Thoughts on having children before marriage..

Some couple feel that having family together is a strong commitment each other and than marriage ever could be but other desire and security of a weeding before taking into next step in their relationship.so what do you think?

I'm one of those people...its wrong, but think of it this way...it'll be worse if they just had the baby aborted, right?

I don't believe in it for myself, but I won't stand in judgment against other people for doing it. I was born out of wedlock myself and I don't think it's negatively affected me. I also don't look down on my parents because of it.

Before marriage, its the time to understand each other, not for kids.

It is difficult to have children before marriage because I think it would be a bed idea for me personally.I am not in any hurry to have children and therefore definitely want to wait until well after i am married.However,it might work for some people,and if so,then that is just great.

i don't see any thing wrong with it. but if you are a good father and mother it don't matter marriage isn't for everyone.

Well, there is not a law saying you cannot have children if you do not have a marriage certificate. From my point of view, I think it is absolutely normal with a premise that you assure the baby a daddy. Some couples will have some dificulties getting married before the child is delivered. You cannot just hold it until that piece of paper reaches you. Seriously, it is very difficult to have a baby alone, therefore, you would better have baby before marriage with someone you are sure he is responsoble with the newborn.

Of course having a baby outside marriage is not ideal, but people nowadays are having children before marriage. I am nothing against these people because they have reasons for doing that. I can't also blame them because it really requires to have a lot of money so that a couple can be legally lived together and have a family of their own. But in my own point of view, it would better for your future kids that their parents are really married before having them.

I feel that marriage is not only for the enjoyment but also to perpetuate our generation to generation. Having children and enjoy the success is their main aim. Every couple like to have 1 or 2 child.

I too agree with you for this kind of thoughts. Yes it true having a children before marriage is not good for you or for your children in future. They will be look down by society,friends and relatives too. they will live be having a miserable life. Yes I do have experienced on that because my friend born a baby before marriage, she was having problem today. Everyone dominated her. Actually it was not made by people its nature but society is so strict we have to follow anyhow.