I Almost Done Nothing Today

@neildc (17239)
Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
July 19, 2010 9:14am CST
This I think happened to me just today. I have been in front of the computer for hours. Internet is good. Browser open. Logged-in on myLot, Facebook, my email program. But don't know what I am doing, and almost done nothing. I don't want to feel sad or worried or frustrated or disappointed. But I can't help it. Could it be that I think alot about the problems that came, all of a sudden, they came all together? Have you done a lot today, or you feel down or something that you don't feel like starting this day? How will you make one who's so down, sad, worried, etc. start moving again normally?
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@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
19 Jul 10
Sweetie, i can always get my best set of whips from the closet?? Honestly, i have an idea what you are going through, but you mustn't give up, okay. To dwell on this will make you feel worse. I don't know how, but things will turn out all right and just fine. TATA.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
19 Jul 10
you sweetie, wifey here is the most affected so far. since she knows about the surgery of how will it cost, she got sick until this time. and it also affected me as i don't feel her now, i don't know.
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
19 Jul 10
I so wish i can make this go away, you know. Just promise me, you won't ever give up. Just believe my sweetie.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
19 Jul 10
no sweetie, i won't give up. i still think about the kids. i just don't feel good seeing sick people around the house. and if your partner is also sick, you feel disabled.
@tomitomi (5429)
• Singapore
19 Jul 10
Neil. I was just like that. I did nothing for a good 2 hours before I started to myLot. Perhaps it helps to relax the mind quite a bit. Nice avatar.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
20 Jul 10
but that won't be good for it's happening to me for the last 48 hours. i am having a very stressed mind now.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
20 Jul 10
my avatar? thanks for commenting about it. he is actually my sleeping child, the one who is almost always the subject of my discussions here, specially in the "sleep apnea" interest.
@tomitomi (5429)
• Singapore
20 Jul 10
As a parent, I understand what you are going through neil. Hope these dark clouds would drift away as fast and pleasant. Have seen Zayzay in youtube in one of your posts. Wish he could sleep as peaceful as that avatar shows. Wish you all the luck in the world right now.
@derek_a (10874)
19 Jul 10
As a therapist, I have encountered clients with these sort of feelings, and in fact I have had them myself from time to time. The only way to get past them is to do what you set out to do and allow any negative feelings to come into awareness. Not ignore them, just let them be there and do what you intended to do anyway. The more this is done, the easier it becomes. But I recognize that there will be times when it will be very diffictult to do, but it is possible, just the same. _Derek
@derek_a (10874)
20 Jul 10
The degree of difficulty will vary from person to person, but as it doesn't take any money or hospital doctors, I cannot compare it to that. It is about accepting all and every feeling you have and doing what you set out to do, whether or not you feel like it. Just because you have decided to do it.. If you get what I mean.. _Derek
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
19 Jul 10
when it will be very difficult to do, like raising a big amount of money to pay for the doctors and the hospital?
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@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
19 Jul 10
I8 am so glad you are here now, sweetie.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
20 Jul 10
Just think that the money you make online will help to pay for what your son has to have done. Just remember that you can earn online and that it will help a lot, get that mind set and before you know it you'll be more concentrated on setting goals for yourself then worrying. Good Luck to you.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
20 Jul 10
I am ecstatic to hear you've got a mindset now! Just keep on truckin' I know you'll make that $3000 USD before you know it.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
20 Jul 10
i really hope so, before something worse happen. give me some push.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
20 Jul 10
after 15 hours and had a sleep overnight, i have already made a few conversation with some people whom i told them the story of my son. of course, whatever i can get online will help partly on what we needed. and so far, i have a mindset to my goals.
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@celticeagle (167071)
• Boise, Idaho
20 Jul 10
I would probably tell you some funny story or say something funny to make you smile and that would make you feel alittle better. A sense of humor really goes a long way. I think too that if we pile on too much for ourselves daily goal wise we tend to make excuses and back away from it. Concentration becomes an issue when we become over whelmed with 'stuff'. I do some work and then I go play a game for a few minutes or do something else.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
20 Jul 10
i guess it just makes me blank for it's really not that easy to handle. and worse it involves the kid.
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@celticeagle (167071)
• Boise, Idaho
20 Jul 10
Have you ever had any OCD problems? Racing thoughts is what they go through.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
20 Jul 10
OCD?
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
20 Jul 10
Hello kabayan I've been also from what you've been especially in your situation right now and it never ends instead it comes over and over again but I am already used to that. I guess I am already immune on that kind of situation. I am NOT boasting myself that I am strong as a bull when it comes on solving different kinds of heavy problems. I even cried for it alone in my prayers. Of course I don't know yet what are those worst problems that would come into my life. My secret weapon for this is my fervent and constant prayer to our Almighty Father. Then, I would work on what I been asking on my prayers. Indeed, God would not comes down and give what you wanted to have. You have to work for it through His guidance and blessings. and one most important thing have FAITH on what your doing because you had already asked that to Him. If you have no Faith on what you are working with is just like you have no Faith to Whom you were asking for help. Surrender everything to Him. He is our Provider and Creator. We have no right to QUESTION, to ASK Him on whatever situation we have. Put ourselves on a Pot and the Pot Maker situation. The Pot has no right to question the Pot Maker why she/he made different from the other pots. If we learned how to accept success, triumphs and joyful things in our lives WE must also learned HOW to accept the agony of defeat, sadness and even losses some of our love ones. Kabayan remember this last words I would to share with you; God is our Provider, our Giver. He let us borrowed our breath and He's the only One has the right take it back away from us, the problem is we never know WHEN. We have no right to neglect, refused or object. As what I had said while ago, we are just like a Pot and He is our Pot Maker. Cheer up kabayan, I understand how you feel in these times of worries and anxieties. If you think surely that you have the right to ask for help to Him then do it and accept what He would gives you. GOD BLESS US Mobhomeir here...
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
20 Jul 10
there's no question about the FAITH. i've always think if HIM, talk with HIM, ask from HIM. but i never questioned HIM. i know HE will provide, but it's not the way that we will just wait for it, we have to work for it, and i am working on it.
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
20 Jul 10
...good positive attitude my friend...
@primeaque86 (8108)
• Philippines
20 Jul 10
it is really hard neil.... I also encountered such problem before and I just do not know how to start making my day again my head was blank... totally blank.... I just woke up one day facing my face on the mirror... and I managed to smile and told myself.... this is another day, and this is totally different from yesterday trials is always there, but we should not give up.... stand straight again... and ask God for help
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
20 Jul 10
i know God listens, but we should not just sit there and wait for the answers to come. we really have to work for it. yesterday was really something heavy for me. but after taking a good night sleep, i think i figured out what should i be doing. and i hope i did it right today.
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
20 Jul 10
It's hard when it's your child that you're worried about. idk you just get up and move one foot in front of the other.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
20 Jul 10
it's really hard dawn. thanks for the support.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
19 Jul 10
I am sorry u feel that way, neil but can understand why u do. This to will pass, count your blessings & realize u have many. I'm hoping & praying u find a way to get out from under the stress u are going through.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
20 Jul 10
i know this will pass but i hope it comes very very soon. i don't want to face another problem now when so much and this big one problem has not been solved.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
20 Jul 10
I do hope the big one is solved soon, Neil.
• Philippines
20 Jul 10
It's just a matter of positive thinking I think. I mean, I have problems, but I don't let it get to me. I think about it of course, maybe sometimes too much than I should, but in the end, you must not let it get to you, and you have to do something about it and not just think about it all day.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
20 Jul 10
i have been doing all things that i could. but sometimes, you gets blanked and thoughts just flew in the air,
• India
20 Jul 10
I have feel that things a lot when i am really frustrated i just cant to anything even work properly. You always need a fresh mind to do work if you start a day with full of tensions in your head then you go blank i am telling you with my personal experiences ,,,
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
20 Jul 10
how can you wake up in the morning with a fresh mind when you know that your problem still there and still don't have exact solution to it?
• United States
20 Jul 10
I can only give you the advice I do not take daily; I wake up not so great but just ok, then a couple minutes later I feel I am through. Life has become for difficult for a great many people, especially me. The only thing I can say is that I take one day at a time, and every time I feel like giving up I resort to prayer, although my prayers are yet to be answered, I do tell somehow convince myself that everything will come in God's time, not mine or anyone's his time. I find myself repeating Let God, Let Go and although nothing miraculously happens it does take my mind off of things at least momentarily.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
20 Jul 10
i believe in God, but i don't believe we should only wait for the answers come. we have to work for it. especially talking about money. God has not given us money, but ways on how we can earn money. and we have to work for it. will you ask, is money all in my mind? yes it is, right now.
• Malaysia
20 Jul 10
don't worry. you did do something today. starting a discussion in mylot. just plan ahead on what you want to do next.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
20 Jul 10
yeah but i don't think this is really a good one. well hopefully, this is a healthy discussion anyway.
• Philippines
20 Jul 10
As you said a day or even days are wasted for me bec. i use my day on social networks and blogging.. i dont know that my clock is circling too fast hehe
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
20 Jul 10
clock ticks so fast and we have done nothing,
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
20 Jul 10
Keep smileing!
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
20 Jul 10
i am. though my heart is aching.
@elmiko (6630)
• United States
20 Jul 10
coffees the answer and if not your not interested in what your doing at the time. you may also be just to tired and need to get some sleep. thats usually what i need when i can't find interest in anything.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
20 Jul 10
coffee will work but not a sleep especially when you are in the office.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
20 Jul 10
I have been there and done that! There have been days when I just could not accomplish much at all no matter how hard I tried. I have been either tired, preoccupied or simply ‘not with it’. I do believe everyone has days like these and all we can do it try and hope tomorrow is more productive!
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
20 Jul 10
just like sweetie saph have said, i went to bed and found out i feel better. but now i really have to get busy myself looking for some help. you know what i mean...
@punjab911 (240)
• Canada
20 Jul 10
Hey neildc! Yeah that happens to me, sometimes I just don't want the day to start. I usually wake up, get dressed and continue with stuff, but sometimes I just sit on my computer look at my monitor, and don't really do anything. It is kind of weird to explain, but I know what you are talking about. And about getting someone to get up, you could try reminding them of things they are really looking forward to that same day or later on the week. Oh, and don't remind them about things they hate to do that they have later on in the day or later on in the week, as that might anger them and make them want to not get on with the day! Anyways, hope this answered your question, have a great day and have loads of fun myLotting! Punjab911
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
20 Jul 10
hi punjab. may i ask if you really know what is happening to me right now? i appreciate your comment. but what bugging me now is not really that easy to handle.
@de_toya (2429)
• Indonesia
20 Jul 10
I feel down and don't want to do anything whole day occasionally. Especially in Sunday, I just want to spend my time on the bad. However, today I am very excited to do any task. I have some job that I have to do. I am so excited to do mylot. My health is good, everything is perfect to me today even though the weather is cloudy, it wouldn't affected me. I hope everything will be going as well as I planned before.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
20 Jul 10
good for you DT and it's nice to hear that.
@ermadear (367)
• Indonesia
20 Jul 10
i ever happen that too. for me, it means, i have big problem and can;t think anything for a while. for another action, usually starting playing music..
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
20 Jul 10
listening to any music don't work for me now. i only stare at the monitor but my thoughts flew somewhere.