Only one acceptable viewpoint?
By rosdimy
@rosdimy (3926)
Malaysia
July 24, 2010 11:05pm CST
If there is only one possible explanation, should an issue turned into a discussion?
I can understand that there are members who want to increase their rating by posting discussions. But should not the subject or content of a discussion be open to various opinions which are different from the poster's line of thinking or opinion?
This issue is raised because I have seen discussions where the poster accepts the responses that agree with his/her thoughts, without taking the trouble to analyse the opinion of other people. I think this defeats the purpose of an open discussion, and the concept of being truly open minded.
As it is I have become reluctant to respond to the discussions started by certain posters. My perception may be flawed but we have different knowledge and expeience levels even on the same issue.
Actually this saddens me because if we insist on not opening our mind and heart to other viewpoints then I believe we will remain in the same rut.
I wonder whether I am alone in this thinking, or there others having the same feelings.
Or am I wrong in having this opinion?
Thanks you in advance.
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6 responses
@bluemoonpavilion (4658)
• Singapore
26 Jul 10
The poster would soon find his posts to have support only from his friends, those with the same view with him. If this is what he wants, fine. In a public site like this which is open to all and is international, we tend to see different people with different behaviours. It's up to the individual to decide how we want to utilize this site. Some may turn it into a platform for scamming, others to form cliques and there are still many other sincere and open-minded ones who can take the differences in opinion and voice their own views without belittling others. I say, to each his own, we have freedom of choice.
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
26 Jul 10
Yes, and then the poster whines about not getting desired number of responses. blaming everyone and everyrhing else without looking into the mirror. The person always want to win.
What I do not like to see is this attitude driving away people to other sites. At the end of the day we lose.
@bluemoonpavilion (4658)
• Singapore
27 Jul 10
Our eyes are looking outwards, we rarely can see ourselves...
Mylot is a very large community, it doesn't matter that these people move away, others would come in to take their place.
@lilangelspreschool (1129)
• United States
26 Jul 10
I think we should all have our own opinions and views. It's not right for the poster to only respond to those they agree with. I have had many people disagree with my opinions but I still respond to them regardless and thank them for responding even though they didn't agree with me. Now, if they are offensive or they have no idea what I am talking about then I will just say thanks for the response and leave it at that, just so no arguments occur.
I have seen some poster's that do not respond because they don't agree and I don't think that's right. Everyone deserves some kind of response because they put in the effort too.
Just my opinion though 
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
28 Jul 10
It cannot be denied that there will always be different opinions on the same issue. Even among those with a general similar view there could be slight differences.
In my case even when I think that I am right I still respect whatever viewpoints other people may present. Looking down at other people thoughts is one way of creating friction, hurting of feelings, retaliatory insults, and possibly an actual fight.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
25 Jul 10
As you mentioned that people want to increase their ratings etc...there is likelihood that they prefer to be 'yesman' so as not to be on the wrong side of the fence. I should think it is the survival of the fetus that is the reasons why people are more accepting to people who sing the same tune as them over those who have better and valid opinions but are opposing. Like in the real world, people are more comfortable in the elite group with higher ranking. 
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
25 Jul 10
This has more to do with the original poster that his/her opinion is the only acceptable viewpoint, and all the rest are not worth anything. This may be fine if a responder writes about something totally unrelated to the topic.
I still believe a discussion is where we have at least two dissimilar viewpoints. Where there is no room given to other angles then it does not become a real discussion. More like an ego trip for the poster who wants others to agree with his/her ideas. In the end this place will become dull.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Jul 10
rosdimy there can be any number of viewpoints but always keep in mind that we all have a right to our own viewpoints and you have a right to yours b but trying to force me for e xample to change my own viewpoint will not make us friends. respect for one another here is the key, and y es we can all give our own viewpoints but we can not try to say you have to change your viewpoint as its not right you dummy. that is not allowed here.we all have a right to keep our viewpoint, if we w ant to change it that has to come from us,not from you or anyone else. insulting is not allowed here. this is not really a place for angry debates at all.Yes'we can open our minds to many viewpoints but its solely up to us whether we want to change or not change,not up to you or anyone else. this is not a battle ground for those who love to fight over things.
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
25 Jul 10
When I present a different opinion I never expect others to submit to ny viewpoint. Far from it. Variety is a spice of life, which makes it more interesting and enjoyable. Having a different outlook does not mean that we are losers, at least that is the way I think.
In the past I have modified some of my thinking when other viewpoints were put forward. Nevertheless it has not come to the point where I threw away everything to accept the new.
A battle ground? I think some of us are etoo proud to admit that we may have been previously misinformed.
@qianyun6 (2067)
• China
25 Jul 10
You should admit that it's human to like agreement but hate opposition. So you can never expect discussion starters accept opposite point of view more than same point of view as their best responses, unless the former has much higher quality than the latter. Because everyone will appreciate agreement subconsciously more or less.
And to most open topic there isn't absolute right or wrong, I don't think the best response is the most excellent response, it's only the response which satisfied the starter most at the time he/she chose "the best response". Actually, one can't say which is the best or which is the most reasonable viewpoint in an open discussion.
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
25 Jul 10
Personally I believe in the opportunity to air my views on any issues I am familiar with. I do not mind people disagreeing with me, because I have done my responsibility in trying to help or clarify matters. But when the poster, in order to win the argument, starts contadicting himself/herself, or raise other issues, then my motivation to continue wanes.
@damned_dle (3942)
• Philippines
25 Jul 10
Yes I agree with you. There are many posters who do just that. But we can't change that if that is their opinion. They have their right on their opinions and so are we. But I still say what I want to say especially if I don't agree with them. That is what the discussions are all about.
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
25 Jul 10
Every single member on myLot is entitled to a personal opinion which may or may not concur with the opinion of others. Regardless of the differences we should respect each other's opinion(s).
What twitches my heart is the attempt to make others follow their opinion(s). This happens not only in Religion and Politics interests, but also in personal matters. Have you noticed that many responses which are not commented are the ones which disagree with the original poster?
