoonpavillion, I try not to be that way with my sons. I am 70 years old and know that I still have a lot to learn and they are able to teach me many new things. My own father was the same after I and my siblings became adults. He never insisted that his way had to be right. Blessings.

I feel its more a matter of old age.When my parents were a lot younger they were open to discussion.But age makes a difference in the sense they become more set in their ways,refusing to see the others view.But mine aren't too rigid and if one explains the circumstances leading to taking a certain course of action they do understand the situation.I feel its best we avoid debating or discussing certain points with parents as they will not change their opinion.

My parents are not so obstinate,although they won't do as you said but they respect your ideas.It's a good communication of chatting on questions together and make out the best answer.

Mmm, my father seems better. Usually he won't reject your advice immediately, he only ignore them as if it was only wind passing his ears. But the best character he has is he tends not to interfere my life much. That's what I appreciate him the most!

Why does your husband waste his time trying to argue with a stubborn person whom he has known to be this way his entire life? Does he think somehow his father will change? He should take the high road and be more mature than his father and walk away.

well basically older ones know things better than the young...it might be that he knows well about a certain issue...but on the contrary there are those that are...plainly hard-headed...well a completely different story though...

I don't know how my dad would have been when I was an adult because he passed away when I was a teenager. However, this is exactly the way that my father in law is. He believes that his children can never make the right decision and it is honestly something that drives me insane. I sometimes want to correct him and let him know that he is wrong, but I also know this is a bad idea because I don't want to suffer the wrath of John.

For me yes because father is the head of the family they always tend to be right even if sometimes they are not.

Not with my father, but I think I have tendencies towards my sons. I think I always boss them around thinking that I always know what is right, and that they don't know the difference. I get to thinking they are becoming more and more like me. And I don't like it because I already know my faults. I try to steer them into what I think is the correct path, but I think sometimes I go overboard.

Its very difficult to convince that type of a person, but still if you tried then it will be easy for you i think. Because a girl or woman can do anything or everything. One more thing is patience is the key for you friend. Wait for a right time and use your mind.

I think this is most prevalent in asian families. I remember reading about a case where the father (patriarch of the family business) sued his sons over the running of the company as it was not in accordance with his wishes. This is even after legally passing over the directorship to his sons! He cited that as he was the founder of the business, he has an interest as to the way the business is run.

I think if religion is involved it's way more complicated. My parents werent religious and once I grew up they let me make my mistakes. My husband on the other hand was under constant scrutiny and being pushed by religious buttons until he finally had to cut them out of his life entirely. It's sad.

Parents don't like to be second-guessed. They have a heavy responsibility when raising their kids and when those kids are all grown, the parameters have been set for so long that they become rigid. My father was impossible to talk to like a human being. He always had to have the upper hand, no matter how trivial or important the subject. My mother, on the other hand, was far more approachable and so we talked things out more. I tend to think it's more of a "father" thing than a "mother" thing but there are always different dynamics in every relationship.