Are you the talker or the listener?

I am more often than not the listener. Even when I want to talk I often end up listening because other people start talking about themselves.

I've always been the listener too. now i find it hard to open up to people. i have this two friends and we've been close since grade school. these two always fight and they always have issues which leaves the reconciliation and bridging job to me, the middle person. also, i'm the one they approach when they have other problems because they really can't take each other into confidence with their hate-like relationship. i was fine with it, and our friendship lasted even with that arrangement. i mean, it's not like that anymore because we're a hell lot older but it went that way for years. so i have come to be the listener. it was ok for me. i was never the 'open' kind; i was used to keeping to myself. but i guess my friendship with the two sort of reinforced my attitude, and i'm finding it hard to tell people how i feel. i'm just not used to it. i'm not sure about know whom i could trust, not even those two. it's sad.

Hi! I can claim that I am a listener and I love to listen to others and their problems. I speak less if others are speaking. It is fun listening to others.

I am alwasys a lister myself. when I do try to talk nobody seems or wants to listen. I am also a laid back person myself and I guess that is why I am that way too. I also think that it has a lot to do with my personality, I tend to be intoverited and thay ussaly means someone who is a thinker and likes to keep to himself. when a friend or co worker has a problem I also lend a syitathic ear.

I am most definitely a listener. Like you, I don't demand to be heard either, im also laid back. Very cool and calm, I try not to let anything get to me. But I listen more than I talk, i'm ok w/ it because I'm a private person anyway especially when it comes to talking about my relationship.

i like to listen what my friend sid when she/he was sad or happy with my heart,i dont know what we should say when they were sad,i will stay with them and hear what happened.,i want they know they are not lonely. My english is not very well,so what i sid is not good .hehe i am a chinese girl.

Most of my friends seem to be the talkative type and I’m lucky if I can get a word in, so I suppose I’m the listener by default! Sometimes it’s a bit upsetting though, when I’ve listened to someone go on for over an hour, yet again, and they never seem to ask or care about what’s happening in my world.

I've often been told that I am a good listener and because of that I think I spend a lot of time listening to my friends, especially when they are going through tough times in their lives. Now, this doesn't however, mean that I am never heard. There are times that I need to be the talker in my life and it is during those times that my friends will take the time to listen to me while I talk about what is going on in my life.

I've never been one to talk a lot. But that doesn't necessarily mean that I am a listener, or a good one at that. But, I do find myself the person a few of my friends come to when they have problems. Or if they just need to be heard. Like you say, I would also like to be heard once in a while. I just couldn't think of anybody within my circle that I would like to voice out problems to.

i am more of a listener first.i don't start a conversation but once a topic comes out i do the talking.

I think I'm a talker. I am not patience enough to be a listener. I like to tell to others about my activities, my problems, etc to my friend or my mother but I always try to be a good listener too although It seldom works.

I think, I am both.It depend to the situation.When my friend need to help from me then I listen them.

For me it depends on the situation I am in. If there are people who can do better talking than me, I prefer to listen to them. If i feel that something is not right, I do raise my voice. I consider my self a less of a speaker and more of a listener but that doesnt mean that I follow what I listen to. Listening is an act to show somebody that your talk matter to me, but whether ou follow on their talks or advices is totally on oneself. I dont mind standing in one place and nodding my head than speaking on something that I don't know and making a fool out of myself.

I am a good listener. God gave us two ears and only one mouth so he probably wants us to spend twice as time listening as we do speaking. Makes sense? how can i respond appropriately without me listening to what the talker is saying if i don't hear him all out.

In my case i try to observe the personality of the person that im talking to, if he or she is more of a talker, then i'll definitely listen. If he or she seems to be the quiet type, unless we are already close, i wont talk much unless its important. But if we happen to be close already, then i'll open up some topics for us to talk about.

I love to talk, anc that's always been the way with me. But for the last 30 years, I have had to discipline myself to listen intently, because I am a therapist. A therapist who talks and talks, isn't going to be of much use to his/her clients. Listening is good now, but I have had lots of practice at it! _Derek

I'm like you, the listener. I find that when most people learn this I can't get a word in edge-wise! Although, as a writer, it does have its benefits and they never know when I'll put them in my next novel.

i am both, but knowing when to listen and when to talk when it comes to other people problmes

I am definitely more of a listener than a talker. My wife can talk and when she is with me and another person who can also talk, I find it really hard to get a word in, so sometimes I just leave them to it and do something else. This has caused friction in the past as I have been blamed for being in a bad mood and not being social, but I just cannot keep up and get bored of having to listen. I have to give my words thought before I say them and by the time I am ready to say what I want quite often the conversation has moved on. This is not a bad thing though as I never get into trouble for putting my foot in my mouth, but my wife does as she speaks without thinking at times! I think that I feel the same way about others listening to me. I am pretty laid back as well.

I argue this isn't a question,whether listener or talker is a good thing to me.