Is what I am doing right?

It is just so recently that we acquired Skype. Before we just e-mail each other but that is quite a bit not an option because other people may see it. Privacy is not an option on my father's place at that time because in order for the seamen to receive their mails, it'll have to be passed in this certain account that is always open. We'll just have to indicate (the sender) who's this e-mail directed to. Anyways... nobody in our family can actually talk to him because he's a very close-minded person. He's the type of person who hears what he wants to hear and gets mad when what he's heard irritates him. He has way too many problems and worries because he worries over little things so much that he tends to be overwhelmed by stress. If only you could see his face, you'll see a very tired person so full of negative energy and stress and very sick. Just thinking about it makes me shiver in fear. Back to the topic at hand, I don't see why he would not trust me in whatever I do--especially with his money. I never did anything that would bring shame on him or on the family name that he would want to monitor everything I do. Do forgive me for my defensive and bratty behavior-- But I never see anything in my history that he would find fault with aside for my behavior at home which is quite a bit unladylike. I have no vices aside for reading too much manga or watching many animes or reading my mom's old pocket books or just lock myself at home. Anyway...After a bit of talking to him, I decided to tell him about my future plans. And whether if he approves of it or not, I'll decided whether to pursue it or no. I'll go for it as long as I think that it is right and advantageous. Whatever the consequences might be, at least I cannot blame him for anything because I decide where I go. Thanks guys for replying! I deeply appreciate it.

I agree that you should tell your father what's going on. I wouldn't say necessarily "consult" him, as much as I'd call it keeping him updated on what's going on. With all the methods of communication available these days, his being "out of the country" isn't, in my mind, a viable excuse for not notifying him of what's going on. After all, he is the one paying for your education, the least you could do is to stay in touch and keep him updated.

I was studying pedagogics and then I changed it to nursing. I also changed the school where I studied nursing, because I moved to another part of the country. It didn't affect my education, and I was able to continue my studies without taking the same exams again, but my father still got very angry.

That's maybe because he didn't think that you'll change your course... People here in my country tend to change courses very often because they think that they do not fit in their current course. Most of them never graduated because of their frequent shifting that they don't seem to belong to anything. I wish you luck that you may be able to finish what you started! And never give up!

Thank you for saying what you think! Changing the subjects you're studying? *confused* Do you mean changing your course?

Thank you so much for understanding! I'd say you're the type of person who really wants to be with her family. Bond more with your children and I assure you that you won't have the same problems as my father have with us. Salamat sa pagcomment!

I never considered myself as impulsive. However, I did make the decision in a flash. I understand that he wants to know what is happening to each an everyone of us. But having his parents monitor our every move is a bit too much don't you think? Because that's how he is doing everything! -__-

He is your father, and he wants to protect you. Sometimes, its difficult for parents to let go.

It's okay! ^_^ But...if I had waited for him, I would have to stop my schooling for a while so that he can return home. It was after about 5 months when I made the decision that he returned home. LOL!

Sorry! There was a glitch. I did not post this one.

Those are very nice encouraging words! Right now, he keeps telling me to prove to him that my decision is right. Yet he never look at my grades--URG! However, someone close to me told me that there is nothing for me to prove to him because I know that my decision is right. You reminded me of that. Thanks! I may not able to show it to him now but I can definitely jab it to his face in the near future of what I can reach. He may be old during that time because of his attitude and my mom still young because she keeps on smiling even though she's already tired but I'll definitely show my OLD MAN! Thank you so much for the support!

I see that you do not respect your father, yet you need his money.

Thanks! Well...I am already a young adult...but he still sees me as a kid. Perhaps because I am still 18 years old and all and most of the time still act like a kid. LOL!

I would only like to point out, just in case I have forgotten...I did not actually shift my course. I only shifted school. The school I was in previously is a government school= public school--and their teaching there is not very good compared to the previous school where I've graduated my high school. Actually, what happened is that when I started my 1st year college, I transferred to USEP. I was a graduate of UIC high school then I returned to UIC College. It's a bit confusing but that's how it is. The tuition fee is still within my Educational Plan--(An Educational Insurance)but much expensive compared to USEP. For short, it's like this: USEP tuition

Yeah, that's what I was told. But feelings and emotions aside, I did the logical thing right. LOL, what am I saying?! I've been staying with computers so much that I've become a non-feeling machine now. :) I've been following so much on logic and the correct answers that I never stop and look at my feelings and the feelings of others. That's another flaw I commit so frequently. Anyways, thanks for commenting!

Complain? Umm... I didn't complain on the consequences of my decisions yet. But I complain about his behavior. Nobody can talk to that guy. Even my mom is having a hard time with him. In fact, she may be having a bigger problem with him compared to me or to my siblings. Anyway, I understand what you are trying to say. But if that person is another guy, then I wouldn't have had any hard time telling him of my plans at all. Anyway, all I wanted to know whether what I am doing is right according to norm or maybe I am going away from the norm again as I usually do. Nee, once you have a very unique kid, can you please tolerate him a bit because one can never deny ones uniqueness. LOL. Just kidding! Thanks for commenting! And have a nice day! ^^

Thanks! I am happy that you see that I am very determined of what I am doing. As I have always been because I have a promise that I must keep at all cost. Right now, I am trying to keep that promise by doing the best I can in everything. Talking to my father is a good advice but I fear that the way he thinks--("static" what computer people call it)-- would bring down that determination of mine. Since this is the very first time I ever made a decision for myself that relates my future. I am afraid arguments can't be avoided in this kind of matter because I've already acted on my own without his consent. My father has way too many things on his mind. He worries too much over small matters. I can say this because I have been studying him since I was little. LOL. I don't know how to say it but I am sensitive enough to see another person's behavior.

Praised be Jesus and Mary! Oh, I do wish I could do part-time job but I am not allowed "because I must focus on my studies", that's what my parents say. Other than taking a part-time job, I have no other idea on how to help with our finances. Thinking about it, I do wish to experience a working life so that I can properly prepare to what lies ahead of me. Just for a few more years, I'll already graduate yet, I still have no idea what awaits me. To someone like me, it's like jumping over a pit and one doesn't know how deep it is. _

Thank you so much for commenting! I understand what you are saying. I've seen this kind of things happen with the people around me. However, I think this only applies to those people who are close with each other and have a very strong bond. In my case, my family bond is breaking to pieces each day, as we speak. One side gets impatient and the other trying to regain what was lost before. I may be speaking figuratively but that's the only way I know of saying it properly. My old man didn't care whether I am having a good time in school or not. I--rather, all of us present aside from my father-- noticed this when we "talked" last time about this kind of issue. I know my father loves me. He just doesn't know how to show it. My mom, thank God she's still here with me, is my strength. It was she who worried about my experiences in school. I know I lack in experience but I consulted my mom before my dad. It was she who asked me "what do you want to do?" At that time I still don't know what to do with my life. Because it'll be the very first that I'll ever make a decision for myself and for my life. I told her, "I cannot stay in USEP any longer. If this will keep up, I would ask to stop schooling for the mean time and look for at least a part-time job. I think I can learn more from there than in school." When she denied it, something went into my head.It was a memory of mine during my high school days. Then I said, "Then if I can't stop, I'll have to continue my studies in UIC." She is the one who supported my decision and cheered me up. If you must know, continuing my studies is never a big thing because they already know how much it is a must that I graduate and get a job. You can say that I am a long term investment. ^^ However, the big thing here is that my father thought that I wasted his money for enrolling in a prestigious University compared to the old and wrecking school I went to before.