Fear of rejection..........

Hi durgabala! Sometimes just one rejection is all it takes to lay a lasting impression in someone. I've seen this in a friend. The fear of rejection is very real. Perhaps it is in your friend too and that's why she is not taking the first step in proposing although they know and is friendly towards each other. Do you think it would help her if you speak to the guy and ask him to make the first move? If he is not interested you might as well tell your friend not to waste her time to save her from the slap of being rejected if she were to ask him herself?

yes i understand her ^^ but she must come closer to him even if she doesnt say how she feels she can try to spend more time near him or ask him to go somewhere with her^^ they are friends so she can invite him to go somewhere together. she doesnt need to be afraid^^ if he rejects he will be stupid is just go out together is nothing wrong. about she tells how she feels she doesnt need to bcs in that date she will see how he feels i guess^^ bcs they will spend time alone.

durgabala, After reading what is being posted, I just want to ask the reason for advising your friend into rushing to take over the initiative when the both of them are seeming in the early stages of the relationship. Also, being one that does not like people doing what they do not like or feel comfortable with, so as a friend it is important that we learn how to play that supporting role. Besides, I feel that only your friend will be able to know what's best for her and her relationship. So, take a step back and let her figure it out for herself. Have a nice weekend.

I do have the same experience with your friend and I completely agree with her not taking the first step. First of all, it is a big risk to take because it MIGHT ruin their good friendship which could be a great avenue for them to further develop their feelings. Another thing to be taken into consideration is that GENERALLY, men usually make the moves if they are into a girl. Maybe she can have a longer assessment of their situation, making sure that the friendship will not jeopardize so that it would be easier for her to take the rejection. Just a thought. :D

From my point of view,i can know by his character's and the way he act.Wait for some time or maybe he didn't got the confident to propose, same like her.If it has fear of rejection ,you can ask favor to some of your close friend to ask indrectly whether he having girlfriend or not. That's what i think............best of luck

This really is hard. I also fear rejection. But you know what? I thought of it this way: if I won't make a move, who will? if I won't try, what will happen? I don't like to live a life that's full of "what ifs". It really is hard. But if your friend thinks that its worth the risk, why not go for it?

Well, no, but yikes! proposal? Why doesn't she just ask him out for a date or something. It doesn't have to be so serious when she's not even sure if the guy has feelings for her. And if she does get rejected, oh well. You just move on. Life continues.