Having a distant Best Friend
By oxyde_gyabo
@oxyde_gyabo (701)
Philippines
July 26, 2010 11:22am CST
I've been distant with a best friend because she is living in another country. She also had been very busy in her studies because part of the lessons at school she has is practical application and on-the-job training.
I fear that this 'distance' gets longer and I don't want to lose the relationship I had with her because we're like sisters in high school. I miss her so much and it's been awhile since I last talked to her and seen her. Almost a year perhaps.
The distance is so strong that she doesn't even know yet about my love life blossoms, the contests I've joined (and lost where she was always there to cheer me up)and the recent interests I've got (like mylot).
I also never heard of anything about her life at school, at Malaysia(where she is) because my night classes and her morning classes clashes our free time.
I miss her and I haven't got messages for a while. Please give me some helpful advices.
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3 responses
@choconut (297)
• Philippines
10 Aug 10
just trust in her, that's all you could do. Besides friendship isn't measure on how much you spend with each other, its measure with the care and trust you give one another, if you guys are really best friend don't be afraid, because you'll always have that bondage.
I have a best friend, we met on the 4th grade, and we instantly became best friends. The following year, we spend most of our time with other people. since we're not on the same class anymore, but we always see to it that we eat lunch together. That continued until we were in our last year in high school. In our college days, we weren't talking most of the time, at first we talk once every week, until it became once in a month until it became less and less. But you know what? every time we see or talk with each other, its as if we just talk and see each other yesterday. We don't feel any awkwardness or anything, because we believe that we're bonded with our love for each other. Don't get me wrong, we're both girls (straight), and the love that i'm talking about is the love between sisters.
Just believe and trust in her. God bless (",)
@oxyde_gyabo (701)
• Philippines
14 Aug 10
That's really a sweet friendship. It feels great to have a best friend that we love like a sister. I don't feel awkward when we meet once a year because when we see each other we always start a conversation we had over the net about our interests and favorite events. I believe that our bond is true and strong and even distance won't break it. Thank you so much for the supportive comment, I feel much better knowing that I have to put trust in her and I am also responsible for the trust she has with me.
@vijaisrirangan (103)
• India
30 Jul 10
it is really pathetic to have our best friend in distant. we cant see them, we can talk to them much easily, we cant share our togetherness.. its realy sad to have a such situation.
oxyde... i missing you tooo.. we two also separated geographiclly, but mylotis our groud where we play togehter.
@oxyde_gyabo (701)
• Philippines
14 Aug 10
aw, thank you. I also feel like I was gone for so long I missed you and everyone I've known in mylot. Although we are separated geographically, at least we can still communicate through the net. It is sad though because we may never see each other actually but at least we are still friends even at this condition. ^_^
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
27 Jul 10
I live in Europe and one of my close friends lives in Japan. It is also my experience that it can be hard to stay in touch when you are far away from eachother and you are both busy. Because of the time difference and our different activities it is difficult to chat or talk on the phone, but we usually write some long letters instead. It is not the same as talking to her, but it is a nice way to stay in touch.
In our letters we write about our lives and sometimes we write a lot. If I am very busy I don't always finish the letter or the email the same day, instead I write something every day, and when I finish the email I send it to her. We also exchange small presents every once in while.
@oxyde_gyabo (701)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
That sounds nice being able to stay in touch and send letters and gifts once in a while with your best friend. Me and my closest friends, there are five of us where one is in Malaysia, made letters where we put random things that will make her cry and laugh. And we kept in touch by sometimes posting a comment on her facebook and when we find ourselves online together, we'll be in front of the computer for hours. But that was when we first entered college. Today, there are harder projects that usually she can't find the time to use the net. I hope I'd get the feeling of exchanging letters with her like you. Thank you for sharing Procospino :)
