Why there are some people who are not aware they are hurting somebody's feelings

Your statement makes me wonder, while you're formulating your words, are you afraid to get hurt by the words of others? Because most of the time, whatever you think is what you'll always get. All I can say is be the true you. You may be sensitive enough, and that is good, but do not over do it because you tend to show what you're hiding. A small concrete example of what I mean is, you see someone who has a...um...what's the term? "Morning star" on the eye. How do you tell that person without hurting him? There are times also, that one person prefers to be hurt by the truth of what you think than not knowing at all, which would make the two of you uncomfortable with each other. And besides, it might not be because they don't know... it's just that they may think that if they were you, they would prefer to be hurt compared to not knowing anything at all. I don't know much how to say the things that pop into my head...I'll try to research on it some more since I am being overwhelmed by many ideas right now. I hope this helps though!

You sounds so nice and almost angelic. But, I would get as far away from you as I can for I don't want to hurt you and I don't want to see you change into other than you. Does it make sense? I am the reverse of your character. Not that I want to hurt people, but I would say whatever I want to say even knowing it will hurt the person. The nicest thing that I've ever done was evading the issue or getting away so that I would not hurt them. But I cannot get away all the time I don't want to hurt someone, so I accept the consequences. I have a bitter sweet relationship with my boss wife. She hates my gut in voicing my own opinions (which mostly are differ from her's) but she will hate me more when I do not say anything cause she knows then that I am evading the issue not to hurt her, that means I am not in agreement with her. I think she likes me to voice my opinion better then hiding it because she then knows how to react and what to say to me. So, these people you mentioned maybe just like me.

Hi airsheila, The golden rule! I was about 6 when my aunt gave me a little gold notebook and in it she wrote the golden rule. It was the first in many quotes that she and my father added to this little book . Stand by your own convictions and don't get discouraged by those that don't feel or act as you would.

Some they know what would be the reaction if we happen to question her but there will be some who never know and seems as if doing intentionally.there will be many reasons why they are not aware, reasons will be absent minded,innocent,short temper,self boss and ego person.

Applying the golden rule to your everyday life is great aira but u should do it wholeheartedly. your opinion gives me the description that you are practicing the golden rule but expecting something positive in return. That shouldn't always be the case. We must remember that we are still living in a world where majority of the people are in a disposition of pessimism. God said: "Be good even though others are not for you will get more out of it than they do". You should practice the rule wholeheartedly, meaning you should be happy for you are treating your friends well and fell good about yourself w/o expecting anything in return from them for i am sure in the end, God will give you the benefits. :)

maybe because at that time they are simply thinking about themselves or someone else and not you and thus they might not know that u got hurt.

Hi Aira. Just go on with what you are doing, for you are at the right track. I would like to say that there are people who like hurting other people's feeling once they are hurt-it means they have the resentful heart and are ready to get even. There are also those who think that what they do or say do not hurt at all. Thus, if we get hurt by someone whom we think he was not aware that he hurt us, it would be better to tell what we feel to him rather than just being passive and accepting the hurts. In return, we can actually help the other person be fully aware of what he says or does the next time Cheers!^^

Dear airasheila, Actually it's not about hurting somebody's feelings. just honesty requires the appropriate time. goodluck

Ya... I totally agree we should not hurt anybody's feelings, but sometimes it's better to be frank and direct for may be the person's own good. And because you have much empathy dosen't mean that everybody have it but you should try to stick to your principals irrespective of the returns

Ya... I totally agree we should not hurt anybody's feelings, but sometimes it's better to be frank and direct for may be the person's own good. And because you have much empathy dosen't mean that everybody have it but you should try to stick to your principals irrespective of the returns

Its great to apply the golden rule to your daily life aira, but u must do it wholeheartedly. Your opinion about the golden rule gives me the description that you are applying the golden but expecting something positive in return. That shouldn't always be the case, The rule does not practice by everybody but it is applicable to everybody. We must still remember that we are living in a place where people are in a disposition of pessimism. as God said, "be kind even though others are not for you will get more out of it than they do. The golden rule is to be practiced wholeheartedly, means you should feel happy for your friends since you treat them well and feel good about it without expecting anything in return for God is their to give you the benefits. ;)

Applying the golden rule to your everyday life is great aira, but u should pratice the golden rule wholeheartedly. Your opinion gives me the description that you are practicing the golden but expecting something positive in return from them. That shouldn't always be the case. We must remember that we are still living in a place where people are in a disposition of pessimism. God said: "be good even though others are not for you will get more out of it than they do". You should practice the golden rule wholeheartedly, meaning you should feel happy for your friends because you treat them well and fell good about it w/o expecting anything in return. Yes the rule is not common, Its not even practiced by everybody, but it will always be applicable to everybody!, for in the end, God will give you the benefits. ",

Applying the golden rule to your everyday life is great aira, but u should pratice the golden rule wholeheartedly. Your opinion gives me the description that you are practicing the golden but expecting something positive in return from them. That shouldn't always be the case. We must remember that we are still living in a place where people are in a disposition of pessimism. God said: "be good even though others are not for you will get more out of it than they do". You should practice the golden rule wholeheartedly, meaning you should feel happy for your friends because you treat them well and fell good about it w/o expecting anything in return. Yes the rule is not common, Its not even practiced by everybody, but it will always be applicable to everybody!, for in the end, God will give you the benefits. ",

Applying the golden rule to your everyday life is great aira, but u should pratice the golden rule wholeheartedly. Your opinion gives me the description that you are practicing the golden but expecting something positive in return from them. That shouldn't always be the case. We must remember that we are still living in a place where people are in a disposition of pessimism. God said: "be good even though others are not for you will get more out of it than they do". You should practice the golden rule wholeheartedly, meaning you should feel happy for your friends because you treat them well and fell good about it w/o expecting anything in return. Yes the rule is not common, Its not even practiced by everybody, but it will always be applicable to everybody!, for in the end, God will give you the benefits. ",

Wow! You just used the absolute word ALWAYS. You are right about the fact that there are some people who don't think much and couldnt empathize other's feeling, but i dont think there is someone who never hurts someone. C'est la vie. Sometimes we can't control other's emotional state and how they perceive things. Aside from the obvious pain and hurtful words, there are thing that might hurt other, but not to you or that you might be hurt, but not them.