Why tell a women you love her when looking at Foreogm women?

Hey! That is a GREAT idea. I should try that. I'll get to the computer before he does and pull up pictures of Russian or Ukraine men. Like he does women. I don't have to pay unless I am going to chat with one. I will just look at them like he does women. That just might make him stop and think or even be jealous. I totally agree with your last phrase about why these girls think it is necessary to put images of themselves on the internet like that. It is so true that the men they are trying to attract are not the men that are doing the looking. That is so very true. Thank you for you idea of my looking at men. That is and awesome idea.

I already responded to your post but just have one comment to you. If you want to be happy in life , just let it go and do not spy.. enjoy the moment with your BF

Spy? Not sure what you're getting at with that. No where did I say any thing about spying. If you are referring to the computer; It so happens that at times he will come over to eat at my place and gets on my computer. My place is so small downstairs with a dinning room and living combo. The dinning room is to small for a table. I split the room in half with a couch butting a large table behind the desk that is used as a place for my computer and eating. So, I am not really spying. How can you not see what he is doing. Doesn't matter what part of the room you sit in, in can pretty much see the computer screen from any where. I try to enjoy my time with my BF, but the only way I can seem to do it is to get him to want to go out, like eat out, movie or take a walk. That is hard to do as three nice of the week he is at table tennis and to tired to do anything after. He comes over everyday cause right now he is having problems with no water in the house due to plumbing problems and it cost him way more than he can pay right now. So I cook for him a lot. I love to cook but hate that he has to be on the computer like that an I an not to say a word about the foreign women he looks at. He tells me it is just for relaxation and if I keep my mouth shut about his looking at women that it will draw him closer to me. That to me seem odd. How can my not say word to him about looking at foreign women make him get closer to me to where as he says, could make him want to someday completely forget about them and want to be with me?

Yea, I feel uneasy too. But someone who wrote before you opened my eyes. My boyfriend is not writing to the women. He says that is just a waste of time when it gets to be to expensive. So, he he isn't sitting here telling them he loves them or taking them out or sitting in the same room with. This guy is very open an honest with me. I always know what he is doing during the day and evening. If he is not at table tennis or with clients, he is with me. We have a very strong open hones loving relationship. Now, if he and I were married, that would be grounds for leaving him. You can't trust any men on the face of the earth. But you have to look at it both ways. Men can't trust women either. It goes both ways. You have to trust your self first in order to be honest with the other person and vise versa. It's the same as Loving yourself first before you can love someone else. If there is trust and honesty along with no secrets held, it doesn't matter if he he is looking at foreign women as long as he is not talking to them, and he is spending all of his time really focused on you. It comes down to, the only time I should really have a problem with his looking at foreign women is if he asked me to marry him and was going behind my back at that time to continue looking at them. That would be grounds for leaving him. I thank the person who wrote me prier to you for the eye opener.

Yes I am fine with my boyfriend telling me he loves me. No I am not fine with with him looking at women of of the same nationality as me AFTER telling me me loves me. Yes! I agree that looking at foreign women is wrong. You see how they dress and pose in flirty positions. It does feel like racist to me. I get the idea that I am not to say anything as he tells me to keep my mouth shut about women, money and his time or he will leave and not spend the rest of the day or evening with me. I have said something about how it makes me feel and he even says that when I talk about his looking at women, money and time that it will only push him further away from me. By my keeping my mouth shut, it will draw him closer to me. Looking at them as he says, is his way of relaxing. That is how I feel. I feel like he is lusting. When I brought that up to him one time four weeks ago, he just went on a rampage and left telling me he will come back till I can show more respect. Yes, it is up to my moral compass of "what is cheating". Well, I don't mind that either. But for him to every time he comes over that is the first thing he has to do before spending time with me. He says he needs is relaxing time. He tells me I'm prettier than they are. So,the question is, if I am suppose to be prettier than them, why does he want to look at them?

Well, I never did think of it that way. There is honesty and trust in out relationship. He doesn't hide anything from me nor does he ever tell me I can't sit at the same table with him when he his looking at the women. After all, he is not sitting in the same room with them or taking them out to eat, movies, long moonlight walks or hugging or kissing them. You do have a point there. Maybe I should only be upset if we were married. thanks for the eye opener.