Never been too nice, people just would take advantage of you
By kingparker
@kingparker (9673)
United States
July 24, 2010 8:27am CST
Hmm, that is what I learned from a real life lesson; never been too nice, some people simply would take advantage of your nice personality. Some lazy people just would take advantage of you, because you would glad to help. At work, I was used by my co - workers, "can you help me do this, and do that?" I would gladly say "yes". After all, I simply help them finish their work for them. At the end, they just laughing how stupid I am without any gracious appreciation. They knew I won't resist their begging, and they would taking this convenience on me. When mistakes were made, they would point the fingers on me, and blame on my fault. No more next time, I got my own work to be done. Never be too nice, and isolate from those people with malicious intention.
Another great lesson I learned.
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13 responses
@wannaberich (246)
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24 Jul 10
I agree with you, some people can be so abusive. They take advantage of your kindness. I had the situation wherein I'm thinking of the welfare of some of my friends only to find out that they are still complaining about me for the favor I've done to them. It really sucks to have put so many effort then knowing there's still complaint. Especially if they have not contributed anything at all.
Before I always have my motto " Don't do to others what you don't want to be done unto you. " But now, I'm fed up with them, I think I have to change my motto to: "Do to others what they've done to you so they could feel that hurt and pain they've caused you " :)
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
24 Jul 10
You should get away from those people, and never make contact with them. For me, I won't want to hang out with those people. They simply see convenient of you, and taking advantage of you. They will get their karma, I hope that will be sooner.
@wannaberich (246)
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24 Jul 10
Yup, I want them to learn their lesson. If they have nothing to contribute, they have to shut up and just go with it. I can't avoid them, but I want them to know that a person has its limits. I'm sure they've felt I'm not the way I was before. I want them to know how I feel about what they've done to me. And I'm not going to sit down and stay quiet about it anymore. That simply doesn't work.
@phoenix867 (182)
• India
30 Jul 10
Yes,it is true there are some people who are really good and some are bad.So we should help others and do good to other but we should know the limit to that.You know in this world there is more devil then angels.So do help people but don't let them step on your head....
@johnpillai (2082)
• Germany
25 Jul 10
My ten year old daughter is sooooo nice. She behave just like an angel. She has no enimies. All are good to her. She has many friends in her class. now a days I am worring about this. i am douting her friends are using her goodness. i have seen them several times. Now i have started to be a stricked mother to protect her from selfish friends. i set limits to meet her friends. As a mother this is a big problem to me.
@krnavtr (285)
• India
27 Jul 10
Its true that people will take advantage of you if you are too nice to him or her.We know too harsh is not good to deal with a people but at the same time too nice is also not very good.I have seen many people taking advantage of the one who does good to him or her.In my opinion i would say that too nice is not at all good.I hate harsh person but i think harsh would be good but not intentionally.
@colorfulseafish (82)
• China
25 Jul 10
that's really a big problem.If we do not behave nice,then we could not make many friends;but if we behave too nice,people will take advantage of us.one of my bestfriend experienced that a lot.she is really nice and friendly to people,but at last it turns out that she was hurt by them badly.they not only let her do most of the things,but also cheated her badly.so sometimes I become really confused.but i think keeping a good relationship with others is still very important.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
25 Jul 10
Hi Kingparker,
I hate to say it but that isn't you being too nice. That is you letting yourself be used as a doormat by a bunch of jerks. I am a nice person and will go all out for someone as long as I don't feel they are taking advantage and that they are truly appreciative. If I did extra work for someone and they treated me like those people did you then I would not have a problem telling them no and telling them why I said NO. If someone made mistakes and blamed me then there would be no way I would take the blame and especially at work. That could mean my job. I have run into people like your co-workers and it is infuriating but I'm not going to change who I am and be a jerk just because they are. My experience has been that more people than not do appreciate that I am thoughtful and considerate and willing to help. I don't like saying no but I can. I'd rather get burned by a few idiots here and there than to join them. You really need to learn to say know and put your foot down. Why do you help them when your heart isn't in it and you know how they are? You are worth way more than you give yourself credit for!
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
25 Jul 10
That is an important lesson because, yes, some people will take advantage of you if you're too nice. I like to say that I'm nice but I'm also thorny like a rose bush. There is a line that I won't allow people to cross so I don't get taken advantage of very often...not like I used to when I was younger and less experienced.
@thaMARKER (2503)
• Philippines
25 Jul 10
i have been nice mostly for my entire life to everybody. when i was young i had a hard time saying no. well sometimes until now.. i have lots of patience for those who just can't figure out independence. but of course i stop when i really have to but as long as i can do something for some people, i will. guess it makes me happy.. it's okay to be nice, just know when to let people take advantage of you.
@remietaccad (6)
• Philippines
25 Jul 10
i always experience this. my co-workers are using me and take advantage of me. well some of them.
