I've Made A Mylot Decision

You're right about that Stephanie, there are nice people and mean people everywhere we go. The thing is, I'm in the middle of a situation with my family with no end in sight that I need to go somewhere and vent and I chose to come here however, it's been an on going thing for the past two and a half years that I need to vent some of my frustrations and in doing so on here has made some uncomfortable. My opinion is this, it's the truth. What I've told is the truth and if one can't handle the truth then they know where the notify button is so push it! Or delete me off of their friends list and be done with it. I'm already down in the dumps so why kick me further down? I don't get it. I thought we're suppose to vent and get it off of our chests and NOT hold it in?! What the hell?! Some people I just don't get.

I agree. If someone doesn't want to read something, why DO they do it ANYWAY and then complain? It's not like anybody is dragged here by their hair and held at gunpoint and forced to read and respond to things they don't like for heaven's sake lol.

Understandable. I guess maybe some people have problems of their own and don't want any more burden. Except, what I don't understand is if they really do feel like that, why bother responding at all? I mean, just don't read the discussion or reply. It's that easy Why bring someone down just because you don't want to hear it? I hope things do get better for you--2 and a half years is a long time. I'll definitely be willing to listen to you, unlike some people.

quita, I'm not sure what to say. I do accept your apology.... ahhhhh! What do I say?! lol It's all good and lets go from there, what do you say? I'm going to ask back your friendship and we'll go from there. Is that ok?

Sure ! I already approved you as a friend. hugs,quita

Hi Gabs! Hi Gissi! Hi Oreo! LOL It was about my ranting about my family. It apparently embarrasses some to read about what I've said but it's the truth so, if one can't handle the truth then they need to move on which is what they've done as of thus far. I mean, delete me if they don't like what I have to say! Or pass over my discussion and move on to the next! Is that so hard to do? Hopefully I won't have any more problems from here on out.

Awwww thank you both VERY much!! I really do appreciate that!! I'll be sticking around a little while longer.... lol I did delete them from my friends list. I couldn't believe what I was reading when I got such comments! It hurt some kind of deep to be kicked yet AGAIN. Well, things didn't go well today either. Dad took mom to her eye appointment and mom had some chest pains and took some nitro from dad, the first one didn't help but the second one did and she told the nurse at the eye clinic and they tried to get her to let them call a rescue squad but she wouldn't hear anything of it. Plus on the way down, they got lost because mom had unplugged the GPS thing and plugged in her cell phone and sh!t hit the fan with them two.... there's more, but you get the drift. I've had an anxiety attack since about 6 o'clock and xanax helped some but not enough but now I'm tired and HOPE to get some sleep tonight now that it's 2am but I need to shower first to get some of this sweat off of me....

Hi Marti, the way I see it is this, there's a difference between a husband and kids than a husband and mother. Kids are born into the situation regardless if it's good or bad so they need an adult be it their mother or their father to defend them. When kids have grown up and the mother or father is married to another man, the kids come first still UNLESS there's something really important that the attention should be with the husband. A husband acting like a jackass as yours has towards your kids is SO wrong! Your kids should be able to come to you WHEN EVER they want/need to especially when they're needing to talk to you. However, you and your husband do need some alone time which I'm sure you get a lot of since your kids have moved out on their own but still, if one of your kids calls you up and says I need to talk to you or I want to talk to you, you shouldn't feel like you're being torn in two. That's not fair to you at all. Now in my situation, I love my husband dearly. I love my mother dearly. HOWEVER, both are in the wrong. My husband is wrong in one way and my mother is wrong in another and I'm caught where? In the MIDDLE! I know stuff that my husband doesn't know and I know stuff that my mother doesn't know and that has to stop and it's going to stop. I'm going to have that 'talk' with both of my parents when the time is right. She harps on how she was put in the middle with my dad and her mother time after time after time and now look at what she's done to me.... which is something she vowed to never do to me or my brothers. Anyway, now that she found a puppy chihuahua and gets it next weekend, she's all excited about it so even though she's still grieving over the loss of Sugar Plum, she's excited about the new comer so once she gets her and has her for a few weeks, that's when I'm going to tell her and I will not take no for an answer and tell her that WE ALL need to talk and make it happen somehow. I'll be a nervous wreck but I know it has to be done. I can't take this anymore. I just can't. My nerves are beyond shot that all I do is live on xanax and sleep all the time or cry. ENOUGH already! I have to do something or someone will get hurt before too long. About this issue at hand, I was told that I was embarrassing this person by what I wrote about my family and how would my family feel if they knew and that they didn't want to read what I wrote but once they got started they couldn't stop bla bla bla and another was how much can a person help me with an on going thing and another said my discussions were basically the same thing over and over. Number one, if they didn't like what I said, which is the damned truth then DON'T read it! It's as simple as that! Secondly, if they have that sort of comment to give then DON'T give one! and Thirdly, my discussions aren't the same! The situations are different however, same family.... duh! Can't change that! I felt so knocked down but these three that I contemplated leaving because it hurt and hurt bad. When I needed my friends the most, three let me down and that hurt.

OK! I'll stay!! lol I've got too many caring friends to leave so I'm staying!

Thank you Thoroughrob. I didn't want to leave but when people who I consider my friends tell me crap like they did, it hurt and it hurt big time. I felt so kicked again and again. One said she was embarrassed to read it but got so caught up in reading it and wish she hadn't and wondered how my parents and brothers would feel if they knew..... like damn! What about ME? What about the hell I'm being put through?! Don't I count for something? Doesn't my husband count for something? I was quite shocked and very hurt to say the least. But I'm past it now. To each his own way, I guess.

Oh, I didn't think of that, blocking them will also effect their earnings..I wonder if we ask if the admin will consider it? After all this place is getting big enough, do we really need the negative people to earn also?

You need to let us, your friends, know when you're being attacked! Damn it carmelanirel! How dare anyone do that to you! You've been nothing but kind and considerate of others..... unless there's something that I don't know about J/K But seriously though, we stand up for our friends and will for you too, you just have to let us know, ok? Don't change yourself to suit others. Hell no! Be yourself, that way you're happy and we know who you REALLY are. Hugs!

Agreed. I bet a blocking button would do the trick to get rid of those pesky myLotters! At the most, we can report them. I don't understand why people must butt heads on purpose!

I've never seen that notification before. They actually told you to feel free to repost it, as it was not against any guidelines. I guess they have improved the notification system somewhat then, which is good.

That's what I thought mylot was about too Hatley but apparently my discussions have become too embarrassing or old. Too damned bad because it's REAL. It's not a joke or some fake crap. It's real and it's MY life which I hate SO much but that's my situation however I DID NOT choose it. In any case, we're suppose to be there for each other and hold each other up, not knock each other down especially when one is already down. That's exactly how I feel I've been done and I've had enough of being kicked down again and again. I'm NOT sorry for those who can't handle the truth. That's their problem, not mine. Now I want to tell you from the bottom of my heart, THANK YOU for being such a supportive, wonderful and caring friend!!

hi cats no thanks needed but you are most welcome. and i am so glad you decided to stay. welcome home.

[b]Hi Jo, I had most of the 15 years of peace when hubby was in the Army because I was away from family and now that I'm back, the drama is back. Hubby and I moved to NC to be close but not too close to both of our families in case they needed us. We knew my parents wanted to move but didn't think they'd move this close to us but now that mom had a stroke a little over two years ago, we're glad they did move this close and sometimes I wish they were closer so I could get to them quicker when in need but there again, I'm glad they're 30 minutes away. It's a wishy washy situation and it's no wonder. If only my mom would make it easier and she could if she tried but she doesn't want to. Now if things were going HER way all the time then she'd be on cloud nine but since it doesn't, she makes others lives hell. You know I love my husband dearly. I love my mother dearly. HOWEVER, both are in the wrong. My husband is wrong in one way and my mother is wrong in another and I'm caught where? In the MIDDLE! I know stuff that my husband doesn't know and I know stuff that my mother doesn't know and that has to stop and it's going to stop. I'm going to have that 'talk' with both of my parents when the time is right. She harps on how she was put in the middle with my dad and her mother time after time after time and now look at what she's done to me.... which is something she vowed to never do to me or my brothers. Anyway, now that she found a puppy Chihuahua and gets it next weekend, she's all excited about it so even though she's still grieving over the loss of Sugar Plum, she's excited about the new comer so once she gets her and has her for a few weeks, that's when I'm going to tell her and I will not take no for an answer and tell her that WE ALL need to talk and make it happen somehow. I'll be a nervous wreck but I know it has to be done. I can't take this anymore. I just can't. My nerves are beyond shot that all I do is live on xanax and sleep all the time or cry. ENOUGH already! I have to do something or someone will get hurt before too long. About the others, I did delete them. If I have friends like that, who needs enemies? Some friends they are/were.... [/b]

I think that talk is waaaaaaaaaaay overdue, Cat. I know u love your mother but do think she manipulates u. I just don't want her to cause u & hubby anymore trouble than she already has. My mother was a trouble maker & kept some of the family stirred up all the time. I hated that side of her. She would turn on u in a minute if things weren't going her way. She caused alot of grief in her lifetime. U can not go on having to put up w/her stuff!!

Don't say anything??? Example; Should she say she was just raped, it's a bad thing to say about someone. Really, let's say things that aren't wives tales.

Guy..."Example; Should she say she was just raped, it's a bad thing to say about someone. Really, let's say things that aren't wives tales. " Explain this please.

i meant that in a good way. they shouldnt come to her discussions just to say bad things to her. why are you starting mean with me? i never said if its something like rape dont say it...whats your point? You are taking my response all out of context. hopefully most people know what i meant. but if its that hard for you to understand, i meant good toward Cats and dogs...i meant i understand and feel as she does. i just put in something my mom used to say concerning talking MEAN to people, as you just did to me. has nothing to do with saying things about being raped. OF COURSE anyone says if you are raped. thats a whole other discussion. i hope your not on my friends list cause im going to go see now. thats really uncalled for your smart reply to me. another case of not saying anything which you shouldnt.

No, no one wanted to kick me off of here but it was about my discussions about my family. Some don't like it and some don't know what to say to help and it just progressed from there. It's all good now, I think and hope! lol Thanks for showing you care!

Ok, I get it now.You are always welcome, dear.:-) Everyone needs someone to talk to and someone willing to lend an ear. This is the core of Mylot, I guess.:-)

You are SO right grkelly! Friends are suppose to be there for each other not put the other down especially when they're already down as I am. Some day the same treatment will bite them in the rear and then they'll realize how their words hurt. I couldn't do that to anybody especially when they're in pain. I just couldn't. I've had to defend others and deal with the ridicule but I won't stand by and watch someone hurt another person and not say something. Thank you for showing you care! We need more of you in our world!

It was about my ranting about my family. It apparently embarrasses some to read about what I've said but it's the truth so, if one can't handle the truth then they need to move on which is what they've done as of thus far. I mean, delete me if they don't like what I have to say! Or pass over my discussion and move on to the next! Is that so hard to do? Hopefully I won't have any more problems from here on out. BTW, thanks!!

Thank you so much for that! Who knows, I just may take you up on that! lol You are right, there are so many wonderful people on here and a lot of them asked me to stay so I'm going to stay.... as long as I'm wanted! lol Just kidding, no I'm here to stay for a good while longer.