can you forgive a person that caused you pain?

I totally agreed with you even if this person gives you so much pain but in the end you really need to forgive. It's very difficult to though sometimes since the pain will always be there but it doesn't mean you can't forgive. We people tend not to forgive but in the end we are still the one who suffers from it. It's takes time too but once we already accepted it and ready to forgive then we should forgive them.

I can never forgive someone who caused me pain --- i hate them for my life.At the same i do not believe in holding grudges thats nothing but being insane.if i'm too angry then i might offer them a nice blow on their punch spontaneously and nothing else i try to forget about them.there is one such person who barged into my routines and had a good time playing with me---damn i hate that person but something stops me from walking away but sure it isn't a nice company to be with.great day.

Well I believed that its a human nature. We're not God, but it should not be an excuse in not to forgive others who caused us pain.. I always believed that time can heal everything, we should not pressure ourselves in forgiving someone, because it's not forgiveness.. I think its hypocrisy.. There's always a right time for everything.. God will always give that to us, the perfect time and the perfect situation, he will not force us to do things that were not even ready of.

To tell you the truth I may say that I can forgive a person but in the heart of my heart I will never forget what he or she did to me. Therefore, in reality I cannot forgive and for that matter no one ever can. To forgive is only God's prerogative. He has not conferred the privilege either to forgive or to punish on anyone. Even I cannot forgive anyone I have no right to seek revenge or punish the person. It is for God to see and that person would eventually pay for what he did. I do not want to be instrumental or cause for his or her sufferings. May God bless him and I pray no one is wronged the way I was wronged. Let God take care of this.

i had the pain for no reason in my life.During initial stage i find it hard to forgive that person but during the course of day to day activities i forget that persons evil character and also i have forgiven her for ever.So it happens in everybodys life.We should be careful and do our duty for ever.

Just today someone who I really appreciated caused me dearly amount of pain... I am usually a very forgiving person and yet I can not find myself forgiving to him, I see the pain he caused me as betrayal in my appreciation to him... I just want him to stay away from me, but yet I do not feel like doing something bad to him in return.

To be honest with you, it is so hard to forget than to forgive. I seem to have forgiven the person who caused me pain but I still remember everything. And every time I remember those nightmarish experience, I couldn't help feeling the pain again... I can forgive but I can never forget. That is one thing I knew for sure... But, I'm praying so hard that one day I'll be free from all the pains he had caused me...

I can forgive that person but surely it will take a long time. If the pain is gone maybe that is the time that I could forgive him or her.

You're right meshezabel, it's really hard to forgive as really hard to forget what causes pain. But as for me, I am not the type who implants anger and hatred in my heart for longer as this would cause me uneasiness whenever felt those. So every time I feel anger, I've tried so many ways to pacify myself to replace joy in heart instead of thinking too much the pain that would cause hatred then turn into bitterness. If a certain person caused me too much pain and hard for me to forgive that person then I would rather evade that person and find some ways not to cross each others road. Until I can forget gradually then started to forgive that person little by little then only I can let each others meet again. But, there will be a difference as I would start to be suspicious to that person and never trust again.

Yes, i can forgive the person that caused me pain but it takes time to forget what he/she done to me. It easier to forgive than to forget when we're talking about someone who caused us pain, we're only human i guess that's why it's hard for us not to feel any trace of bitterness or pain when somebody hurts us no matter how long it was already. Good night!

Forgive and forget it is hard....but we can try all the life ...that it is our way ...

in this matter you should be mutual cooperation and forgiveness among... hope you can be patient.. the right patient is good...

nope. definitely not. in the future I will avoid the person for sure and never want to see them. it's better to have them left that way than being around them.

It is hard to forgive. Let's admit it. It's not that easy to give your forgiveness to someone gave you so much pain. Like what happened to me last year. I was cheated by someone, whom I am with for more than two years. It's the first and the last time that he got a chance to do it to me because I broke up with him. It's hard to forget still and I know that time will come to forget him and forget what happened.

The time will come that we can forget all of the people who caused us pain, but I do not force myself to forgive them. I am cruel in this area, when I see someone that cause me pain, like in the street, there are times I don't see them existed or I treat them non existence and sometimes I look at them and give them the bad look. I believe until now they are unforgiven or maybe forgiven but the pain is still inside me. Hiding a pain or bitterness is not healthy for the cells, and cancer can cause by it, so its bad, however, I can't eliminate this one for myself or for my being. Moreover, I still believe that I can be able to forgive them but not to forget what they had done. And I will never be friended a person who had hurted me severely.

Yes, I can forgive a person who caused me so much pain and misery. It already happened to me once, at first I just could not believe it happened to me because that person was very close to me, I give all my attention and care and that person really made me a close confidante, but to my great surprise I just couldn't believe that that person will the one who gave me humiliating words, insulting me to high heaven. My heart bleeds for our friendship and closeness, I often think that the last person who could harm you is the one closest to you, but it really happened, it was very painful, but I managed to forgive him somehow because I cannot be completely relieved and healed if I won't forgive him for what he had done.

Very hard to forgive someone who has hurt us. I would certainly forgive the people who have hurt us. But maybe I'll be careful of that person. I sincerely forgive the people who have hurt me, but I am also obliged to be careful, so I do not get hurt again. Maybe I'll keep my distance with him, not to antagonize, but just be careful.

I think I can forgive everyone who has hurt me as long as they do apologize to me and still communicate with me. However, If they just do apologize, but never make communications with me afterward, I will hate them too. I won't never forgive person like that. My forgive is just lip service. By make communication it mean that they really really don want to hurt and hate me anymore. However, if they hurt me again, I won't forget them anymore.

Yes, I have and I will. Forgiveness is the first step to moving on. We can never really move unless we learn to forgive and release the anger inside us. That was what I did, and I am glad that I did because if I didn't forgive the person I would not have been able to move on until now. And another reason would be, if we dont forgive then we are the ones who will suffer from the pain and anger that we still feel.

I know that I've never been seriously hurt so that it makes me want to hate that person and never forgive them. There is never a reason to harbor hate in your heart. And sure somethings people do to you make you think you hate them for awhile, but years later you forget and reaslise how insignificate whatever happened really was.