Do you trust your judgement of men? I don't..........................

I don't trust my judgement. I don't think I even have any judgement at all. I've made so many mistakes with guys its ridiculous. I could go from liking really good guys to liking bad boys and thinking they're good regardless of what they do. Now my moddo is not to trust anything or anyone, I just give guys a really long time to prove they're good, and it takes a lot. I don't want to get attached to another person who's going to do something bad to me.

aww you are right me also im not a good one judging men ahah i also have bad luck bcs they say they care and in the end im the one always caring :( anyway you need to trust men yes bcs not all are the same and if you think you must not accept maybe you lose the opportunity to be with a guy that was a good one. so if you feel i want to risk just risk. we all get hurt and sad but one day we all find someone right so maybe he can be that one and bcs fear you say no and lose him. forget what happened before and think you will find a better man next time^^ just risk and im sure you will be loved and very happy^^

linda4ualways40, One cannot attempt to Love without risking being hurt again. Like two side of a coin, it is just part of the deal as you accept Love into your life. When you open the floodgate, you take in all things, both good and bad. As much as we all believe that Love must indeed come naturally, our 'Self' component must provide the fertile ground for such natural occurrence to manifest into reality. This 'Self' component, namely our personality and what steps we take to render ourselves more socially desirable, not merely in the physical sense, but also as a person emotionally, psychologically and spiritually positive. The theory of probability is self explanatory: if you want to find someone suitable, you got to get out of your house and start meeting people. When your social network improves, the chance for you to find someone suitable gets better, as compared to solitary activities that could only drive some meager mileage for you in aspects of Love. If you reckon that certain channels are not suitable, it's perfectly alright. Learn to develop interest and expand your social network through the interest you invest yourself with. Also, do not adopt self-defeating mindset because it's very much a vicious cycle - as much as you are pressured socially to be attached, this beget from a negative source: namely pressure. Hence, your attitude towards knowing someone is always about accessing someone if he/she is suitable for you. Then if things isn't what you reckon it to be, you get dejected, you become more withdrawn and whole cycle repeats itself Here's a truth: the more negative a person is, the more likely he/she will attract negative mate. Lack of confidence produces negative aura - hence, your disappointment in men that you meet are merely corroboration of reality - through the synergy of both your thoughts and feelings - manifest as latent effect. Some people decide that Love will come naturally. But I can tell you from a sociological perspective, with the elimination of a socializing agent, such as a work place, your social circle should get smaller unless steps are taken to ensure that it doesn't. And again with the law of probability, your chances, naturally, get worst because, like you have found out, people are either attached/married or their psycho-graphic is entirely off the chart. I say, invest more time in yourself and simultaneously develop your social circle. And learn to eliminate guilt from your heart - not being attached does NOT suggest that something is wrong with you. It simply means that you have to develop yourself more in a wholesome sense, so that the attraction can take place when you have work on that 'Self' component. Remember problem doesn't lie with the people we meet, it rest with the choice we make... from the people we meet. So much for now, have a nice weekend.

You keep saying "God bless". So... what does G-d tell you to do?

I dont know what women look at when they fall for women. Why do such a thing if they just have to be with them for just a couple of years. I have been in relation for the past 6 years and married to the same girl. I married her bcos we had a physical relation and i loved her lots. She didnt want to marry me in the begining, but i made her understand. Now we are happy. But i have seen a lot of relations break just within 2 years or even less.

Hi! I had been in relationship with women for like 11 times already and I don't say that I don't trust women. It's just an issue of late find out of not compatible between each others and some because of restriction from family either from mine or my ex. I still not giving up though and just continue life as it should until I accidentally bump to someone who are compatible with me from the start until the end. Everything had their own reason to happen. Just don't give up, linda!

You must feel frustrated about your unsucessful love experience right now.Take it easy,these men is just not suitable for you.I believe gaps between you will become even larger if you get married. Breaking up your relationship in time is much better than getting entangled in terrible situation in the future,right? Just try to be more confident right now. Back to your topic,I think there is always extra examples in all domains,the same circumstance in people's judgements about others.We can't use our intuition to judge a person all the time.Sometimes those who I considered as playboys in first sight are not like what I thought at all.I am taking my efforts not to be instinctive only any more.I am trying to know about my friends(not only men) well in means of dealing with them instead of judgement directly.