What type of people are really happy?
By vijayanths
@vijayanths (7877)
India
July 23, 2010 9:20pm CST
There are three types of people.
1.workaholic- they work more, spend less time with family-generally rich.
2.work not very hard, not less-they can spend reasonable time with family-medium rich generally.
3.lazy people-can spend a lot of time with family.poor generally.
which type are you?
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27 responses
@achilles2010 (3051)
• India
24 Jul 10
Hi Vijay, to answer your question given in the caption in your post I must say that the people who bring peace of mind to others and are able to make others happy alone can be happy. Those who make other people's life miserable and disturb peace of mind of others are never happy.
Among the three types of people I think I am type 2.
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@vijayanths (7877)
• India
24 Jul 10
hi, achilles, I do agree that happiness about the mind set of individual mostly. Glad to note you belong to type 2.
@perrywinkleb (53)
• United States
24 Jul 10
I'm probably the first type but can honestly say during the weekends I spend all my time with my family and am an extremely (sometimes so much it annoys people) happy person, but I do sometimes wish I could have dinner with my family more often.
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@vijayanths (7877)
• India
24 Jul 10
hi, perrywinkleb, it's good to work hard and spend time with family.. I think if you make the time quality time, then this is perhaps the best type.
@France7 (385)
• Philippines
24 Jul 10
Hi vija. in my opinion, happiness can only be found in Jesus who gives contentment in our hearts. There are people who are exemplary rich but are not happy; there are also people who are not well-off but are happy. Others also think they are happy but their happiness is temporary. Thus, real happiness is only found in God alone...Cheers!
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
26 Jul 10
hi, france, Jesus can provide peace to you.you can seem materialistic happiness with your family.you can enjoy happiness through spiritual ways as well.Not all can take up spiritual life though.Glad to note you are a spiritual person.I always respect spiritual persons.
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
26 Jul 10
hi, kingsizewe, that's really a new kind.So no family problems or worries for you? you can be happy with whatever you have and be content with it. You can also find happiness if you have that cool attitude towards life.This is my opinion. I am sure many will differ my views.
@mario_stevens (6971)
• Malaysia
24 Jul 10
i'm in a different category... i work hard and i play hard. i was a lazy bum when i was a kid, and i turned into a sort of workaholic when i started my first job. i'm still trying to balance myself now
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
26 Jul 10
hi,mario, nice to note you are a kinda workaholic person.I personally want to be a workaholic man and at the same time want to spend quality time with dear ones(quality matters than quantity)In that way I think I will be happier.I hate lazy people.I can't tolerate them.
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
24 Jul 10
So mario, you do not belong to ant of the category mentioned above but a mixture of all those or totally different an entity.
Hope by the next spring you balance yourself.
@lkbooi (16070)
• Malaysia
25 Jul 10
Hi vijayanths, I'm neither born in a rich nor medium rich family. Before and after marriage I'm happy living in a well-off family that are respective with enough income for the family daily expenses. After graduation I enjoy life with my daily work in the office which interests me. It's true that I'm really hard working and would engross in my work fully during office hours.
after leaving the office I forget all about the work and I just enjoy the rest of the time doing what I'm interest. I cherish the happy moment together with my family. I don't pursue luxurious life. I'm satisfied with all the basic and essential needs I possess at the moment. I feel really content to live a happy and healthy and simple family life with my loved ones
Have a nice day
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
4 Aug 10
The Answer is all of the above. There arew people out there who Love their work , even more than their family. If they Had to stop working , they would stop living.And then there are people who balance work with family time, they love both equally so they split their time. I don't think All the poor are lazy and that all lazy people are poor. But there are people who love beig lazy. So it is All of the above.
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
24 Jul 10
It is pretty obvious that people on the medium rich is the one that is happy. But it really depends on the happiness of people. Some who work more and less time with their family are happy, maybe because they earning more money, they can buy what they want, they can tour to different countries, they can anything they wanted. Maybe they are still happy for what they achieved. Some of them might be lonely since they have no time with their loved ones.On the lazy part, who will be happy if you are lazy. the life is boring on that side, you have no job, you are always at home and everyone in the family seems frustrated with life and you will be absorbing all the negative energy coming from them because you have no money. That is worst. REally unhappy. I don't want to live that kind of life. My life is this, working hard for my family, but have time for my family and I am not rich. I sometimes happy and sometimes sad. Happiness not only lies because you are rich and have money.
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
26 Jul 10
grecy, I think, you are right that people who are medium rich find reasonable time to spend with family.They also have less worries.I liked your words "My life is this, working hard for my family, but have time for my family and I am not rich."I think you can be really happy.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Jul 10
hi vijayanths before I married,in my twenties I was a real workaholic but once I got married I had loved ones to care for and be cared by. I slowed down some so I could work just until the ninth month of my pregnancy then I quit my job as one doctor saw me up on my hands and knees tring to give a bedbath to his own cou sin who weighed about four hundred pounds. He asked me what month I w as in when I told him, he took my arm and marched me into the head nurses office and demanded that she give me a leave of absence right then. He told me that what I was doing was a good way to lose one's baby. Of course that I did not want to do. But I found that having two babies in 11 months was a daunting and exhausting situation so my dear hubby began to help me in the evenings, He would bathe our babies, put them to bed and help me with the dishes too. I was really happiest d uring my married years as I wo rked butnot really hard and had time for my family too.
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
25 Jul 10
Hatley, I think it's natural that you are a workaholic before marriage.After marriage some people particularly Indian women slow down their working as they want to spend more time for family. Nice to note your husband shared your work with you.I am happy that you experienced a happy married life.
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
24 Jul 10
Happiness comes from contentment or satisfaction to be more precise. No one from the tree you mentioned could be happy and all three could at the same time. This is more of a case of situation and circumstance.
If the Workaholic is not happy if he feel that he is done with too much of works he is stressed. Secondly wok not very hard too can be happy if he sees all his necessity are fulfilled. So is the case with the lazy and poor fellow. He is more happy in other words for he is more in touch with his family and he has his meas for survival.
Finally, it depends on how one has perceived things.
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
24 Jul 10
hi, krajibg, it's true happiness is about the mind set of individual mostly. People who work very hard generally miss family love and happiness.There are exceptions in anything. A person who works very hard may not be rich sometimes. This discussion will not be relevant to exceptional cases.thanks.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
25 Jul 10
hello anna,
I agree with 1 and 2 partly,but with number 3 i can say ,i beg to disagree.
Lazy people who doesn't work also doesn't stay with their family,but stay with friends of the same kind.
They are those kind of people who only want to drink(alco and hang around)get drunk all day and go home at night and still asks for food and asks to be served or entertained (according to their needs,wants and likes)
Mostly lazy people demands for everything that they can't do and they can't afford to do.
So,i don't think lazy people find more time with their families.
Happy people are those ones who are working hard to give their family a luxurious life and everything they need even if they're lacking quality time with their family.
They had less time to spend with their family,but in their hearts,they are happy that they can provide their family everything that they need.
The second type as you mentioned are those who works less and spend time with their family are the kind of people we consider as almost perfect.
In my opinion,it is not how we give material things to our loved ones,or quality time that we spent with them that matters most.
Happy people are those ones who can make their family happy with material things and love, provided they can't spend too much time with them.
It is how one individual manage his/her time,quality time with them.
Having much time is not enough to say we are making our loved ones happy.
It is how we made them feel how much they meant to us.
Simple thoughts,a hug,a kiss and call them thru phone whenever we miss to hug and kiss them in person is enough to give them happiness without spending too much time.
We are happy when we knew we made our beloved family smile and make them feel we are happy to have them in our lives.
@vathsala30 (3732)
• India
24 Jul 10
Hi vijayanths
I belong to the second type, I hope. I will work hard but not very hard. Spend time with family too, mind my pesonal work, like surfing the net, taking a small nap, spending some time in my garden, with friends etc. I am neither very rich, nor very poor
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
24 Jul 10
hi, vathsala, nice you fall to 2nd type. Your family needs your time with them. It's nice you spend time on gardening too.
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
24 Jul 10
First of all being rich or poor has nothing to do with the time they spend with their families.
if you want to pick any one of the three options you provided then i would go for the second option.they earn money and try to with be their family---so they playing dual roles at the same time and are happy in their own terms.great day.
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
26 Jul 10
Sunny, you are right that spending time with family can definitely affect the earning potential.In general people who work very hard earn more.It meas they spend more time on business and hence can allot only less time for family.This in general affects the married life.
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
24 Jul 10
Hi vijay! I am not sure. I think that it depends on the individual.
Some people are happy working all the time some people just
have to and are miserable. I had to for many years and hated
it! I am now disabled and lazy and to be quite honest I love it!
I went through alot of hell in most of the jobs I had and don't
miss the stress and aggravation from them. I now have a different
kind of stress because I don't have enough money to live on,
but that is a whole different story.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
25 Jul 10
I would say that I am a cross between one and two. I can be a very hard worker but experience has taught me to find a happy balance between all work and all play and I think I have managed to find it these days, it has taken me years mind you! Although there is a little of the first traits in me, I am definitely not rich but I wish I was!
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
24 Jul 10
I am in the second choice. I work not so hard and have time to spend with my family. I was thankful for that because i can rest and at the same time I am with them. If i dont have work or job it will gonna bore me. I really hate working inside the house but i dont have a choice. Working home and job outside is my life today. Thanks and have a nice day!
@mercedlegurpa (955)
• Philippines
24 Jul 10
Hi vijayanths, I'm poor and sometimes have a job sometimes I don't have. I spend most of my time with my family. For me it's hard to stay at home all the time. My family members get used to it and they became lazy. Now they don't want me to work but I'm still trying to get odd jobs like I'm teach primary level students during my free time.
@fishdreamer17 (31)
• Philippines
25 Jul 10
people who see life in a positive way are usually the ones who are happy. I believe that people who appreciate the "bad" in life get to have the most fun in life because they enjoy the "bad"... and so much more the good times. :)