What can you say about 'Unrequited Love'?
@santosmarichris (1849)
Philippines
July 23, 2010 2:44am CST
As others have experienced it or some of our friends does it, how do you feel about it? Unrequited love, is a love given, which is not returned back. Like loving someone and not being loved back. I think it's martyrdom. 
For me, how could you possibly love someone unrequitedly without being loved back. I was a shoulder to cry on and it saddened me why or how someone will go on with it. Maybe, after all the tears had gone will one realize that it's not a healthy thing to love unrequitedly.
For me, how could you possibly love someone unrequitedly without being loved back. I was a shoulder to cry on and it saddened me why or how someone will go on with it. Maybe, after all the tears had gone will one realize that it's not a healthy thing to love unrequitedly.2 people like this
19 responses
@bokal2703 (802)
• Philippines
24 Jul 10
Unrequited love is the most painful feeling that one can have...as they say, it's just like hugging a cactus so tight, where as much as you are embracing it, the more you are inflicting the pain yourself. I also think that unrequited love can be selfless, since, one continue to love that person even it is not reciprocated...but you are right that is not healthy to pursue into this kind of love, for the more one concentrates on the love that is not being returned, the more one build the walls that keep oneself from being really happy through the love that they might get from others....
@TenmaMetsuki (452)
• Bahrain
24 Jul 10
comparing it to hugging a cactus.. nice example :o good one!
@mysterioususer (79)
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24 Jul 10
It is not fair when you love somebody and then that person does not love you back that is so not nice I cannot believe that sometimes people nowadays do this I mean is so unfair. I'm in love with somebody this precise moment but am not sure wether there feelings are the same as mine
@TenmaMetsuki (452)
• Bahrain
24 Jul 10
ahh, unrequited love =w= such agony.. but, love is beautiful, even when you're not loved back you feel the happiest when you're around the person whom your heart belongs to, even if that very happiness turns into pain soon after
@anil78650 (177)
• India
25 Jul 10
Urequested Love is very rear love which was found sometime around you I didn't found one but if I found one then I will the person that you are doing a very tough job in which you don't getting anything but the tears, the tear which one sometime off joys and sometime for sadness.No matter how many times you try you cannot make someone to love you or you can not change the way person think about you.........I think its stupidity but for them it there life....I also think its martyrdom...........
@aldawn22 (224)
• Philippines
24 Jul 10
Unrequited love is a sad kind of love, pity to those who have this feeling right now because no matter what they do they can't force a person to love them back, for short it's hopeless. But we can't blame these hopefuls, of course they didn't chose to love the person that don't love them back in return. It's hard to say but the most effective advise that I can give is to set them free and try to accept that it's not really meant for them. They said, if you love them you had to set them free and if luckily they come back then you're really meant to be.
@cursoralbert99 (412)
• Malaysia
24 Jul 10
most of the people will be sad when their love not returned back. by the way, is there right to love? and does relationship without love attached considered as relationship for benefits?
@derek_a (10873)
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23 Jul 10
I would say that in my youth this did happen to me, but I didn't hang on once I got that the other person did not feel love for me. I remember wanting to hang on and "try and persuade them", but this was just an instinctive keen-jerk reaction. As hard as it is, if lover is not returned from the person for whom we have it, we just really need to let go and move on, or it can start all sorts of problems. 
_Derek
_Derek @doglady112 (604)
• Canada
24 Jul 10
I think it's very sad watching someone go through it. I have a friend whose in this kind of relationship. I can't tell you how much I wish she'd just move on and find somebody else. She deserves to be happy, I just don't understand why she stays with her spouse.
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
23 Jul 10
There are so many levels of love we can encounter in life's journey. One of the most difficult loves to bear has to be unrequited love. This is love that is not returned no matter how desperate you are to make it be. Giving your heart to someone and having them refuse it is a disappointment and rejection that breaks our hearts. Some handle it better than others. Some can not handle it at all. There is just no guarantee that when you love someone, they will love you back. All you can do is give your love and hope that is accepted. Unrequited love is not something our hearts look forward to. It is just a chance we take.
@carpediem17 (1315)
• Singapore
23 Jul 10
Unrequited love provides a dull ache which stays with you for awhile and often targets the younger group of people. The older folks would have a sense of deja vu and adopt a more practical view of it.
@bkrm_gupt (219)
• India
23 Jul 10
As we know that unrequited love.which is not return back.so i feel the same situation the most painful as well as happiness in our life.
@rjkmrr (172)
• India
23 Jul 10
"Love" being an intangible we can't keep them hold. We can love every one but can't expect back the same. It is kind of illusionary, it wont stick for so long it gets fade away after sometime at that moment other person can't keep them hold.
@jalishamccoy (76)
• United States
23 Jul 10
Well I think it really sucks for certain people. Maybe it happened to me when I was in middle school, but later on I found out it's okay and it's better off to wait for someone to come in my life. Then I met my husband in 9th grade. He was my first boyfriend and first everything. He taught me a lot of things I didn't know about being in a relationship and he was the most perfect thing I ever met in my life. We are still together and extra happy. =)
@gaboni (644)
• Israel
23 Jul 10
it is a teenager's thing to love someone who does not love them back
most of the times it ends badly, but it helps the person to be matured.
other times it ends bad when the person is trying to put an end to his life when he understand that it wont work.
only at tv shows that self love is working, and then the person finds out that the one he loved love him too.
@tomitomi (5429)
• Singapore
23 Jul 10
Hi santosmarichris!
I would have cried my heart out years back. But if it were to happen now I would tell myself that should be a good reason behind all these. 
@jonnifc (1017)
• Philippines
23 Jul 10
I think most of us at some point of our lives have experienced this. It's always a mixture of happiness and sadness. Happy because you are inspired by the one you love. But sad because you don't get what you want from him or her. Not only that, it's painful to accept that you will never experience all that you hope for with this person. Well, sometimes love makes us do stupid things. Like hope for something that will never come. But, like they say, it's better to have loved that never to have loved at all. =)
@edwardjoy2000 (2387)
• United Arab Emirates
23 Jul 10
I have been going through this situation for sometime. I love my wife a lot my in the past few days she has been ignoring me. But i know the power of love. i know a day will come when she return the double of it.
@swn_chik (266)
• India
23 Jul 10
Unrequited love is the love that you didn't get in return and i have experienced this pain for myself..but now i think i am over coming with it...so no worries.
@kshp_dpk (213)
• India
23 Jul 10
I had experience for it.My husband left me alone.Yes I love him truly but I left me.
