Rejected!

You have to continue friendship with him. You only saying that he is your friend, you put this many months ago. I think now you both are very good friends. You know, one of my friend is now in contact with his school mate his close friend. She also very excited about this.

If i were you, you should. Your ex probably laughing at you. Being cold and rejected your friend request on FB is a sign of he's no longer interested to be friends with you. Maybe your ex was hurt when you broke up with him 7 years ago and these are his simple ways to get back at you. More on "ego" thing. He may no longer have feelings for you but he wants you to feel the feeling of being rejected. Or perhaps he doesn't want any connection with you or with his ex's. There are people who prefer to be like that. I also don't want to be friend with my ex's even though i initiated the break ups.

Yes, you should just stop. Why not just ask him about being just friends? Sounds like he either has some bad feeling or it could be he is ina relationship right now and she is uncomfortable with you and him being friends.

I think that there becomes a time when we need to respect others feeling and just move on. I don't know what the reason for the ex situation was but I think that sometimes people are not as open to 'just being friends' especially when they are men have egos the size of a small planet! Move on! There is a reason why he is in your past.

I am sorry to hear that Ingkingderders, his message is straightforward, he doesn't want to be friends with you. Maybe you remind him of the past ? It's better you don't look forward to a friendship with him, it would be for the good of you both. Had it been with me, i would have done the same as he.

Sorry you have experienced this but you should take this as several signs. For starters why type of friend would this person be future wise if he can't even be courteous enough to even send you a PM giving you his reasons. There are perhaps many reasons why he is not accepting, he could have a very jealous significant other or better yet his significant other could have access to his account and is the one rejecting the invite. You just never know, as I know my sister does that all the time. Apparently this re-encountered friendship is not going to happen on facebook so I wold suggest that you leave it fate, what is going to be is going to be. This life is not so big as we think if it is meant to be you will perhaps run into each other at some point and well then your friendship can resume then. I would say well you already attempted so if he is at some point interested he will seek you out someday and if not well sometimes we just can't go back in time.

of course you should stop and not keep yourself open for more hurt. and embarassment its possible that he has a new partner that just is jealous and dont want him talking/communicating with others. or perhaps his hurt is still there from the break up.

hi ingkinderders, this type of thing happend to me also,i have a close friend some 25 years back,due to some abuse to him from me,he left me and never turned out to me,when ever i meet him,he gives limited answer and escape from me,recently he was retired from police department,but he never troubled me in any aspect from the beginning,i still feel due to my negligence and unwanted behavier i have lost his friend ship,have a nice day

Yes you should. Perhaps he has a wife, or future wife, and he wants to be totally committed to her, and thus does not want to bring up something that might be a threat to that. On the other hand, it is possible that he for whatever reasons, doesn't want to remember the past, and you bring up not-so-great memories or something. Finally, it could simply be that he is immature about the breakup between you two, and is angry at you over it. Maybe you hurt his pride, and he is still holding it against you all these years later. Alternatively it could simply be that he's a jerk. People change, especially after college when they have to face the real world. 7 years is a long time. Maybe he is flat out a jerk now, and you just didn't know it. My suggestion would be, never press for something someone else doesn't want. He doesn't want to be friends. Pushing it will only aggravate him. Instead, be as friendly as you can when he's around, but do nothing more. If he comes around, great. Otherwise, do not make matters worse.

I am a guy. I'd say you STOP it. the coldness i believe is indeed giving a strong message for you to stop. you have to respect that people may have go on, but what if the feelings are still there. feelings of still anger or love that he's trying his best to forget. am sure he didn't forget the good times, but his response to your friends request sure has strong message that he just didn't want to built that Bridge back with you..even as friends. You don't need to ask that, he's just being polite, don't wait for him to start being rude.

You should have long time ago. The cold responses to your IM and email messages are already clear indications that he DOESN'T WANT TO BE FRIEND WITH YOU. That he wanted to move on with his life without you on the picture even if it just a platonic relationship. You can't blame the guy. May be you have hurt him so badly that being continuously in touch with you would mean difficulties for him to move on. So let the poor guy be in peace. You can have other friends. Don't push yourself on him too far. Rejecting your request is just another way of telling you to stop. So, there's no question about that, just stop for PEte's sakes....

Yes, I think that you should stop. You cant really do anything about it. Maybe he was just so hurt that he doesn't want to communicate with you again. Or maybe something else. But i think it is a sign that you should stop.

As you said you were good friends in college before you were having that relationship, at least you know him. Maybe you have an idea why he keeps on rejecting you and he doesn't want any kind of communication with you. I guess there's a good reason behind why he doing it and I think, the way he reacted you should stop.

I know how you feel. All you can do is just leave it and forget about it. He's an ex, something of the past. I suggest you don't take it to heart, if he wanted to talk to you he would have accepted. He's moved on and may not be interested in being friends with an ex. On the other hand you could send him a direct message and ask how he is and if he'd like to get back in contact again. Only do this if you really REALLY miss him / want to talk to him though.

i would say just leave it alone. I would not want to be friends with anyone who didn't want to be friends with me. I mean it's his choice and he has choosen to not be friends. You have to respect that and move on

Why do you want to be friends when it is simply impossible from his behaviour. Let him go and I am sure both of you will be happier. Since he is not willing to retain the friendship, I am sure he has his reasons and I am sure he will wish you can respect his decision. Personally, I feel you will. No point pressing on. Let go and move on, friend. I am sure you can make it.

Perhaps you still have a feeling for him and he might have notice that in your emails and conversations when you cross paths. And his coldness only means 'please stop'. Sorry, but just ignore him and let him go.

I think you should stop, I mean you've done your part already and he is not responding to it. He may have a reason for his actions, and you must respect that, though your only intentions are good for the both of you. Just let it go, you'll see if he really wants to be friends with you again he will be the one approaching you. He already knew your intentions so if he wants it he'll grab it. Just give him time or the decision to acknowledge you. I too, I'm anxious of asking my ex-boyfriend to be friends with me again after so many years of having no communication cause I'm afraid of this kind of rejection you're experiencing right now. We didn't ended our relationship well so I'm afraid he might refuse any invitations coming from me, which I'm avoiding the most cause I'm sure his refusal would still bring some kind of pain in my heart. You doing what you did to reconcile your friendship with your ex is truly amazing and I salute you for it, you're one brave lady and very kind indeed.

I think you should stop. You have tried to be friends and he obviously doesn't want to respond. You say you were friends first, but after getting intimate things change. He may feel you don't have much in common anymore. However, you said you work together, so you have that if nothing else. A lot of his attitude may stem from how you ended the relationship. One of my ex's is on facebook also. I don't want to be friends with him, I just wanted to see his picture and what he looks like now. It was in high school, so we have both changed a lot.

Sometimes it is best to just leave people in the past even though you attempt to be friends, they just hold on to the past and are unable to move on. It is the most difficult thing, my ex broke up and told me she hoped that we could be friends and after like two months of being broken up she just deleted me from facebook so sometimes you just can't be friends even though you make an effort. You have to let them come to you and just keep being a good person, be there for them when they need you one day.