Misunderstand in communication
By kingparker
@kingparker (9673)
United States
July 19, 2010 5:09pm CST
I guess both of my female co - workers had misunderstanding in communication today? One lady ask another one about her family, she simply express concern, because her husband was away on his job. Another lady felt offended by this question, and retorted with a question, why do you so interest about my family matter. The lady ask the question said, "I wasn't attempt to pry, I just concern about you." She just say, "people shouldn't ask too much about other people's private life."
I guess during their conversation, there is a little bit of misunderstanding. It is common in our human nature. Especially during a normal conversation, there is always misunderstanding happen.
9 responses
@speakeasy (4171)
• United States
19 Jul 10
Some people just have no concept of personal boundries and when they meet a person who has personal boundries there is some "culture shock".
This is especially true today. Many people have no problem with sharing intimate details of thier life - facebook, twitter, blogs, youtube, etc. They just assume that everyone wants to know everything about them and they want to know everything about everyone else.
The problem is that many people do not want to know everything about them; and, they do not want to share their lifes with these people either!
@speakeasy (4171)
• United States
20 Jul 10
Where I work, we are 24/7 and I work on the graveyard shift. There are times when we are busy and slower times when we do have plenty of time to talk, if we want to.
We have 3 women who are constantly talking about every detail and aspect of their lives and sharing things with the entire shift that have no place being discussed in public - legal things from divorce proceedings, finances - both their own and relatives, medications being taken by family members, prices paid for houses relatives are flipping, etc., etc.. And, they are frequently commenting on things they have posted on their own facebook page and other people's pages.
They have learned that the rest of us may contribute to the conversation occassionally when the subject is not too personal; and, they no longer pressure us for details. However, the occasional night when only one of them is working the difference is amazing. Our shift goes from being a nasty "Peyton Place" with loud laughing and a lot of noise to a more peaceful professional working environment where the rest of us are more comfortable and willing to start and contribute to other topics of conversation.
All I can say about this threesome is - TMI! (too much information)
@PDBME2 (1014)
• United States
19 Jul 10
I've been told before that I am too nosey but it doesn't phase me. I figure you have a right to ask and it's your fault if you answer. Women are the most complicated people. We were watching a show one day and I told my husband why isn't there ever an argument over the father in law with the daughter in law. Look at paternity tests? Usually it's the mother in law or sister in law questioning paternity, or even a female friend. You never see a brother or father in law telling the guy have the kid tested.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
20 Jul 10
You are right. I was watching the show today, and overheard the whole conversation. I don't see there is any wrongdoing on the first lady to express her concern over her family. Maybe the second lady thought she was nosy.
@ebook_freak (1511)
• India
20 Jul 10
Yeah, misunderstanding is a very inevitable enemy. It creeps into all dialogues no matter how much you try to be true. It's because of the fact that two people think and talk differently.
Maybe in thier family, when people talk in a particular way it means something good and in other family when someone speaks in the same way it is an offense. It's rather complicated.
Happy mylotting.
Regards,
Ajith.
Happy mylotting.
Regards,
Ajith.
@charmlenile (387)
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20 Jul 10
ha ha ha! this is funny instead of answering in rightful manner she was been pissed off and maybe she not in good shape for that kind of intervention.
It might be offending on the person who ask but she cannot force her to talk when she definitely not into it misinterpretation but I understand what she means. That's ok!
@inocentes (78)
• Philippines
20 Jul 10
Before anything else, you should assess the mood of the person you are talking. Because even if your intention is good if she is not in the mood, she just take it otherwise. So its better to know her mood first and also how well do you know the person.
@chefaholic (27)
• Philippines
19 Jul 10
Right, it is common, and, although humans are the only living creature who can talk, they still misunderstand each other. And, in your co-worker's case, the other person might be sensitive about family matters, and anything that has something to do with family, that's personal for her. Different people have different boundaries on personal things.
@wickedspies (965)
• United States
19 Jul 10
That's true I think it's hard for people who don't really know each other well to pry into other peoples lives. I think that the lady who wouldn't share her feeling probably has been stabbed in the back, so to speak, one to many times. I don't think it was wrong for the lady to ask if she was ok and what not, because I would do the same. There might have been something horrible in the family... could be a lot of things. Anyways happy lotting 
