Husband or Besfriend??

That is hard, I have been there too. Before my husband and I got married I stopped talking to my best friend that was a guy because he was jealous. Now, I regret doing that. I knew my friend first and he was always there for me so I should have told my husband that my friend was in my life first and he was only a friend. I would definitely talk to him about it. Make sure your very clear that there is nothing to be worried about and nothing to be jealous over. Help him to understand that he has your whole heart and your not going anywhere. It might help. Make sure you don't give him any reason to doubt what your telling him though. =)

i had a guy bestfriend even before i had been into relationship with my boyfriend. although sometimes we argue about it, he has to understand that my bestfriend came first in my life before him. and so he had to accept it. i can't choose between them and i know i don't have to. so i make sure that my boyfriend understands that. if he really do love me it won't bother him anyway. besides i think he won't like it either if i avoid him having friends with other girls too. as long as the friendship does not go overboard and does not affect your relationship for me it's really fine. i guess you just have to make your husband understands your friendship with your guy bestfriend. this way you'll also prove your love to each other. happy mylotting!

I would not continue to make friend with my guy Bestfriend because this going to cause a whole lot of problem if my husband find out that he is still my frined.He might even think that there is something going on between us which can even lead to divorce

The best is not to go with your bestfriend guy if your husband doesn't allow you to do this things. He is your friend and there is no reason that he didn't understand you. Try first to follow your husband order because he is your partner in life and you loved him so much as i know that is the reason why you go with your husband now.

if your husband really loves you is normal he is jealous bcs is a guy your best friend but he has to accept it bcs we dont need just the person we love we also need friends to talk to when we are angry with our hubby and need some advises or something^^ the husband cant make that even if he doesnt like the idea he cant say i dont want you be his friend. also maybe he can be friend of your best friend too^^ if he says dont talk with him he knows you be sad so if he loves you he wont say that^^

Think the other way around,it is your husband who has a woman bestfriend, what would you feel, jealousy?. That's how your husband feel to this guy. When you married your husband he is your new bestfriend and this old bestfriend of yours will be just a friend.

I am so glad that I am not in that kinda of position. I have a lovely husband and he is quite open-minded. Never restrict me for making a guy friend at all. I am free to be friends to whoever I like,as long as, I know my status that I am his wife and I have to fulfill my responsibility as his wife. I still keep in touch with some of my old mates(guy),we do chat once a while in Msn or contact through email, my husband know about it and nothing to hide from him as I am not doing something wrong behind him. Of course, he still respect my privacy,not to check up my emails or phone calls. The most important in relationship is TRUST. once there is no trust on each other, that relationship will get sour and sour as time pastby.

I will tell my husband to trust that my relationship with my guy best friend is only a friend and not more. That I love him and he doesn't have to be worry about my feelings about him. And if he loves me, he should trust me. I always tell this stuff to the man who will going to be with me. ^^ Coz I still believe that honesty and trust is the basic of good relationship..

I was the best example for trust until it was broken. It took me some time to digest the hard truth taht the best friend can be more than a best friend. But now i have to adjust with things and put my trust back which i feel a few men can do.

I`d first talk with my husband to make him understand that he has no reasons to be jealous on my guy friend, and i would find a way of making them become friends aswell. If my husband doesn`t understand the situation, i think i will give up on my friend, because my husband is more important, because in the future he could be the father of my children.

in a relationship there should be a give and take situation... and a trust on each other in order to have a fruitful relatioship... there should trust that the friendship of that guy bestfriend will have that boundaries and it will not hurt and untrusted by the husband... you should also consider the feelings of your husband, maybe because he was "betrayed" before by his bestfriend and so he has this mentality of not allowing you to be so close with that guy bestfriend... but if you know your responsibility as a wife to your husband it is ok to make friends with other guys but you should share every single detail that your husband will not have biases of having a friendship with guys...

I also have a guy bestfriend but i don't think my husband gets jealous of him. If the time comes when you really must choose between them, then you should choose your husband because when you married him you vowed to be with him for the rest of your life. If by chance, the husband is not a good husband, it's not a reason to prefer the bestfriend over him. It should be talked over seriously between the couple if there's an issue.A friend should in no way be in comparison to a husband.

you can't blame your husband to be jealous with your best friend.,in the first place your best friend is a guy,.i won't say that keep away from your best friend but have some limitations..hold on to your friendship because at this time it's not that easy to find a best friend,.explain to your husband that even though he is your husband, you have also the right to make friends with others, either a guy nor a girl,. ....and i just want to tell your husband that,plsssss trust your wife as she trust you...:)