friends that become like strangers........

no, let me change it, I like the whole response... and I like this whole discussion angel.... and do not worry, a perfect time would tell us the truth why some people change.... for now, relax and let your wings off from flying, and know you have been to the wild reserve... it must be tiring for sure....

I knew you would like the first part of the response.

I know we change according to situations, life styles and whatnot, sweetie. But to become a total stranger to those that are close to you. Scary. I liked the first part of the response better. TATA.

I just say that people is my bestfriend already if the friendship we had is already tested by times.... by trials.... Hello angel, talk to you later okay....

At least you have a lot of new friends now sweetie. Maybe those 2 are thinking of you sometimes. One will never really know, will we? TATA.

I guess I know that blonde vannie So now tell me, I guess I like her too for being so witty, for being so kind and for being so tender.... Hello angel.... stay calm okay, I am just right here....

I don't mind moving on Vannie. It is just sad to loose someone you are really good friends with. Who the heck is that damn blond? Really, she seem to make a damn nuisance of herself. TATA.

Saphy, around the same time last year, I was in similar pain. I didnt know the friend for 10 years, just about 5 years or so. But I had been with her through her divorce, and helped her on her feet. I started thinking of her like my child, and she also said I'd been more than a mom to her. But... I was a fool!!! he he. And you know what, I still get caught with such words. he he. A few days ago, she wrote to me - very touching mail. This time, I consulted a good friend, and he said a strict NO to this friendship. I guess, it is curtains then. When Biswa calls me Ma saphy, he touches my heart. I have been more than compensated for my pain by god. :) I have good friends like you here, and a child. What more can I ask? And I really appreciate your honesty Saphy. You acknowledged you are a nuisance!

Wow, you've managed to use just the right name for our blonde.

Very hard when you are around Saphy!

Tinkerbell. In any way, you are a better person than i am in that regard, Mario. Vannie, behave yourself. Even just for one day.

in a month, I agree angel that is scary... I never experience that kind so far... for now just leave it... but when you can have some perfect time, then you can open that to her... I know there is one important reason behind.... Just do not hate her, okay? I know that you have a very tender and kind heart....

I don't hate that easily, Prime. Saturday was my last day on that reserve, though.

Communication can be one of the things sweetie, but to change to a total stranger in one month is actually scary. TATA.

It is sad to see friends change that way sweetie. And to think that most of us stay at least the same as we were. We don't change that much, do we? And that friend of yours is damn rude. TATA.

You have point out one important matter friend... sometimes people change because of an important matter(according to how they weight things) and they prefer leaving someone in order to fix it by themselves and without bothering the latter.... I encountered such situation in the past, but I never gave up... And I knew later she just had to confine herself for my safety..... that is sad though.

Very sad indeed.

Well then, it must be something deeper. Something personal which she does not or can not talk about. If she is not even talking to her husband then it must be something much deeper than simply not wanting to talk. Maybe she is having an affair and things have gone wrong which she does not know how to handle - (this is only an example)

That's just the thing sweetie. She doesn't want to talk to anyone, not even her husband. If she keep this up, there can be more problems. I just cannot think what is wrong with her. TATA.

I get the feeling there is someone else. Her bad. She made her bed, she has to sleep on it. TATA.

Even if our life's change sweetie, friends are suppose to be there when it change. But, some just change and never even consider what that change can do to others. TATA.

right....but i think it depends on what kind of friends do we have..?are they the one who will stay when changes come what ever it is, the one who will leave when things change or the one who will stay but it depends on what kind of changes it is..

That is one thing we will never know sweetie.

For now, bet it my B But who knows she would change her mind in the comings days... and yes I know what's basically calms you down.... I miss you, know that?

Prime, we only see each other when i go to the reserve. We phone and chat almost every second day. But, if this is what she wants, so be it. I am glad you liked them. Now you know what calms me down. TATA.

There are two people in my life who were supposedly friends who are not currently talking to me. With the first, she does that sort of thing from time to time so you can't really take it personally. This is the longest I've gone though with not hearing from her. Recently she attended a function at a place I go to regularly and we made eye contact. I was obviously surprised to see her there and she didn't even say hello to me when I went to greet her. Now, this person claims to be all about "polite society" yet she couldn't even just say hello? I still have the key to her house! I don't care what your situation is with someone there is no cause for them to be rude or behave like a child. This woman has issues with the entire world around her so I know not to take it personally and we really weren't close enough for me to be hurt by her not talking to me. Another woman I am supposedly friends with is not the brightest bulb and sometimes drives me crazy (which she thinks is funny.) I sometimes help her with her business, time that could be better spent working on my own enterprises. Well, the last time I helped her she sent me an email saying "thanks for your help last weekend but I don't feel you were very helpful." Neither of these women is originally from this city. A lot of people know me and I have a very public profile that each of them has benefited from, yet this time, I was getting too much attention, the weather was bad and there wasn't as much business as there was in previous years. Somehow, this was summed up as my not being helpful. I used to hear from this woman constantly and now I don't hear anything from her at all. At first I was too busy to notice that she wasn't calling me all the time and driving me crazy chatting on about nonsense and asking a thousand questions. By the time I realized it several weeks had gone by and once again, we are not close enough for me to care. Both of these relationships were beneficial to the other women because of shared resources, my assistance with various things from pet sitting to, rides to the store, to business help, yet suddenly I have offended them in some way and so deeply that they no longer communicate with me. Neither of them were my friend because of a shared philosophy, we had very little in common, if I would invite them some place they would rarely come... I could go on and on. So why should I care that they have decided they don't want to be friends anymore? I guess I have digressed, but my point is you can never know what is going on with some people and you just have to wish them well and focus on what is going on in your own life.

You know sweetie, i have time and patience for a lot of things in my life, but one thing i won't take is being used. That is what those to did to you, you know. I won't beg for friendship and if this one thinks a friendship of about 10 years is not worth it anymore, so be it. She has her life and i have mine. TATA.

That i can understand sweetie, but she did not even want to talk to me. I cannot work with people who cannot open their mouths. I still haven't heard anything from her, though. TATA.

This in my view is not rested on necessity. It is rather an involuntary inclination that you are not aware of. I have seen a lot people who were tagged bores. But all of a sudden they change and you are left wondering as to what came to stay upon. Of course the situation and circumstances too can not be written off.

Jotomy sweetie, for me that is unacceptable. I don't expect people to stay the same, but don't become a stranger to your friends. TATA. Sweetie, those who change should start thinking of what they can loose in life.

Yes krajibg, i agree with you...

I still have to figure out which way she had changed sweetie. I just don't have the energy for that now. TATA.

We will see how things go sweetie.

oh,is that so? well,i think it will take time for you to know what changed her.but i hope you'll be friends for long.

You really are nuts. I don't have any of them. I still cannot figure that thinga magik out. TATA.

Oh brother. I so hoped we solved that banana problem.

now i'm nuts....i'll go back to being bananas next week

Didn't i tell you that you are good, sweetie? So true though. Why keep on beating yourself up when you did not really had something in common in the first place? I know the feeling about those you keep very close. TATA.

It is true sweetie, friends are for life, nothing can change that. Sounds like a nice song.

Thanks, saphrina :) I believe in the saying that "Friends are friends forever" ...true friends are, anyway. Hey, I know a song that goes like that...the last line says it all..."a lifetime's not too long to live as friends" :D

Hi sweetie. I don't know what she did to fix that as we don't have contact anymore. Her choice, though. Thanx.

Hi sweetie. Sorry i am so behind with everything these days. How are you? That is a long last friendship to loose, you know. But she need to understand that your life is changing and you just have to go with the flow. Hope she can understand that eventually. Thanx. TATA.

It is strange how people change, especially when it comes to friends. I don't think i will ever understand people even if they are your friends. Thanx. TATA.

Pl. do no bother about her, if she does not bother about you.

Hi Deepak. I hope for her sake it is not an affair. I did ask, but she just ignored me. Waste of time actually. TATA.

Don't let it get to you sweetie. I know how it feels to loose a close friend. He moved to another country though. We don't contact each other anymore and the worse part, we grew up together. But this things we get used to. TATA.

Sweetie, at least you have manners and you care about her. Hopefully she will wake up one day and remember that she has a good friend that really care. Hope it will go better. TATA.