Embracing death....

Philippines
July 21, 2010 8:28am CST
Last Friday, my grandmother died at the age of 97. She caught pneumonia and stayed in the hospital for a week. She just died in her sleep peacefully. No struggles, no pain...I guess lucky her. Two weeks before she was admitted at the hospital, her sister came to visit. She is already 83 years old. Unfortunately, she has breast cancer and she had been complaining of pain. While she was here with us, sometimes we hear her shouting and praying that hopefully she would die soon to stop the pain. She said she is ready anytime. While we were in the wake of my grandmother, on the opposite room is the wake of a woman who died in breast cancer too. It had been a painful one because she is just 44 years old and has 2 young children. She had been suffering for 2 years with her breast ca. On the other room, is a wake of a child. Another painful death as the child died in an accident when her bike was hit by a 10-wheeler truck. For this week alone I had been exposed to several ways of dying, I don't have to enumerate all the others. It made me realize how short the life is. For my grandmother, she had a long life and lived fully. For the others it had been very short and I guess not enough yet. There are some who just want to take a rest because of the pain that they have been feeling. How can we be ready for this unpredictable but definite thing in our life? I have 2 young children too and how I wish I could still live enough to see them grow, have a family and maybe see my grandchildren someday. I wish to live my life fully too.
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
21 Jul 10
You just touched on my biggest fear, not living to see my children grow up. How can we be ready? Well I'm not sure you're ever ready, but you do have to be aware of the possibility, and make provisions for your children. Life insurance, if it's available in your country and you can afford it, or talking to relatives who can hopefully step in if something happens. You have to be clear about your wishes too, ie leave a will. Depressing stuff, but necessary. My condolences for the loss of your grandmother.
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• Canada
22 Jul 10
@ Dawnald: I dont have kids but I lost my mother 4 yrs ago and I cant get over it. I wish I had more videos of her. Trust me, the money does help but its not the most important. Make videos of yourself, keep a journal so your kids have something to remember you by. Tell them you love them every day. Write little notes and hide them so they can find them after. I have a few videos of my mom where I can see her walk and laugh and talk. Im afraid to forget how she sounded. Try to make sure our kids have something to remember you by. Thats all that really matters.
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@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
21 Jul 10
I am sorry for your loss, sweetie. We need to understand life to live it. There will always be something that can take us from our loved ones. We just have to wait and live our life's as best we can. TATA.
• Philippines
21 Jul 10
Exactly my dear, we will have to live our best as we can. We have to reconcile things which need reconciliation before it gets too late. Thanks for your condolences too.
• Canada
22 Jul 10
Im sorry for the loss of your grandmother. Take it one day at a time, live it to the fullest. Tell your kids you love them, make sure they have good memories of you. Show them how to live and be happy. Write a journal so they have something to remember you by when you're gone. Make a video of yourself. Memories are all we have when our loved ones are gone. I wish my mom had kept a journal, Id be reading it everyday. I do have a few videos of her and Im happy I have those. I also have pictures but its not the same as when you hear them talk in a video.