On giving birth the second time...
By Ladyslipper
@Ladyslipper (1327)
Philippines
July 20, 2010 4:40am CST
The first time I got pregnant and gave birth I was nervous. I was excited to have a baby but I was scared on giving birth. I know it will be painful. I'd be giving birth again this second week of August to a second baby boy. Yes! It's a baby boy again. I was expecting for a girl and then my husband still wants a boy. He got what he wanted again. Though the baby is not a girl I was not disappointed. I'm still very happy. We will have another Angel again.
However, I'm having this feeling again. The same feeling I had the first time I was to give birth. I'm nervous because I'm wondering if it will be harder and much painful to give birth the second time. I do hope it will be the same as the first one. I only had labor for 6 hours. Two hours after my water bag broke I gave birth to a healthy baby boy.
I hope everything will turn out fine both for me and my baby. I'm feeling excited and at the same time nervous.
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5 responses
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
20 Jul 10
Hi Ladyslipper,
Congrats!
I can guess your mentality since you have gone through the pain once you may be nervous again. But there is no point on getting nervous or scaring. I have gone through the pain twice so I can understand it well. The second one, I felt the pain is more but the duration is short. On first birth it may take long hours but in second one the duration of pain should reduce if there is not a long gap between the first birth and second one. I don’t know how old your first son is. My elder on was six years old when I gave birth to my second son.
No need to be nervous dear, you have to face it, so face it bravely. Best of luck.
I can guess your mentality since you have gone through the pain once you may be nervous again. But there is no point on getting nervous or scaring. I have gone through the pain twice so I can understand it well. The second one, I felt the pain is more but the duration is short. On first birth it may take long hours but in second one the duration of pain should reduce if there is not a long gap between the first birth and second one. I don’t know how old your first son is. My elder on was six years old when I gave birth to my second son.
No need to be nervous dear, you have to face it, so face it bravely. Best of luck.
@Ladyslipper (1327)
• Philippines
21 Jul 10
Hi Sreekala,
Thank you so much for the encouragement. My first son is just 10 months old. My husband and I wants to have at least 2 -3 children and we wanted to complete our goal before we reach 30 which will be in two years time. lolz. I just had a visit with my OB this morning and she told me that next week or maybe first week of August I might give birth already.
I guess what really makes me feel nervous as what you have mentioned is because I already know how it is and it feels to give birth. Aside from that a lot of things are also going on in my mind. I'm hoping that it will just be like the first one where I did no feel any pain when I was brought to the hospital and I was already 5 hours in the hospital when my water bag broke. I'm just nervous that my water bag might broke while I'm still at home. That's what I don't want to happen. I've heard it happens sometimes.
As the days draw nearer I' feeling more excited and at the same time nervous. However, I know when its already time I'd have all the courage I would need to bring this baby out to this world. Thank you again! :)
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
24 Jul 10
Your elder one is only 10 months old, great dear then nothing to worry; the second delivery may be easier and less painful. Please don't think unnecessarily (you said if the water bag broke..) think positively and everything will be alright with you. Take nice care of you. 
@sacmom (14192)
• United States
29 Jul 10
I was the same way when I was pregnant with my oldest. I was absolutely terrified about giving birth! However, that all changed for me when I got pregnant again. Somehow I just knew everything would be okay. And it was. Even though it took a little longer than it should have, I still didn't feel like I did the first time around. I was much more calm and willing to cooperate! 
You might luck out and it'll be just like your first. Mine were similar, although different too. With both of my pregnancies I went into labor around the same time in the morning give or take an hour, my babies took almost the same amount of time to be born, and they were even born around the same time as well. The difference was that with my oldest my water broke first, then I went into contractions. With my youngest I went into contractions first and my water wouldn't break by itself. LOL
Good luck and congratulations!
You might luck out and it'll be just like your first. Mine were similar, although different too. With both of my pregnancies I went into labor around the same time in the morning give or take an hour, my babies took almost the same amount of time to be born, and they were even born around the same time as well. The difference was that with my oldest my water broke first, then I went into contractions. With my youngest I went into contractions first and my water wouldn't break by itself. LOL
Good luck and congratulations!
@Ladyslipper (1327)
• Philippines
9 Aug 10
Hi Sacmom,
Good day!
I gave birth last August 3 - reason I was away for almost a week and was unable to post discussions and leave comments. The same thing happened to me. With my first baby my water broke first before I had contractions but with the second one it's the same as your second child. I would say the second one was more tiring and it was painful. I had labor for almost 13 hours and it was painful all throughout. Good thing there's epidural. Since I can no longer take the pain, 2 hours before I gave birth I told my OB I'd need epidural.
Thought the labor is longer, more exhausting and painful I'm still glad that everything turned out fine. The baby and I are both okay though the baby needs to stay in the hospital for a week due to low white blood cells count. He is still under observation. It's not something critical though according to the pediatrician. My first born and second born child have the same pediatrician.
Thank you for your response and I do appreciate it!
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@eurekafemme (5876)
• Philippines
21 Jul 10
Firstly, my congratulations to you and your husband for having this second angel.
I am already a mother of four and each time I gave birth there was always this dilemma. The mixture of excitement and fear. Fear not for my life but for the pain I had to go through in the process while laboring.
But be strong and keep calm. Though the pain is beyond compare, take pride for yourself as the mother of that child because giving birth to a child means we are putting our lives in the the line. No one can ever replace what we gave our children when we bring them forth into this world.
After the pain, it is soooo much pleasure to feel lighter in the belly area as well as relief from the pain but above all, the time to see and hold your darling child.:-)
@Ladyslipper (1327)
• Philippines
23 Jul 10
A mother of four- wow! I'd say you're such a very brave woman. I agree with you. Though it's painful to undergo the process of laboring the feeling after giving birth is unexplainable. When I felt my baby coming out and then I finally saw him it seemed like my heart wants to explode with happiness. I smiled while My OB held my son in front of me and then I eventually fell asleep. I never really felt that much pain while giving birth on the first child. They gave me something that made me drowsy and calm. I'm just hoping that my second childbirth will be as easy s the first one.
Thank you so much for your response.
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
22 Jul 10
congratulations, i also have the same feelings as yours though mine will be on the first week of august. im also concern of the pain thats why my family want it epidural delivery, so you will not feel anything during labor and delivery, its expensive but at least it will give you feeling of comfort as you know everything will be fine.
@Ladyslipper (1327)
• Philippines
24 Jul 10
Hi Homeshoppers,
Good day!
Congratulations to your coming baby. I see you're a new Mom. :)
My expected delivery date is August 15. However, my OB- Gyne just told me about two days ago I might give birth earlier. My first son was born 1 week earlier than the expected date. According to her there's a possibility I'll give birth last week of July or first week of August.
The first delivery was not painful. I'm not sure what my OB did. She's still my OB. She's been my OB for two years now. I have not asked her what technique she used when I gave birth the first time. It was so easy and I did not feel the pain. However, just like they say it's not always the same. So I'm kind of nervous and agitated as of now wondering whether the second time would be as easy as the first one or not.
I'm hoping it will be just like my first delivery or would even be easier. Congrats again and thank you so much for the response! :)
@Laurelle11 (409)
• Australia
21 Jul 10
Hi there and congrats on the impending birth of your second baby boy. I don't think that you should worry too much about how long it will take to give birth the second time as long as your son comes out healthy and perfect but in answer to your question, it is supposed to get easier and quicker with each birth but this does not necessarily apply to everyone. My first child took 8 hours, my second child took 12 hours but my third child took only 2 hours, although for one of my friends it was way quicker the second time, so you can see that it varies from person to person but don't worry so much because you will only tense up and then it will be more painful and probably take longer. Just ask for all the painkillers you can get when you get to the hospital and try to relax. Good luck to you and your husband, I wish all the best.
@Ladyslipper (1327)
• Philippines
23 Jul 10
I had a very easy childbirth the first time. It only took me 2 hours for the baby to be out. That's why I'm wondering if it will mean the 2nd childbirth will be not as easy and fast as the first one. Another thing that worries me is that if the baby will be normal and healthy like the first one. It's the same fear I had with my first baby. Just like all parents I'd want my baby to be perfectly normal and healthy.
I know I'm a very good patient. I never fail to visit my OB every month and had all the laboratory tests she instructed me to do. Everything is perfectly normal from my urinalysis, BP and blood sugar. I'll have a series of laboratory tests again next week. I'll have another ultrasound, CBC, urinalysis again and I'll also undergo a hepa test. I just had my last toxoid vaccine two days ago. I know I've been very careful in everything but still of course no matter how careful we are sometimes things we don't expect happen.
I know I should not worry that much. That's the reason I'm really trying my best to be positive. I'm just telling my self that the labor will not be forever. It will end eventually so even if there is pain it will not be something permanent. It will just be temporary. What matters is that after the labor and the baby is out he is healthy and will be a happy baby. I can still remember the first time I gave birth. When I saw the baby came out all the pain and exhaustion I felt is worth it. I smiled when I saw him just before I fell asleep.
