my relationship with him

My sentiments exactly. I'm at the point in my life when i definitely could say I wish it could still work out, but I think it would take a miracle to fix us.

Seems to me that you are in a relation with him because you want him to be happy. I don't think you are being fair with yourself. I would only suggest you to communicate what you are feeling to him. I am sure he will understand. It's always better to tell someone that you don't love then he coming to know that you don't love him anymore.All the best.

eLsMarie, Often, people conclude that the reason to patch is because 'they still love each other', but the conundrum is actually having to differentiate habitual reasoning against that of love. And I can tell you that the feeling derived from the latter can be equally formidable. Unless one possesses incredibly heightened self awareness, we are likely to be suck into a previous misery with excuses provided as above. Maybe just maybe, he displayed periodically disruptive burst-fire in his relationship. Also, his behavioral stance towards his relationship reeked streaks of avoidance-styled personality and this creates a fertile ground to breed enmity and contention because the day when he finds you is the day of judgment. For Love, like dough, needs to remake and remodel constantly, to settle into a good shape - a relationship devoid of proper communication stays static and is vulnerable to destruction because it will lose the elasticity to survive. He is probably subjected, typically, to the belief that "you-ought-to-know-what-is-wrong, yet-you-don't-work-towards-changing-it". This is probably a classic narcissistic perception that exists only in the psychological framework of the individual and I must say this has been responsible for ruining even the best of relationships. It's something like you are walking around with your friends, doing some Christmas shopping, while you are about to perish (literally) from hunger. Even as you look listless and weary, they continued their journey. Eventually, you suffered this acute gastric pain and blew up, blaming them for causing you this plight. So does the fault lies with a particular person or his/her friends? Neither. Because the root of problem is about non-communication. Your man probably has another set of problem(s) - his inability to communicate kinda fueled his tendency to resort to initiating breakup to ease his emotional tension. He might probably regret and comes back (however sincere) to sell you the 'belief' stated in my first paragraph. But seriously, that's not the point because the cyclical routine of such meaningless 'break-patch' pattern will shrink and become shorter to achieve one full circle, with every break-up experience. Life is finite - seriously, you don't have to stop your pace completely just because you reckon that you might want to give him another chance. It is possible to saunter forward, while deciding if you were to place another blind bet on leading a paranoid relationship that could, any time, transformed itself into a sudden episode of departure, without adequate reasoning. If you could still afford to weather such possible cataclysm, then he definitely still has a fighting chance in your heart. Remember, Love is very much 51% decision and 49% superfluous factors. Take care and have a good weekend. P.S. I apologize for being long winded and being somewhat self assuming, as I am trying to cover the whole aspect or other angles in a relationship. All the best.

if you want to end the relationship but does not want it in your heart may be, it is better if you calm yourself before taking a decision which is very meaningful to your relationship

A returning theme. Even if things work out a little, we can't be happy, because it's not PERFECT. I think that we have to free ourselves from what we would like a little. We have to learn to enjoy what we HAVE. Of course let's try to make it better, but if we spend MORE time thinking about the things that are wrong instead of enjoying the things that are RIGHT, that's a GOOD way to make ourselves miserable. One of the main problems with this approach when it comes to relationships is the dependency on only one relationship. If there is only one then of course we want to get ALL of our needs from this one person. The polyamorous approach IMO is to accept each person as HIE (he or she) IS and NOT try to squeeze out everything that we are sure that we need. If we're lucky we'll be able to find ANOTHER relationship that will fill in what we're lacking. No reason to terminate any relationship because it's NOT perfect.

Well, you can move on if it is unfix-able. I don't think keeping the relationship will be good for both of you. You will feel more burdened and he will feel desperate to win you over again.

You did not tell us why your not satisfied. Have you asked yourself why you're not satisfied? Maybe if you told him the exact reason why you're not satisfied this will solve the problem.

ouch! sorry to hear that. I hope you'll be able to fix it up or move on for once. =)

Well, you can move on if it is unfix-able. I don't think keeping the relationship will be good for both of you. You will feel more burdened and he will feel desperate to win you over again.