Can you ever be too comfortable?

smartie0317, Love per se isn't some mutually exclusive entity living on its own dimension - in fact, it's very much interwoven with one's life. I see this as two possibilities: 1. You are naturally weak in communication, self expression and delivery (Mercury-detrimental). 2. Your lackluster life doesn't give you enough variety to keep conversation going. And chances are, it's likely to be a mix of both because these two pointers are highly intertwined. Personality trait can be an acquired skill if you reiterate enough to behavior to infuse it as part of your core value. But you must first understand where this defect lies and if you are equipped with the strength and wisdom to strike out and start a human revolution. A dull person is languid because the way they lead their life probably doesn't give them the opportunity to expand on human interaction. These people are likely to invest their time in solitary activities that usually doesn't require much personal interaction between people. And the flourish of internet probably worsens this issue, if people start reckoning that it's a good substitute for reality. Love is not a miracle that dissolves all problems into nothingness; ironically, being in Love is like looking into a magical mirror of truth: it expose all our inner negativity and coerced us to face directly with our weakness, especially our personality. Only through the eyes of Love, would we understand how much 'defects' we have developed unconsciously over the years. A person who doesn't know how to speak must learn to challenge himself/herself to talk. Albeit he/she might not be the best speaker, but at the very least, he/she learns to speak, which is paramount to one's spiritual growth. The growth doesn't lies with the ability to speak, but rather, the notion of having to surmount his weakness. A dull life is but a transitory condition that can be shattered by having to invest your life, effort and time into something more worthwhile that could enhance your personality and life, especially if it involves an assembly of people, in which one must interact in such social setting. One can be insipid, but one doesn't have to accept the fate of a dull life. For everyday, there's always 24 hours for all. The difference between one from another is the time used by them individually. In summary: one cannot be a dull person that is interesting or an interesting person that is dull. Being in love doesn't make you an interesting person automatically - if your current life doesn't allow you the condition to be interesting, you will always feel inadequate in conversation because your vocabulary is limited. Be motivated always.

That depends on how you are willing to trust him and also depends on how deep your relationship is. If you are new to a relationship and decided to be too comfortable with each other, chances are you both appreciate and learn to accept each other OR you tend to dislike him/her once you discover who your partner really is. My partner is already my husband so it's okay to get comfortable with him because the idea is "for better or for worst" right? but during the girlfriend/boyfriend stage, I really make it up to the point that I want to show who I really am with my partner, in this way I can be comfortable him and also it is for me to check if my partner really wants me nd love me for who I really am and not limiting myself just to impress my partner or whatever. If you are really too comfortable with your boyfriend then you can discuss anything with him. Try to solve this issue you have with him. ^.^ good luck!

I think there is a level of comfortable that everyone wants in a relationship. The kind where you can sit in silence but both of you are okay with it. The kind where you feel you can totally be yourself and the other will accept you for who you are. But at the same time, you don't want to be so comfortable that you take your partner for granted. You need to always continue to show your partner that you want them there and you care about them.

It really happens sometimes that we get too comfortable with our boyfriends/partners. But, I realized, the best way to shake off that feeling is to engage in challenging activities where both of you would feel compelled to go out of your comfort zones. Just an example, when we date before, we just usually hang out, watch movies or go shopping. One day, I decided to take him running in a 5K race. And, we felt good afterwards.

yes it does. I am too liberal. When my wife says " that guy is handsome" i dont fell jealous as i trust her. This could make her feel that i dont love her. I nver used to stop or ask her if she is going out with her friends. This could cuse problems in the long run. We need to show from time to time that we love our partner.

Hello Smartie. Yes I think people can be too comfortable in a relationship. If we're too comfortable we start to take the other person for granted then start to neglect the relationship thinking everything is fine. i think a relationship works best when we feel that we have to keep working at it :)

Do you mean too comfortable as in you are in the shower and he comes in and goes to the bathroom? Or you guys pass gas around each other? Or you've stopped getting dressed up for each other? Well it depends on how long you two have been together. Once you get married to someone and after some years and kids these things are normal. There aren't really any secrets. You see each other naked and at your worst but you still love each other. If you and your boyfriend haven't been together long then maybe he is just a slob. If you have been together a few years and live together this just means you are comfortable enough with each other to be yourself. I've been dating my boyfriend less than a year, we don't live together but I used to tease him about how horrible I will look in the morning when my makeup is off and my hair is all wild. He doesn't care, neither do I. He is just happy to see me in the morning when I stay over. You just get used to being able to be yourself around someone. If you never do, after years of being together, then you are not comfortable around them and you probably have trust issues.