Do you know the greatest fear is...
@bluemoonpavilion (4658)
Singapore
July 26, 2010 3:59am CST
I went for a talk during the weekend and I was enlightened on something. The top three fears that people have are (in order):
1. Public Speaking
2. Getting Married
3. Death
For me, public speaking is quite a challenge. I do pretty well in small groups but when I have to speak out officially, my legs would turn to jelly and my hands would turn ice cold.
Is this applicable to you? What's your greatest fear?
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8 responses
@tomitomi (5429)
• Singapore
26 Jul 10
Hi bluemoonpavilion!
Thought that's a great talk to attend to, to identify and perhaps to face our fears.
I know that I would be worrying alot if my turn to present something at work would be due soon. Like always I would spend time worrying about this fear instead of the topic I should be concentrating on. It's good to identify our fears, face them and move on. I still turn white though and I'm still learning.
@bluemoonpavilion (4658)
• Singapore
26 Jul 10
This public speaking will really freak people out. I think it's because we are not used to having so many pairs of eyes focusing on us, observing our every expression and every move. Also sometimes we do not feel confident about the topic we are presenting and that contributes to some of the fear.
@bluemoonpavilion (4658)
• Singapore
26 Jul 10
Forgot to add that there are actually a lot of good quality talks in Singapore, many famous people from all over the world come here to deliver their ideas and many are for free or charge just a small fee. I think many organizations are doing a good job for organizing events like this.
@charmlenile (387)
•
27 Jul 10
My greatest fear is to speak in front of everybody for I fear that they are smarter than me or more educated than me and powerful businessperson they can chat confidently.It boils me down and my toes is shaking but once I told myself that they are no smarter blah blah! I just said to myself nobody gets to the top alone. And confidently maybe I have it all to captured the hearts and conquered the mind of hundred people and they are just only human being like me. why should I be afraid. I just did what I have to do and the best thing is nobody disagree that time and its flatters me I overcome everything.
@bluemoonpavilion (4658)
• Singapore
27 Jul 10
If you have the conviction for a certain topic I'm sure you can overcome all that fear and speak well.
Sometimes this attitude of "mind over matter" does work, and once you start the words flowing, the rest of it would be easier. Next time you will perform even better with the prior experience.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Jul 10
hi bluemoonpavilion yes public speaking is my worst fear, a small group
not too bad but anything else I get so frantic and my legs want to
buckle and my hands are sweaty and my throat starts to dry up, and just croak out words. no c annot do it, just cannot do it at all. I will do
anything to avoid having to speak all alone in front of a bunch of people.Getting married was no big deal either.
@bluemoonpavilion (4658)
• Singapore
27 Jul 10
Hi Hatley,
I know that feeling, the same thing happens to me everytime I have to speak out at some function, even if it's to direct questions at a speaker on stage. I know this fear is somehow irrational but it is a natural reaction of the body.
@saqibhassan (12)
• Pakistan
27 Jul 10
yes i guess you are right because these are the most common fears of all time
@bluemoonpavilion (4658)
• Singapore
27 Jul 10
It's surprising to know how many of us fear the same thing.
@shockrayz (199)
•
27 Jul 10
Yeah, i know that. Someone told me that, my teacher I think. Lack of confidence has become a great fear.
@bluemoonpavilion (4658)
• Singapore
27 Jul 10
Yes, lack of confidence seems to be the original sin here. I guess it could be built up through lots of practice.
@bluemoonpavilion (4658)
• Singapore
27 Jul 10
I suppose this fear comes from us being too conscious of ourselves and wanting to present ourselves in the best light. We get worried how we look or sound like to an audience be they two or twenty.
@carpediem17 (1315)
• Singapore
26 Jul 10
i think my greatest fear is losing my physical capacity so much so that i am dependent on another.
@bluemoonpavilion (4658)
• Singapore
26 Jul 10
Now that you mentioned this, I'm scared too. I remember when I had a fracture in my foot and I was in crutches, I was so helpless and had to rely everything on my family, even doing a simple task like getting a cup of water because I need both hands to hold the crutches and I sort of hop around, so it's impossible to keep water intact in the cup if I carry it around.
