Feminism?!

"I think its killing the good old fashion romance, the way things should really be. I mean come on, I'm a girl and no way would i split the tab on a first date." As to who pays the tab for any date, I personally beleive it should be the person who asks the other person out on the date; and, since they are the one doing the asking, they get to choose what the date is - romantic restaurant, picnic lunch, home cooked meal, etc. Splitting the tab, belongs on dates with multiple people; not, a couple. If you expect to split the tab on the first date whoever is doing the asking is being cheap! "killing the good old fashion romance" - it is actually making it more romantic because one person is not responsible for everything! Women can and do ask men out. You know how women like to get flowers, etc. Well, how about having a balloon bouquet, cupcakes, or an edible arrangement delivered to the guy's office! With both people working at making a relationship "romantic" instead of leaving it all up to the man; how can it not be more romantic!

First, I don't believe feminism means "playing the role of men" in any situation. I'm a woman, I'm happy being a woman, I don't want to be a man. I just want the same respect and opportunities according to my skills and abilities that any man has. As far as romance, there are WAYtoo many people in this world with WAY too many ways of interacting that's right for them for anyone to be able to say there's a way things should be. If two people are happy with splitting the check, who is anyone to say they're doing it wrong? Or that they aren't romantic? But, I have no problem with a man paying for a date if he wants to. And I don't think I have to turn in my feminism card or feel that it makes me less equal to a man. Anymore than a man suddenly becomes less equal if I offer to pay for a date and he accepts. I don't expect a man to pay, but I'm fine if he chooses to. I also have no desire to run the world. I want the best people to do that. Whether it's men or women. Just want women in the running. I also find it very interesting (to use a neutral term) that equality for women has rules, but equality for men is simply accepted no matter what. People may make judgments on whether someone is a "real" man, whether they're behaving correctly, but I seriously doubt anyone would say that a man can't do something and still be equal. If women went around paying for every date, and holding every door open for a man, people would say all sorts of things about how it violates "the one way things should be". But, I would fall down in utter shock if anyone so much as hinted that the men lost their right to equality. Until equality isn't something that women have to earn, but is simply a birthright, as it is with men* then things aren't acceptable. I'm not saying people can't be criticized, but never never never should someone be told that they lose the right to equality because they fail some standard. *Of course, this is talking about places where men are seen as equal just for existing. I don't claim to know precisely the status of men and women everywhere. But, if there are men who don't have equality as a birthright, they should have it. And so should women.

Personally, I love being a girl and I love living in a country where I have the right to vote, the right to get whatever job I want, and basically the right to be heard. But I think the feminist movement killed chivalry and turned men into lazy slobs. I love the "old fashioned" idea of men opening doors for women and getting their chairs. I can get both myself, but come on! Little things like that make a girl feel special. I also like the guy doing the asking out, paying for dates, and (Oh God forbid! ) being head of house and leading the relationship. Loads of feminist want to rebel against the idea of being a stay at home mom. It seems to me that they want to shove men into a dark hole somewhere and run everything themselves. Not me. Barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen? That's my dream right there... don't bash it! I like where the feminist movement first started. I don't like where it's gone since.

Oh, definitely I don't want to pay for my foods on any dates. I prefer the old style romance. There are something that I want to be equal as a man though, such as: going to work, speak our minds, to have a say in the household matters etc.

Correct never split the tab, come on men eat more than women. Just pay for what you eat. Women needs to be treated like women. For me its funny that some women want to be treated "equally" but was offended when not offered a seat or was not helped with carrying the luggage.

Right, you are encouraging to all the women. I follow up with you and I think in the same way that woman head should be always up, and no discrimination between women and men.

It is no good asking me I am a trained male maid and heavily into dominant women who take charge. That does not mean that I would not pay the tab and anything else if I am ordered too

I think that last sentence was just you being cheap, but I don't blame you, I don't like to pay period but at the same time I offer half to the relationship and don't expect to be showered with gifts because I wouldn't like to have someone around me just to spend my hard earned money. On the feminism thing, if we want equality to men then you got to deal with the good and bad. We want to have the same opportunites and that can mean very good positions for women but on the other hand we would have to deal with taking care of ourselves and not expecting some man to pay your way. You can't have the best of two worlds. You can't expect women presidents and then expect guys to pay for your dinner and be excluded from the draft. you want equality then you gotta deal with the good and bad and deal with it.

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