Love out of pity...

Yes. There was a point in my life that I came to giving up on my boyfriend. He was jobless and he had so much issues and hang ups in life that greatly affected our relationship, hurt me so much. I thought of leaving him but then he begged me not to, so I stayed. Despite of what I'd been through with him, pains and heartaches, I just couldn't leave him so easily. He had no friends here (he's a promdi), no job, and no home. Plus, the fact that I felt responsible for him.also, I couldn't let him give up that easily too. He had so much confidence in himself and I didn't want him to doubt that. I didn't want him to leave the city and went back to the province thinking he failed here. So I endured his gayish whims. Cooking for him, washing his dirty clothes and even too careful not to boss him around because I did not want him to think that I do not respect him. In short, I was careful not to trigger the insecurities inside him. I thought, I love him. Maybe, yes. But I can live without him. I may have loved him that much but it was more of a pity for him that prompted me to stood by him that time. And I'm glad I did because he already found his niche in the city. On the other hand, if my husband will keep me because of pity, I will not forgive him. He hurt me enough. I hope he will have the heart to not insult me by pitying me. Besides, I deserve to be happy. Pitying me will only make me miserable and depriving me (and himself) the chance to be happy with someone else. It is not fair. You will know if it is nothing more than just pity. You will feel it. No warm touches anymore, even not bother to know if you are still doing ok or not, and everything you do seems mechanical, a boring routine of purely obligations because you are feeling responsible for that person. There could never be as painful and as humiliating as being pitied upon.... I hope my husband will be honest with me even just for once if he feels this way towards me...

There are many people that stay in relationships for one reason or another and yes even out of pity. Sometimes it's not as such pity as it is the need to try to make things work. If your partner stands in the way of you living a fulfilling life, you need to leave right away life’s too short. All relationships require some amount of compromise, but giving up the possibility for happiness is not part of the deal. Many people find themselves staying simply for their partner’s benefit. This is a mistake: It’s not only unfair to you, it’s unfair to your partner, who deserves someone that truly wants to be with him or her. Maybe you’re “just waiting for the right time.” But there is never a good time to break up: There is almost always pain and discomfort involved. That persistent delay is your mind’s way of avoiding the pain and hardship of breaking up. Down the road, you may experience acute regret for the time you wasted.

If you carry on with a relationship out of pity you will change the way you behave. relations will not remain the same. Only true love will be able to understand things.

I think some people don't even realize they stay with someone out of pity until that person hurts them first. I've seen it happen before and I still don't fully understand it really. I've never personally done this so I couldn't offer a story or anything but I've seen some of my old friends do this and never really cared about the situation until it came to its breaking point.

loving out of pity is so much wrong, even though it's to avoid heartaches. doing this will just arose to guilt, foolishness not just for yourself but also to the person that you know deserves a better relationship than what you are already sharing. And the worst of it may lead to hatred. Truth will set you free, let us not be a selfish to ourselves and to others.