what should you do if your best friend loves your boyfriend?

Your story is a bit similar to mine. One of my best friends, my boyfriend and I belonged to the same class back in high school. My best friend had a huge crush on my boyfriend. But it turned out that he liked me. (I'm sure you know how complicated it was). In the end, my boyfriend and I got together. My friend and I had a heart-to-heart talk (sounds cheesy, but it worked!). We remain friends up to this day. And the best part is that my boyfriend and I are already on our 8th year together. I'm not an expert on this but I suggest you keep your communication lines open. Talk to your friend (if you really are bothered) and tell her how you feel. If she's a real friend, she'll understand you. Do the same with your boyfriend. I hope everything will work out for you.

In my opinion, texting the bestfriend's boyfriend more rather than the bestfriend is a clear sign of something alarming. That's just me okay. If you trust your boyfriend as well as your bestfriend, then its your risk to take. It may also burn you in the end but lets not hope it happens. I really don't think its appropriate for your bestfriend to be frequently texting your boyfriend especially when they quarrel with her boyfriend. It's her lone time. And she keeps herself busy or her mind off her problem by communicating with your man rather than you? What's up with that? I know you trust your man esp that you've been dating for 2 years already. I'm assuming that you trust your bestfriend considering that she's your "best" friend. Trust is really the only thing/power that you have over. I suggest that you'll just observe, have a keen eye, don't be too stressed out over someone texting your boyfriend . not unless your boyfriend does something suspicious or something unusual. Just be observant on what's going on. Ask for updates and hope that your boyfriend spills whatever your bestfriend tells him thru text. If it is more than just a friendly text communication, then confront your bestfriend if possible. Best of luck

Maybe you should talk to your friend's boyfriend. If they are getting along well, then your friend will simply have no reason to have touch with your boyfriend. Unless she has a more progressive move, trust her. She may has her problem as well.

Invite her to a 3some. LOL

what can she do more to harm me!!! she took the most precious thing i can have in life then she is the enemy enemies shout be casted out ...shouldn't she!!!

she knows he is your boyfriend doesnt she? so you wont lose her bcs of that. dont leave your bf bcs of your best friend. even she loves him she must respect you bcs she knows he is commited with you. i understand you dont like to see your friend sad bcs she loves him since long too but is not your fault if he loved you and also you love him so dont think about leave him for no reason^^ also if she has a bf she shouldnt send so many texts to your bf or love him. she should love her bf. and if she loves your bf she shouldnt be with other guy bcs we dont have the right to use someone to forget someone else.

You can't change the choices of your friend. Trying to hold on to both, may cause you to lose both. If you intend to marry this boy friend, then do so, and tough luck for your best friend. If you do not intend to marry this boy, and he decides to love this other girl, then let her have him. Staying where you are, will only result in more tension and problems. Remember that marriage is the hardest, most difficult relationship in life. You need to protect it as much as you can. So if your girl friend is driving a wedge between you and your future husband, you need to do what you can to eliminate that wedge.

For me it is happened in me also what i do is to get change if your boyfriend love him better than your then let go because your boyfriend is not happy for you.

You say your best friend was in love with your boy friend earlier and then he fell in love you. Did he fell in love with you on a rebound or was he looking for greener pastures. May be he wanted to conquer new horizons. Whatever it is, to me your relationship with your boyfriend appears to be in doldrums. After all, she is his old flame. At least she has not forgotten him. The best thing you must do is to talk it down and get the truth straight from horse's mouth. Find out what they want. First, confront your boy friend and then confront her. Give them a free choice. If he goes, back to her then forget him and if he does not that, he would still be yours forever.

Hi,girl,it is dangerous when your girlfriends always sents text messanges to your bf so frequently as per you said.But don't worry,if you bf really love u,you can choose one day to chat with your feeling what maybe increase emotion between both when you bf know you care about him.Meanwhile,you imply u goodgirlfriend far way from him,using some euphemistic words.because of you love u bf,so you must protect u blessedness all the time.

I had the same issue with my best friend and my boyfriend. It wasn't handled well so now they are my ex boyfriend and EX best friend. There is basically an unwritten rule in relationships to stay away from your friends boyfriends or ex boyfriend, they are off limits. If your friend doesn't follow that rule, you should evaluate your friendship. Can you really trust her? With my friend, I discovered she's not trustworthy, and if she tries to get with my boyfriend she's not a real friend. Talk to your friend and let her know its making you feel uncomfortable. I never talked to my friend about it, and my friend kept trying to get my boyfriend. Well now he's apparently in love with her and she loves him too. It still hurts a lot every time she talks about this and about him..

As per by my view ,if you really have trust and faithful in your boyfriend and he really cares for you then you don't have to worry.On the other side you should talk to her and give indirectly advice about her boyfriend in order to keep relation with her boyfriend and also with you.

this is really depend on yourself. there is not anyone who can help you. you must make sure which one is most imortant to you. if it is your boyfriend, then you must lose your best friend. on the contrary, if you think your best friend is too important for you, then you must leave your borfriend ...you just can not have both of them...this is just my point of view...

This is really a hard question for everyone in your condition. If i were you, i'm also not know what to do. I don't want to lose my best friend, but most importantly I don't want to lose my boyfriend. So, this is really depend on you. You must ask yourself who is most significant to you. Then you will get a perfect answer1

First of all, you should stop being paranoid. It's 2010. Men and women can be friends without anything untoward going on. It doesn't sound like your best friend is trying to make any moves on your man. It just sounds like she's trying to be his friend which is a good thing. She may have been in love with him before. But from what you posted, it doesn't sound like there are any obvious signs that she is trying to take him. Unless you left something out of your post, I don't see what the problem is. It seems perfectly normal to call your friends when you are fighting with your significant other. Isn't the point of friends to provide support in those times. Talk to your friend, talk to your boyfriend. Confess your worry and let it go. If you keep pursuing this route, you'll end up facilitating what you don't want to have happen.

I know you are not going to like what I'm about to say but it might be time to get a new friend and get a new boyfriend. If you are happy the boyfriend will leave her alone. I've had a problem because my "BFF" has told me on a couple of occasions that she wanted to still be friends with my ex and hang out with him. Claiming it was because they were friends before we met. Well, she was the one that wanted us to meet. She was the one that besides the other girls he was cheating on me with, wanted to tell me that he was no good for me, but yet he's good enough for her to hang out with him and talk to him, but supposedly she has her boyfriend that was living with her at the time and she's not going after my ex. I told her that I wasn't going to condone her actions. I told her that me and her were done. And for the most part we are done. I don't talk to her unless she texts me. But even then it's short and to the point. I don't disclose anything tho her anymore and i don't hang out with her at her house any more. You can get another boyfriend or another friend for that matter and one that understands what your needs are and one that won't go after guys you've been with. It's almost like they compete with you by dating who you've dated or go after a guy that you had your eye on and it's all because it's more important for them to be with somebody than for you to be happy.

Woah that's never good because you never know when she might try to seduce your boyfriend so you need to watch out for that you never know. Wow if my bestfriend ever loved my boyfriend I do not know how I would react to that. I would probably be upset. Also she keeps in touch with your boyfriend with text messages never a good sign so you know be cautious of this.

you have said that its just a feel of yours that your best friend may be loving your boy friend. pls dont have such a feel within yourself as it may spoil the beautiful relationship of friendship and love. just be free to speak to your best friend about this. my best wishes for your successful love and the precious friendship to last ever.

trust your boyfriend,..for me, you won't be able to make your relationship that long if he doesn't love you truly,. and maybe you should check out already on your best friend,cause approaching your boyfriend instead of you in times of trouble, does really mean something,..but you still can gain her if you would talk with her in the most appropriate and respectful way,..let her know her limitations as a friend of the both of you (you and your boyfriend). and if she is really the best one you got as a friend, trust her also,..take care and love her like you never done before, for you might not know if you have to choose someday bet. her and him, you can still find a more better guy than her, but do you think you could find a one of a kind friend like her? this are just the points you should considered with. I am not in the right position to tell you who is the one to choose, it's going to be just you, yourself and God. Goodluck dear.

Trust your boyfriend. Your boyfriend seems to be just acting like a friend to your best friend, since she is your best friend. As long as you don't fall short of showing your love to your boyfriend, don't worry too much. Since he courted you for years, I think that's enough reason for you to be confident enough that he really loves you. As for your best friend, I think she sees your boy friend as a boy friend that she never has. If she still loves your boy friend, I think you just let her and not try to deprive her of that. She's just human, and has a weakness, too. You also love, so you must be the one to understand her more than anyone else. Just think that that feeling will just fade eventually if it is not reciprocated. I think you and you're best friend are still young? When she becomes more mature, she will stop doing things like that to your boyfriend. Be more patient and understanding, and trust both of them. First your boyfriend, that he will not leave you because he loves you. Second you best friend, that even if she has a feeling for your boyfriend, she will not try to steal him away from you.