From friends to more than friends

yesterday, i have communicated to my long lost bestfriend..We had a good talk with each other and on the process, he admitted that he had a feelings for me and even if i dont see him, he told me that he watch me from a distant. I have a bf at present, and i dont want to loose both. On my part, i will not cross the bridge. I love my bf and i also love my best friend being a special friend only.

well, you are wise that you took the risk...some are cowards to entertain such feeling for the fear of losing the friendship. even if they feel something for each other, they have chosen to just keep silent about...not knowing that they have missed the chance of being happier to love someone whom they know inside and out and are comfortable with...I've made the mistake of not fighting for what I feel before to my best friend. some said that I should have tried...but for the fear that he may not feel the same way, i just joked about it...and so is he...in the end, many years after, he said that he was also afraid to lose the friendship just in case things wont work out for us...so he just suppressed his feelings for me. but even if we both neglected how we feel about each other, time and things made a gap between our friendship...we didnt risk, but yet we still grew apart...if only we tried, at least we knew...but what done is done...no turning back now to pick up and do things that havent been done and say things that were left unsaid...he now have his own family...

I have been to 2 best friend relationships. I am a platonic person who really cares and I stay to being friends with that guy. I fell inlove with my first best friend. Unfortunately, I do have the courage to say it because I thought it over for like 9years now, it will really not work no matter what angle I look at the situation. I know he loves me and he knows I love him but we just stayed friends until now. Whenever we are down, we contact each other and eat and think/talk about old times and we just laugh. Then we are not sad anymore, then we go back to each of our lives. We are the most unpredictable friends in our batch. People has been wondering if we are together. They have been thinking that we are together. However, that is really far from reality. I do not know when this craziness will end, for now, it is as vague as a mist, so so unclear. All I know is when I see him happy, I am happy, and with that I am at peace and I let him be. :D

Some of the longest last relationships we have begin as friendships. Sometimes friends just like to stay friends. No complications and no games to play. Other times, friendship is just not enough for the relationship, It moves to the next level. From friendship to romance is a big step to take. Love is always worth the risk. If the romance fizzles out, you will always have the friendship you began with.

I had an experience like that, but i was afraid to lose my friend, because i knew that he sees me as a friend, not more than that, and i would of lost him as a friend. Eventually i lost him as a friend, because at some point he realized that i`m feeling much more, and we got scared, and then he moved to another city for college, and we lost the contact, or maybe he didn`t wanted to keep in touch.

I feels it is easy to take a risk because we know all things in detail since we are being friend for so many years. So I can easily take the risk for my best friend and who will be more than friends.

i think before it comes to such point i would back out. but if ever, it happens hmmm...i think i will not pursue. im scared that these things might boomerang on me someday.

Congratulation! But I had never done it before nor I would do it. I respect my best friends as friends, I will throw away any other feelings than friendship before I admitted him as my best friend.

Personally, I don't think I could do that. I mean fall in love with my best friend. I mean it happens to people, like what happened to you. But I really can't see myself falling for a friend. My girlfriend is my best friend and we really didn't start as friends. Yeah, maybe we did become friends, but I really saw her as a potential lover before. Anyway, I'm the strict kind of person and I classify persons how I see them and it would stay that way. For example, I classified someone as my friend, then I would look at that person as only a friend and would not ascend to a more than friendship thing.

Hi! My current boyfriend and I were best friends for about 5 years before we admitted that we have fallen for each other. It was a confusing time since I actually am skeptical about boy and girl best friends. I had a lot of boy friends that eventually wanted to be my boyfriend. It really made me wary of getting close to a guy. So, going back, I never really understood why there was something off about our friendship. I was able to confide in him but at the same time, I was irked whenever I see him with his girlfriend (at that time). I think I did not realize right away that I have fallen for him. I usually think that I just care for him too much and his protectiveness of me is just because he cares for me as well. We even call each other big bro and lil sis. Little did I know that he was just hiding his feelings for me. When he and his ex broke up, we became closer and I got this nagging suspicion that there was something more than meets the eye. I found out through his blogs that he like me, although, he did not specifically say my name. The point is I asked him and we talked about it. We finally admitted that we liked each other and we have been together since. I admit, at times it is tough to be with someone that knows you far too much but it is also worth it. Congratulations astreadido! I do hope I will also spend the rest of my life with my bestfriend. :)

I think it's normal for two friends becoming lovers. Two friends with commen interests who shared ideas and experience with each other will be happy if they become lovers. Genuine love is more likely to involve a process of "growing" in love.

Me and my current boyfriend were bestfriends first. Things are a lot easier because things are easier to talk to because we don't separate eachother to "relationship" status vs. "friend" status. Yeah we fight a lot more then usual couples but me and his relationship is not the average one. We communicate a lot more and we go to eachother like you would go to a friend even if the problem is the other one. But we've been together over a year now and there's no end in site at this point. I never thought I would lose him as a friend. He's still my friend now and my lover. I would say go for it for anyone in this situation really, I'd rather be with my best friend then a charming stranger, sounds weird, but at least you van count on your friend for anything and to stay through good and bad.