Forgive and Forget
By Fatima27
@Fatima27 (65)
July 22, 2010 6:32pm CST
Can you easily forgive your partner's shortcomings even if he repeatedly been doing it to you? Can you just forgive him and forget what he did? Keep your self blinded on what he did even if you caught him cheating on you?
9 responses
@blue_einjhel (40)
• Philippines
23 Jul 10
They say that what chances are made of, if we can't forgive someone and give them chance. BUT, if you're too much hurt and you've already given him a lot of chances, maybe it's time for your relationship to end.
Sometimes we give a lot of chances hoping that they will change and they will realize what they have done and will never do it again. But, if they keep on doing the same mistake maybe it's time for you to end the relationship rather than waiting for him for the rest of your life that he will change. Move on because you deserve someone who will love you and will never cheat you. Just wait and don't look for him, because God will show him at the right time.
@Fatima27 (65)
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23 Jul 10
Thank you for your advice. I am getting tired of waiting, hoping that everything will be the same. He left for Singapore and haven't contacted me yet. He said he will be back next week. He was given a work there by his company. Still if he cares he would have time to give me a text message.
@lilangelspreschool (1129)
• United States
23 Jul 10
First I want to say that I think this is terrible and I am so sorry your going through this right now 
. I cannot imagine the pain your going through. I don't think you will ever forget. He is wrong 100 percent!!
With time, what I believe is to forgive others so you can be forgiven for your short comings. This is not easy to do at all as I struggle with this too. I know you cannot forget but eventually you should forgive, not for him but for yourself.
It's up to you if you want to stay with him or not. If it was me I don't think I could but that is up to you of course.
I really hope things get better for you and your in my prayers 
. I cannot imagine the pain your going through. I don't think you will ever forget. He is wrong 100 percent!!
With time, what I believe is to forgive others so you can be forgiven for your short comings. This is not easy to do at all as I struggle with this too. I know you cannot forget but eventually you should forgive, not for him but for yourself.
It's up to you if you want to stay with him or not. If it was me I don't think I could but that is up to you of course.
I really hope things get better for you and your in my prayers
@angel_kaycee (1112)
• Philippines
26 Aug 10
hi there fatima! no actually. im not the type of person who easily forgives and then forgets. especially whe he cheated on me. its just too much to forget. i may have still love him after all. and given more and more time i may even forgive him. but forget about what he did, never. my bf does a thing that's really annoying. and what's more annoying is that he always says sorry for doing such a thing but still do it repeatedly. and when im on the end point of my patience i burst out in anger and madness. i think that makes him realize its not acceptable anymore. and as i always tell him, sorry is not enough, what i need you to do is to never do it again. its good to talk to him about this and tell him how you'd really felt about him doing it. in this way you'll be able to prove how much does he loves you that he's willing to change for you and for the relationship's sake also. anyway happy mylotting!
@sderringer (303)
• United States
31 Jul 10
I can see that I am late to respond to this discussion but I just felt the need to add my opinion. I believe in forgiving people and depending upon what it is that he or she did, I can usually forget about the incident and move on.
However, when it comes to cheating, that is one area I cannot forgive and forget. The main reason why is because I lose all trust for a person when he or she cheats. Once trust is gone in a relationship......it is almost impossible to keep that relationship strong and worthwhile.
@jesenia_209 (287)
• United States
30 Jul 10
If I really love him I don't think I would be able to forgive and forget. If I were to forgive him and just move on I would always have that in the back of my mind...so in reality I wouldn't be over it.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
23 Jul 10
Well, there's nothing that I can actually do about it. igave up already. I have been saying the same things over and over and that was it, that was enough. It makes me feel tired to think that I have to deal with it but I dont get anything in return. I guess I have to be strong for myself cause if I wont, who would be?
@achilles2010 (3051)
• India
23 Jul 10
It is not easy to forgive someone unless you are able to forget. It is not possible to erase from the memory if your partner happens to cheat you. The partner's face itself will serve as a reminder and it would bring back those painful memories. You may render a lip service just by saying that you have forgiven your partner but the truth is you will never forgive.
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
24 Jul 10
if there is little mistakes i forgive and forget but if he acts careless on and on i be angry and if he doesnt change i leave him. also if i caught him cheating i would sure not be blind and leave him. we all have someone that love us no matter what and i know that that person has only eyes and heart and body for us so wouldnt cheat. so why be with someone that does that? even if we love that person doesnt love us so why be with him? for him to cheat again? we must forgive little things yes bcs all make mistakes but we must also see things. honest and care is always necessary^^
