Hmm Have you ever read your girlfriend's or your boyfriend's text messages???

I had a discussion sort of on this topic a few years ago. I felt that reading your gf/bf's messages was a sign that you didn't trust the other person. As I recall, some people disagreed, most agreed. I just feel like unless the other person is giving you a reason not to trust them, you should trust them.

I live with my girl friend & been doing so for about 5 years, getting closer to 6th years now. For us, it's more of convinience issue rather than trust issue. I don't have any problem with my girl-friend reading anything of mine, emails & text messages. She has access to everything I own, including bank account number, passwords to everything I own that needs passwords. I even have emails set up in my laptop's outlook express to leave a copy of an email on server. And everything is also vise versa. I have all the passwords & access to her cell phone & emails. My cell phone is treated almost like a house phone when I'm home. There are times she just picked up my cell phone while I'm in the shower. Once, a female co-worker called my cell phone because she had a question. I was off that day. She & I kid around all the time. My girl-friend & she has never met before. I was in shower & my girl friend picked up the phone. Co-worker said, "I'm sorry. I must have called the wrong number." My girl friend asked her if she was looking for me & when she said yes, she holds the phone down & says, "Your other girl friend is on the phone looking for you!!!" Then gets back on the phone & says to her, "If you're taking him out, could ya keep him for a while? I could use some alone time..." Again, these two people have never met & for all she knew, I could have been cheating on her with my co-worker. She always said, "You're gonna do what you're gonna do. If you don't wanna be in this relationship, at least tell me before start something else. At least gimme that. I'll do the same for you!" We never question each other's trust for one another. There have been honest mistakes & mis-communications, like every other human beings & couples. So, basically, we share everything & we tell each other everything

Since I never been doing that. I do respect it as private property and maybe I have no right to read the messages there.Yes, you are right if you trust the one you love why you need to read all the messages in his phone.For me no need to do that.

I never read friends's message under they don't permit. Trust is very important among friends indeed. Because I don't like other one read my private message,I will respect them as well.

This is something that ill try not to do, simply due to the fact that I'm worried about seeing something I shouldn't be seeing, or jumping to conclusions about something which may turn out to be nothing. I hope my wife doesn't read mine either, she may question some of my female friends. Trust is important in a relationship but every needs some level of privacy unless you are a child.

Yes, trust is important, but me and my boyfriend had some hard time a few months ago. He lied to me 3 times in a row, and that maked me not trust him again, like i did before he lied to me, i felt so betrayed, and i couldn`t trust him anymore, just not from the beginning, so, for my silence, i was always reading his text messages, we knew about it, and he was ok with that, i know it`s not nice, but otherwise, we would of argue about it.

I have never read anyone's texts or diaries or anything that was not meant for my eyes. I know people do it but for me it screams that you don't trust that person and if you don't have trust then what's the point in being together? If I found myself doing things like that I think I'd have to reassess the relationship itself. Either he was very untrustworthy which doesn't make for good relationship material or it would mean that I was a very insecure person which is a little more fixable.

No,I have never done this before.I think everyone should keep his privacy to some extent.I believe that a real perfect relationship is based on trust and understanding with each other.If I keep suspicious all the time about my partner,I will feel tired and relationship between us isn't happy and pleasant at all.And if unluckily my boyfriend has played trick on me intentionally,then I will feel fortunate that I recognize his real face and never make mistake again.

I wasn't for a long time, then my ex changed a lot of that. I was told that he was sending messages like F U and others to this girl. She supposedly is just a friend. And yet she stayed at his house after we broke up. I told him he was liar and two faced. There was a bunch of other stuff in there too. He would tell other people that he didn't want to be with me, but tell me that he did. Anywyas, he tried to say that he was telling the truth. So, I ended it with him, and barely speaking to my other friends that got us together. Trust is very important. If you don't trust someone then how can you grow a relationship

I never did that kind of things. I prefer he to be told by him than checking his emails, phones, etc. For me, trust is the basic of the relationship. If you don't trust your partner, you had better end that relationship. Honesty and trust are the basic of good relationship.

no i don't read. i respect other's privacy :) and i'd like them to respect mine.

Hi, ANIME123. Yup I read my bf's txt message before, cause I have this gut feeling that something is going on and I was right. He had another girlfriend. It happened 2x already. I guess, there is really no reason to check your bf's text messages unless you feel something is wrong and your gut feeling is always right.

i did question my wife as to why did she send him a message. She said she sent it casually. I didnt know her motive behind the message. i trusted her and never knew that she was going to fall in love with him. I have checked her emails and questioned her a few times and i didnt know that she was lying to me all the time. A month back when i discussed the matter she accuses me of lying to her in the past. She is making her own decision and does not want to belive what i am saying. I still love her and trust her inspite of all the problems.

that is not really good, but the curiosity makes me to do that sometimes with the my very close friends. but i got some chances to read the messages of girl friend but i didnt do that

there must be mutual trust if I am allowed to read because there are things that a personal nature which should not interfere with each other is not the business

This is about trust issue. If I trust my guy, then why should I read his text messages without him knowing, right?

Hi Anime123, I have never read one of my husbands text messages and he don't do it to me either unless we say hey look at what so and so wrote. I think trust in a relationship is very important if you go around reading there text messages I think your not trusting that person as you should.

I just started reading one of my ex's text messages when I found out he was cheating. I trusted him a lot that's why I didn't care to read what the messages on his cellphone were. When I found out about it, it was too late for me to stop them. They were already so involved with each other and the girl was demanding a lot of things from him already.

no, I do not do that. But once I get a feeling that I should take a peek. I do, I trust my gut. Usually, when I do have an urge to peek.. I there really is soemthing. But when I do not have that tiny voice telling me to peek. I dont.

I have read my GF messages and she have too read mine. The point that here is we trust each other.. so we are transparent to each other. we used to laugh after reading the messages.. its just a kind of fun when peoples does nt take it seriously...