We live only once in our life time. Will you follow your heart or your head?

i think, some where in your discussion, u have told that u have a boy friend...but now ur reply now is someway different !!

@gunagohan. Heart broken? lolz.. She can have a boyfriend yesterday and totally free today. Come on she is a woman..hehehe @hushi22 Date does not mean you love a person. Date is just I want to know you more thing. Its like a matching game. You see if its fits or not. .. Love...hmp. You said love.. but it seems you don't find one yet? Or you did?

Yeah that is true. But you miss the point of this thread. If you have wealth already then its means you don't need to work to achieve it because you have it already. My thread is about being poor. And Its a struggle of choosing between marrying your girlfriend or pursue your dream of better life along with your family.

You have a point in their. Maybe we can not earn much if we pursue our dream. But earning less but having two of you can augment the loss of opportunity that you pass away. Soon with two of you doing things together some how you can earn enough to have a seed for better future.

I just want to add up. Even if you choose career sometimes career don't end up good. Just like me. I choose career and got high paying job for 6 years only to loss that job. Now I can't find another job simply because my previous job can't be use as reference because of its confidential in nature. So I can't talk about it if I look for new job.

That's right. And if you are stable then you can have the love of your life. Believe me. Nobody has find a true love in first time. Many have many break ups before they can find a true person to marry. And even married some still get divorce. But one thing is sure. Once you have money to spend every thing seems too easy.

Okay.. just one question. What if your girlfriend ask you this question. Marry me and leave your basketball career or pursue your dream to play in NBA but for your your doing it alone because I'm leaving you. Now what will you choose?

I don't know if you really comprehend my thread or not. This is a one way ticket. If you choose two then this thread is not for you. Because this thread are only to does who have no choice but to choice either of them. Read previous response and you will notice how people can interact. And does who interact is base on their experience. How old are you? Are you married? Do you have financial difficulty? Are you in love? This are the question that you need to experience in order to relate.

I agree. Heads is to achieve while heart is to sacrifice. Lets face it. Why do we go to school? To learn to be better. Theirs no school of how to follow your heart. But theirs a school on how to follow our dreams.

Actually its still depends on your financial status as of now. For example if you are a son of Bill Gates do you still thinking of financial gain? Come on..I will choose love. Because I know I don't need to think finance since I can live with my life time with that wealth I will receive. But what if you are a son of a farmer in a third world country? Who can only eat once a day? then you find an opportunity to have a decent job that will give food three times a day in your family table.. But then your girlfriend make you choose. Marry her or your new found job. What will you choose? .. Actually its really hard to answer if you really don't have much problem in finance. But if you do. I can say every dollar earning is worth a living. Especially knowing that its already your meal.

You keep yourself away from the temptation of financial quest. As you give your future in Gods command. .. I will tell you a story. Once theirs a high priest. Respected by many because of his words and wisdom. One day as he is walking in a street. An old man full of dirt and grease suddenly fall down. The old man ask the high priest for help. But the high priest respond. .. Sir as I want to help you I don't want my white robe to get dirty. As you can see I'm a high priest and my white robe is a symbol of purity. And its a sacrilege if a dot of dirt and worse the grease in your body stain my robe. .. And as you said. Where your treasure lies, there is where your hear can be found.. Funny is not it? You don't want financial gain but your hear is in treasure chest. And what get in your mind if you say treasure chest? Pirates.. And what do pirate want and do? lolz.

If you stand up you realize that your head is much upper than your heart. So I think theirs no question which is which. Beside love can wait but financial success don't. The early you work and invest the more time you can enjoy your money while growing old.

You don't have to eat your word my friend. Because in life we choose its not about right or wrong. Yeah you make mistakes sometimes but its because we choose that path it does not mean its wrong. We are just not that lucky. .. I agree stability then family. Money then love.

Then why not make a reply once you have decided what you want to choose really.. Your words are full but hollow. Loss and shallow. Some times the hardest thing is not to decide but to let go. We know how to decide, We know how to choose. But we just don't know how to give up one for another.

If you stand up head is always above your heart. So right now you know what to follow. And about choosing love and financial gain will follow. I give you a situation. What if your in military. And your girlfriend ask you to marry her and stop working in military. What then? will you choose your girlfriend or your career?

But this thread is about choosing one only. I give you an example. You want to work in United States as the greatest engineer of a top secret laboratory. But your girlfriend want you to stay and marry her. Now your united states dream is since you are 6 years old. You been number one until you get your doctorate. In short that is your life. Your dream and destiny. The reason for this is because you live in a poor family. Your father is picking up garbage to sell so that he can put you in school.. .. Now will you give up your dream, your family dream for you just to marry your girlfriend or not? .. You can't choose two because your girlfriend is asking you to choose her or your dream.

Okay.. Just to make it clear.Love is not a dream.. Or financial dream that is. Have you wish you can have this and that. A house, a ferrari a 50 million dollars. Do you have a dream like that? Then that dream come true with one of a company offer you a position. But to accept that position means you must live abroad for 25 years. Now your girlfriend don't want to go. She ask you to choose. Marry her or go abroad and pursue your dream. Now what will you choose?

This is the second time about love then financial comes.. But in my neighborhood 90% is still poor after they choose love than financial opportunity and does who achieve financial success most of them just split up for reasons only they know. Because the woman earn more or because the man earn more etc..insecurity of one from another. So I think from the start its always one way ticket..not two way ticket.

That is a start of love.. Do you know how many ring are their in marriage? Three. engagement ring wedding ring and suffering. What make you think you will be happy after you choose love and marry the person you love? Many people make a mistakes and end up in divorce. While people who choose financial stability marry late in life and live happily.

That what I'm trying to say all day. We are not living in a simple life anymore. Gone are days that love alone can keep us together. Right now money is what keep us together. We do have needs and we needs something that only money or the help of money can make us happy. I go out and go to a mall and theirs a thing or two that I really love to buy but I can't ..Now how much more if you have a family. Seeing them that they want this and they want that. Especially children. Even you know in a week your child maybe forget about it. But deep in your heart you know if you have money you will buy that thing for your child.

At this time? Its hard to start with love then gain financially later. Because once you choose love its hard to earn but financial burden will just compiling up. Children are growing and so the spending but the earnings will keep on and even decrease in value if you add inflation.