do you hate youself???
@vaibhavbansal (427)
India
July 26, 2010 1:24am CST
Hello friends,
I am quite confused and surprised by my own behavior. Now a days i feeling so bad because i am not able to change myself. I am trying a lot to change my lifestyle and my thoughts but it seems like i have lost the control of my mind and its not following me.
It irritates me a ton.. and now i think that i hate myself :(
Do you guys ever gone through the same situation.
Hope you will advice me some good things to do..
Thanks
18 responses
@den11mark (57)
• Philippines
26 Jul 10
I have been through this situation before. Maybe you're feeling this way because of lack of social interaction. You should start going out with you're friends and enjoy life. This is just caused by too much thinking about where you're life is going and stressed from work. Just take one day at a time and think of all the good things you have instead of what you don't have. :)
@vaibhavbansal (427)
• India
26 Jul 10
well this can be a reason too... most of us are busy in our own lives.. well now i think i need a break from my routine life... so i am planning a vacation to a good place...
@den11mark (57)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
Nice. try visiting the beaches of my country Philippines its nice here. :)
@whitestich02 (1056)
• Philippines
26 Jul 10
sometimes i hate my self because many things that happen of my life are bads and i hate it because of me. i feel down on my self and i think there's a possible reason. and sometimes i feel irritation on my self.
@flowersforsun (12)
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26 Jul 10
Yes,sometimes I hate my hesitate on something,can't insist on something what I want to do.So I am trying to change myself by climbing.It's make me be more patient,more brave no matter what happens.I like myself now.
@stilldirect (91)
• Philippines
26 Jul 10
Oh! don't hate yourself if you have not change the way you want it to be. It takes a life time for us to change our self, everyday we are changing but not the way we want it, we are changing on GOD's way and time, in his mercy. Love your self because if you don't, nobody will.
@vaibhavbansal (427)
• India
26 Jul 10
yep i know that we are changing on God's way but sometimes it feels too bad when you lost control on yourself. well i am trying to love myself...thanks
@inocentes (78)
• Philippines
26 Jul 10
Hm.. i never been into such situation. Do you believe that how the body responds depends on what you think? Think positively and a constant prayer would help you
@smallsaozhou (827)
• China
26 Jul 10
Haha,what you think always guides physical reaction.No one can beat you really except yourself.
@ashton77 (292)
• India
26 Jul 10
I feel that you are going through major stress in your life. It could be regarding your career, friends, family. You need to understand what is the main reason for you to feel the way you are feeling. I went through similar situation where I was not knowing what am I supposed to do with life? I was confused and had no answers at all. Don't hate yourself, when people lose hope with you then you need to have hope and trust on yourself. They only way you can overcome is by becoming stronger and the believe that you have for yourself.
@smallsaozhou (827)
• China
26 Jul 10
Yeah,self-confidence and positive attituade to your life is the best self-security way.No matter how bad the situation is,I will keep on this way.I always believe people have more potential than they think they have.
@jlamela (4898)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
No, I never hated myself, that's the last thing I would ever do. Do not force yourself to change, you can never change your ways and behavior unless you are determined to do so, so first try to figure out what part of your personality you want to work on some improvements and focus on it.
@clouds0327 (1389)
• Philippines
29 Jul 10
Yes before I used to hate myself and that made me so easily to hate others as well. But now Im learning to love myself and treat myself sometimes, I also currently doing changes with my lifestyle right now and even though it is so slow I can see big results... Soo dont hate yourself but if it makes you feel good to do sometimes then go ahead.
@ANIME123 (2466)
• United States
27 Jul 10
Yeah I actually do hate myself at times that I can't even look at the mirror sometimes because I think of all the bad things that I have done. I also think about how I have treated people in the past and I know that it was wrong of me. Well one should always try and love themselves, but sometimes it can be really hard.
@Terrencehenry6 (181)
• Jamaica
26 Jul 10
omg please don't hate ourself vaibhav or think that you hate your self in life we all at times may or might have that feeling but its just up to us to remain focus and try to do or focus on other things that make you happy things that make you smile,hang out with friends so that they can encourage you despite what you are thinking,we all should love our self we are not perfect and nothing about us will ever be but you know something we are all special in our own way an perfect in the eyes of god. So cheer up and be happy try to cast away what makes you feel like this go runing watch a funny t.v show and enjoy life for its too short for us to be thinking that we hate our self ok. And remember we are all your friends on mylot and we all love you so if you still feel this way you can let me/us know . Don't worry just be happy and things will change.
@ench815 (465)
• Philippines
26 Jul 10
Stop it, please. Don't hate yourself. There are tons of things to ponder on than hating yourself. If you are talking about things that you have done wrong, forgive yourself. Take it as another lesson learned. Guide your thoughts with reading inspirational books so it wanders in that direction.
The best part of it all is that you are trying to change. That is enough reason to forgive yourself for whatever is bothering you. Everybody's given second chances and you should give yourself, too. Love yourself more and you can do that.
But again, please don't hate yourself. People are vulnerable. We all make mistakes but we can also rectify that and be better people.
Every morning when you wake up, say a prayer. Kindly include a thank you note that you are still better than others.
@charmlenile (387)
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27 Jul 10
You cant just change in one day it takes time for you to do that maybe your feeling bad because you done something that makes other hate you or done something that you do not like maybe you should start from it because you cannot change yourself if your not free from that worries. maybe that's the start. Don't hate yourself because their is only one you.
@spiderman3000 (8)
• Pakistan
26 Jul 10
Look, you shouldn't really hate yourself for anything. If something goes wrong, try to find out what went wrong and rectify that.
In your case, I seem to see that you want to change yourself. Change is a good thing. But some people are highly fortunate but some aren't. God has created us. Made us equal. There's only financial difference(mostly). If you face yourself in a troublesome situation, try to find a solution to it. Don't hate yourself. It will only discourage you.
When I was young, I thought about the same thing that you are thinking right now. But it actually got me nowhere. Now I always believe in God and myself. Trust me, I have been able to get myself out of hot water a lot of times with this.
Bottom line, you shouldn't hate yourself but infact try to work harder and change yourself.
@smallsaozhou (827)
• China
26 Jul 10
I don't hate myself cause I think self-confidence is the first necessary character to ensure your life quality good.
My opinion,if you find some particularities that you can't tolerate are afflicting you,you should do your best to change the situation.You have to pay your patience,insistence and dogged spirit as possible as you can until you succeed finally.Don't complain or be painful like that all the time.Try to be more postive and find a possible way to solve your problem.
If you can't change the terrible situation,just try to accept it and do some compromise.Life is not always smooth and no one is perfect,right? Bless you good luck.
@monkeylong (3139)
• Guangzhou, China
26 Jul 10
Yeah, as far as I am concerned, I think I do not hate me all in my life. For me, I think I am trying my best to grow to be a strong man in the world. I just want to have the ability to support my life and get more money if I can to make my family a more comfortable life. No matter how difficult it is, I really want to have a change, even thoough I do not hate myself.
@ravi1811 (12)
• India
26 Jul 10
In everybody's life there comes a time when nothing falls in place. No matter what one does, there is no success.There is struggle even to keep afloat when others are cruising along comfortably.It is not a happly predicament to be in. Like all other things that are not permanent, this too is a passing phase. It is essential to keep belief in oneself, seek advise from others. Whatever happens, one thing to remember is, not to lose sense of self worth.This is the time when self confidence is at low ebb. Strong desire to come out of this will see you through it. Try to make a habbit of getting involved in some activity.Do not think too much about your predicament. This will pass for sure. Learn from this experience to deal with such situation in future, if at all you are faced with.